New and a little skeptical

[Questor]

You can advertise on Craigslist or check out SugarDaddy site?

Very good suggestion. The OP may want to do a search on sugardaddy here on terb. There is lots of advise on how to approach that.

I am going to be honest and say that there are many facets to this and no one answer will be the correct one as it will be a sum of varying fractions combining all of the answers to create the whole answer for yourself.

Very well said. You made many good points in your post, which I have not pasted here for brevity. But the one above is probably the most true.

I am being very honest and sincere, not bitter. From the poster's description of himself, he will likely treat any sp very well, eventually get attached, fall in love or at least yearn to be with a particular sp he has seen too often, and in the end, get frustrated at the impossibility of having a relationship with her.

My apologies if I misrepresented you as bitter. That was my impression from your first post. Yes, I understood what you meant by $8000 for sex 12 times. Perhaps it wasn't clear to others.

Your subsequent post makes more very good points which I can agree with. The OP may well experience the sex for money industry as you describe, but I don't know that I would say that it is likely. For sure he needs to be careful with the expectations he described. Maybe you should start a poll to see how many Terb posters regret ever having started paying by the hour. I see the occasional poster in the Lounge that is very disallusioned, but far more posters in the incall section that are very happy with their experience.

 

[einar]

The simple hobbying answer is to see an escort for longer than sixty minutes. Try a 2-hour appointment. But that's $500 for a quick date. I think you'd do better just cultivating friendships with regular women and see where they lead. That's free and easy.

Frugal Einar

 

[something11]

As long as I am here I want to share.. I am SP and I had quite a few clients who were looking exactly such kind of a..."relationships". Long appointments, traveling, dinner-dates and so on... I decided to have them because i also don't have any private life for a moment for personal reasons so I could have both in a completion. Its also less work for more money... I have to say that in most cases I were have to stop this in a way that guy would be hurt and I would feel myself as total bitch. Also I totally realize that responsibility for us to go over the boarder in almost 100% of the cases is mutual, because I didn't charge them so crazy like normal SP maybe its my fault as made them think I got some feelings.. But when I hear - do you ever think of me as you boyfriend, or when I start getting annoying texts/calls few times a day, or when guy says that he thinks he is the closest person I had... But he was actually just work... I feel so broken inside and end up right there... So don't know if for guy like you its really a good decision, as you sound like a decent one and this can end up not as easy as it begins.

 

[Geokath]

...but my moral compass tells me that once I cross the line of paying a woman for sex I will lose my perspective on real relationships.

...not to nit pick....but....both types of relationship being discussed here (emotional vs business) are real relationships. Structured differently to be sure, but real.

The only way to know if it's a life-enriching path or one leading to misery is to go down it...and the only one who can decide is you...

Good luck to you in whatever you decide!

 

[freestuff]

...my moral compass tells me that once I cross the line of paying a woman for sex I will lose my perspective on real relationships.

Yes you will.
Check this out: https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?336730-falling-in-love
And this one: https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?336387-Question-for-the-guys-with-wives-girlfriends...

 

[bowser]

I've had a successful arrangement experience before having a GF and it was a blast. She just turned me on so much and it was fun getting to know her as well. Unfortunately all good things come to an end. No regrets.

You will end up being phased, so be warned. Take the pill, life's too short only if you can afford it an be descrete.

 

[sleazure]

Am I just not meant for this?

No, you are not ready yet. When you are ready, you will know you are ready. Until then, stick to dirty books and net.pR0n.

 

[lamkam]

Yes you will.
Check this out: https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?336730-falling-in-love
And this one: https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?336387-Question-for-the-guys-with-wives-girlfriends...

Those were quite the eye openers. It seems like the private messages I am getting and the messages on here from males who partake in this "hobby" have a very negative view of it. I came into it concerned with the implication of women being used for sexual purposes, but the picture being painted here is of men being taken advantage of. I am not so sure I follow the logic but it is hard to ignore the fact that so few men have come forward to share a positive aspect of the business.

Edit - I just noticed after posting that I used the word "business". I think I am definitely getting a better understanding of what this really is. I think people like myself who are not familiar with it have this perception that there are a lot of emotions involved (sex is intimate) but the clear message here seems to be that it is a business - no different than going to your mechanic to address your needs (car`s needs in that example).

 

[freestuff]

Those were quite the eye openers. It seems like the private messages I am getting and the messages on here from males who partake in this "hobby" have a very negative view of it. I came into it concerned with the implication of women being used for sexual purposes, but the picture being painted here is of men being taken advantage of. I am not so sure I follow the logic but it is hard to ignore the fact that so few men have come forward to share a positive aspect of the business.

Edit - I just noticed after posting that I used the word "business". I think I am definitely getting a better understanding of what this really is. I think people like myself who are not familiar with it have this perception that there are a lot of emotions involved (sex is intimate) but the clear message here seems to be that it is a business - no different than going to your mechanic to address your needs (car's needs in that example).

