New Year already off to a shitty start

[stinkynuts]

Thanks for your advice. I guess wishing a friend or family member happy new year is not a big deal to some, but for me it is. I didn't initiate any phone callls or emails this years to see how many people would do so first. Not a single one. I think each person has a different reason, from it not being a big deal, to not being close to me anymore, to be being too busy.

stinkynuts, relationships take work, even among family. I don't know your relationships with your family and friends so it is difficult to speculate about it. But, did you send any of them Happy New Year greetings? Did they reply? Often it pays to be the first one to open up, rather than just wait for good things to happen. And, during the rest of the year, it pays to keep in touch. Do you send them birthday greetings? Do you see them for dinners or whatever through the year? I am not trying to beat you up, please don't take it like that, but not knowing your situation its hard to help, and that's all I'm trying to do. Often, single guys get left out of stuff, because its typically the woman in a relationship who remembers all those little things (typically, not always) so with no SO, single guys can be left out of that whole loop of wives talking to sisters talking to mothers etc. There are very very very few of my close guy friends with whom I swap holiday greetings. In fact, among my closest 5, none of us are into that. Doesn't mean we aren't still buds. With family, I tend to send notes and greetings to the women; my brother, as much as he might love me, could not care less about wishing me a Happy New Year, and I don't care that he doesn't care! We're still buds. Anyhow, the point of all that is that you often have to be the initiator in order to stay in the loop.

And just because they didn't send you a text or an email on a particular day doesn't mean they don't love you.

 

[hunter001]

Thanks for your advice. I guess wishing a friend or family member happy new year is not a big deal to some, but for me it is. I didn't initiate any phone callls or emails this years to see how many people would do so first. Not a single one. I think each person has a different reason, from it not being a big deal, to not being close to me anymore, to be being too busy.

Forgive me if I am incorrect. Doesn't your family celebrate New Year's on a different date? (i.e. Different calender.)

Perhaps you family/friends are waiting for you to call. It doesn't matter who initiates the call, as long as there are people out there that you care about.

The rest of the stuff you could examine your behaviors... Gambling the parents money away at the casino, not paying attention to traffic signs, driving without a license. (Leave your I.D. in the car during an in-call, not at home if you need it.) Leave your vehicle permit in the car (the only place you really need it).

You might embrace 2009 as a year to learn to examine your behaviors, decide which behaviors are counter productive, and make positive changes. I know I have too I just don't air my dirty laundry on TERB.

 

[alex52]

stinkynuts, relationships take work, even among family. I don't know your relationships with your family and friends so it is difficult to speculate about it. But, did you send any of them Happy New Year greetings? Did they reply? Often it pays to be the first one to open up, rather than just wait for good things to happen. And, during the rest of the year, it pays to keep in touch. Do you send them birthday greetings? Do you see them for dinners or whatever through the year? I am not trying to beat you up, please don't take it like that, but not knowing your situation its hard to help, and that's all I'm trying to do. Often, single guys get left out of stuff, because its typically the woman in a relationship who remembers all those little things (typically, not always) so with no SO, single guys can be left out of that whole loop of wives talking to sisters talking to mothers etc. There are very very very few of my close guy friends with whom I swap holiday greetings. In fact, among my closest 5, none of us are into that. Doesn't mean we aren't still buds. With family, I tend to send notes and greetings to the women; my brother, as much as he might love me, could not care less about wishing me a Happy New Year, and I don't care that he doesn't care! We're still buds. Anyhow, the point of all that is that you often have to be the initiator in order to stay in the loop.

And just because they didn't send you a text or an email on a particular day doesn't mean they don't love you.

Sound advice.

 

[basketcase]

New years means nothing. It's just an excuse to get together with friends and loved ones but that can be done any time. My biggest problem with New Years is the people who over-hype and expect too much out of it to actually enjoy it or get depressed because they don't have someone special.

I did have a good new years though hanging out with a few friends though my 'sleeping arrangements' might have caused some complications. Oh well, it was still fun.

 

[ig-88]

the more people there are, the more advanced our technology, the more alone we feel

this was depicted in Edward Hopper's famous painting "Nighthawks" and in his other work

as for the casino, i would suggest staying away from that place all together

 

[rama putri]

Please dont' tell me that the rest of my year is going to be like this.

Use a .44 and spare yourself the rest of the year.

 

[Hangman]

I know I have too I just don't air my dirty laundry on TERB.

Not a bad lesson at all.

 

[chateau]

Use a .44 and spare yourself the rest of the year.

While we are giving him some advice.....
Save some money while your at it and rent the gun instead of buying it

 

[JohnLarue]

i lost 6,000 on the hawks at the winter classic.

you bet $6,000 on an potiential outcome over which you had no control?
If your income is not in excess of $200K a year you may wish to get help

 

[crystalpalace]

Never heard of it before. Makes me mad just thinking about it. The sign is so small, and it was dark and snowy. Didn't see it at all.

Don't feel too bad. FWIW, I've seen quiet a lot of people getting nailed there. BTW, what happened with the SP?! If it was a problem with the provider I hope you let the board know to avoid this person.