Keep in mind that there have always been some escorts that rather artfully represent themselves as courtesans etc. and do not discuss/publish a menu. As if it is demeaning and beneath their sensibilities. I suspect that many men, like myself, perceive it in some instances as a way of not being up front about a restriction such as, say, DFK, CIM , BBBJ etc.
Going forward, if DFK and BBBJ are a must for me, why on earth would I risk my valuable time, emotions and dollars to show up and find out that they are not available? I can see a certain small (I hope) element of escorts using this to their advantage to provide limited service and collect their full fees.
I will not bother seeing any escort if I am not sure that the services that I require are available. Never have, never will. I am paying a LOT of dollars and spending a lot of my time for a session. If this means seeing fewer escorts in the new C-36 landscape then I am fine with that.
I really didn't explain myself very well. I am sorry. Going back and re-reading, I see where you felt the way you do.
I know exactly where you are coming from and I completely understand and support it. I am partially happy for this bill because gentlemen like yourself will be forced to communicate and research more and hopefully that will lead to fewer misses and more hits with great providers. Communicating more with each other will assist greatly with the now no menu advertising.
For me, for my reasons entering this industry are a little different then the norm. Form my personal repertoire of fun activities that I enjoy, I know menu will not be an issue. I would have been considered GFE/PSE before C36. I am not a YMMV type of girl and I was fearful of how I would express what is in my bag of tricks and treats. As I am not entering this industry for the same reasons that most others do, I have expectations of my own from clientele. Strange to some I know, but I need to enjoy myself as well. DFK would be a deal breaker for me too, so I completely understand where you are coming. For me that means I have an expectation of my client to be a non-smoker because I will not session without DFK and I will not lick an astray either.
Also, PSE for me that would entail anal pleasures of different varieties. I would not expect this from clients and because of the nature of some of the games that could be had, I will not always be able to partake in those PSE style activities. So I would never had advertised as a PSE. Just a GFE. Then when exploring each other, we would find out together if that was something we would both enjoy. It would of course never be an upsell, just the natural flow of two people wrapped in sheets and having fun. This would also go some of the light BDSM activities I personally enjoy.
For me personally, I would never want to be picked as a companion simply because a person wants a certain service. I want to be picked as a companion because that client feels we would make great company together. Then once contact is made, we can see if that extends to others things that would be deal breakers for either of us. Being a woman, I like a little flirting, courting and conversation before encounters. I like a personal connection of some kind. I know that would mean less clients as well and I am happy with that. Going forward, I am looking for a gentlemen who enjoys pleasing a woman as much as I enjoy pleasing a man. A man who truly appreciates the softness of a woman’s heart, body and soul therefore wanting to explore every inch of it. I would prefer to find clients who know that I want to worship him because I choose him to be my companion and not because of the donation he leaves me later as an appreciate to my TLC. I do not want to be choose because he has cash and needs a release. I am not a simply a release. I am a woman.
I have done some things to assist me and future clients going forward. Because I can not list services and most men will be nervous requesting my service "menu" as I am an unknown. I have met some leading industry ladies that I can at least give as reference to ensure for gentlemen that I am not LE. I will then have to reply on any future clients being willing to share their experience to affirm for men like yourself that your break breakers are indeed not an issue with me. I do feel for men going forward as I agree, there was clearly a miss use of the menu system before in attempts to lure men in knowing that certain services requested were not offered and therefore SPs just referred to the YMMV rule. Now with no menu being listed, I agree some will continue to misuse it as a way to be restrictive. I do not envy the task ahead to ensure quality professional companions.
I hope that explains it a bit better. I would never want a gentlemen to waste his time, money and emotions with this hobby.