I see this "hobby" like smoking -- you know it's bad for you and you wouldn't want your son to do the same (follow your footsteps) but you're too weak to stop and it feels good while you're doing it so you keep going even though afterwards you regret it. At least that's how I feel. Others might tell you it's the greatest thing ever.
Yeah, this is a business for the girls. They are not looking for love/companionship/a genuine relationship. They want your money. Are they being used for sexual purposes? Of course. We, johns, pay money for their bodies. But I think you're really asking whether they are being forced into this business against their will? Well, no one can answer that question for ALL SPs. A lot of SPs on this board do it freely. Do they enjoy? Maybe. Maybe not. But they can stop if they want. However, there are SPs out there who have pimps who force them to work against their will. And then there's human trafficking. But that's a whole different can of worms.
As for men being taken advantage of -- those are the men who don't understand the limitations of this "hobby."

 

[Madeline Rhodes]

Very well said. You made many good points in your post, which I have not pasted here for brevity. But the one above is probably the most true.

Thank you. I thought for a bit before posting it but I felt it needed to be said. All of it.

Honestly, sometimes I wish I had a penis so I could hobby like you fellas....

Oh heck yes! +1 here... Oh and that is precisely why duo's are fabulous. The best of both worlds!

 

[MPAsquared]

I'd say, find someone u really enjoy. Dont fall in love. Keep it simple.

Oh, and MP's are a good place to start

 

[JT13]

Those were quite the eye openers. It seems like the private messages I am getting and the messages on here from males who partake in this "hobby" have a very negative view of it. I came into it concerned with the implication of women being used for sexual purposes, but the picture being painted here is of men being taken advantage of. I am not so sure I follow the logic but it is hard to ignore the fact that so few men have come forward to share a positive aspect of the business.

Edit - I just noticed after posting that I used the word "business". I think I am definitely getting a better understanding of what this really is. I think people like myself who are not familiar with it have this perception that there are a lot of emotions involved (sex is intimate) but the clear message here seems to be that it is a business - no different than going to your mechanic to address your needs (car's needs in that example).

If you haven't been scared off yet, I would suggest you start with an Indy.
Plenty to choose from here, and you can speak with them beforehand to get a gauge to see if you click. That way you can narrow your options down quite a bit, and perhaps visit a few of the ladies and you can decide who's company you enjoy the most.

As einar suggested, you may also prefer to book longer, so you can have a longer 'get to know you' period before you get more intimate. Some of the higher-end Indy's only book multi-hour sessions because of this. I don't know what kind of budget you're looking at, but that is a possibility you could look at.

 

[GG2]

If I ever willingly pay to talk to a girl, I hope a friend will shoot me in the back of the head, then skull fuck me in the bullet hole.

 

[Sniper Jr.]

Those were quite the eye openers. It seems like the private messages I am getting and the messages on here from males who partake in this "hobby" have a very negative view of it. I came into it concerned with the implication of women being used for sexual purposes, but the picture being painted here is of men being taken advantage of. I am not so sure I follow the logic but it is hard to ignore the fact that so few men have come forward to share a positive aspect of the business.

Edit - I just noticed after posting that I used the word "business". I think I am definitely getting a better understanding of what this really is. I think people like myself who are not familiar with it have this perception that there are a lot of emotions involved (sex is intimate) but the clear message here seems to be that it is a business - no different than going to your mechanic to address your needs (car's needs in that example).

So after lurking on this board for a year and a half, you're basing your opinion of the industry on some PMs you've supposedly received in response to your bullshit post?

 

[trod]

I totally understand the state of mind you are in.

The moral compass will go a bit hazy after you finish the appointment with a lady. Heck it will feel weird ( to a certain level ) during and before the meeting. There will be many thoughts that will go through your brain but the most important thing to remember is that in the end, its an illusion of intimacy.

If you are prepared to understand that whatever connection you make with a SP, it will ultimately be less than a GF all things considered.

Alternatively, think of it this way. What if you had an emotional and physical connection with a great girl who you had a very good relationship with for say 2-3 years and suddenly she left you or something happened that tore the relationship down. That would be devastating to any guy/girl. The emotional stress you might go through here would be far more than whatever moral dilemmas you might have once you see a SP.

But its best to walk that path to get to know yourself better both emotionally and physically. It is still possible to view relationships like before. But you will gain a perspective of life that you wouldn't have before and its upto you to absorb it and be ready to be in a frame of mind that doesn't stay lost at the extreme ends of morals.

Its all about striking a balance...some can do it, some can't. But it is worth trying imo.

 

[pogoball112]

So, you want to find a woman you can see regularly, with a connection beyond sex, but still stay single without feeling guilty.

Why not just find a girl who is down with open relationships?
Hits 3 of the 4 criteria (technically you're in a relationship, but its open), while saving you way more $$$ than seeing an MPA/SP for your troubles

 

[JT13]

You also may want to read this review.

Sounds kind of like what you`re looking for.

Make sure you`re able to separate fantasy from reality though.

 

[afterhours]

The simple hobbying answer is to see an escort for longer than sixty minutes. Try a 2-hour appointment. But that's $500 for a quick date. I think you'd do better just cultivating friendships with regular women and see where they lead. That's free and easy.

Frugal Einar

cultivating friendships with regular women is free and easy???

 

[HOF]

If I ever willingly pay to talk to a girl, I hope a friend will shoot me in the back of the head, then skull fuck me in the bullet hole.

Consider it done! There won't be anything left of the head to fuck! LOL