Newbie question, I can't seem to recollect a single SPs face after the deed, why are all incall rooms dimly lit ?

Brightside89

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Is this a me problem? Even just after walking out the room I forget their faces.

Is this by design ? Or SW is better in the dark than in well lit rooms ?
 

Valcazar

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Dimly lit is for more flattering lighting.

The not remembering their faces, though?
That's a you thing, I think.
 
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xix

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Can anyone remember all the faces of women from high school?

IF you forget, it seems you went in for fun and not bonding / connection, just transactional.
If you forget there is something else at play here.
 

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The dimly lit room is to help set the seductive mood and provide a more relaxed atmosphere. That you can't remember her face is on you.

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BillC69

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Typical for Asian agencies...

I usually visit local agencies around noon time...room is usually very bright...
 
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Brightside89

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Can anyone remember all the faces of women from high school?

IF you forget, it seems you went in for fun and not bonding / connection, just transactional.
If you forget there is something else at play here.
I'm afraid its early onset something?
 

xix

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I'm afraid its early onset something?
I am not saying mental sickness, that is later in life.

But let's be honest most people probably don't remember the first person they broke virginity with.

Can a husband remember every sex action with their spouses?
Maybe when they went away if they didn't travel much.

Also the ambience of the room may make a person forget who they saw. It could be anything, and if the person wants know why they forget, they can figure out why they forget so soon.
Could it be stress?
 

Brightside89

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I am not saying mental sickness, that is later in life.

But let's be honest most people probably don't remember the first person they broke virginity with.

Can a husband remember every sex action with their spouses?
Maybe when they went away if they didn't travel much.

Also the ambience of the room may make a person forget who they saw. It could be anything, and if the person wants know why they forget, they can figure out why they forget so soon.
Could it be stress?
I understand that, I'm just thinking if I'm am too desensitized by porn and lighting that I can't seem to register these real world encounters what's strange is i can distinctly remember smells, tastes and feels just not faces.

It's not like that I can take this scenario to my family GP. LOL.
 

xix

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I understand that, I'm just thinking if I'm am too desensitized by porn and lighting that I can't seem to register these real world encounters what's strange is i can distinctly remember smells, tastes and feels just not faces.

It's not like that I can take this scenario to my family GP. LOL.
You could be too desensitized. Yes porn and other stimulus can do that. There were studies where a person only ate the same thing for several weeks that they got sick and couldn't eat it any more and they couldn't sense the taste.

If you expose yourself to magazines, corn channels, strip clubs and so on I can see this happening. You over whelmed yourself or over exposed or overload/ over dose or flatline.

I did Strip clubs every weekend for 5 years, way before Covid 19 got dances from most hot dancers and avoid the not so good looking ones. Some of the not so good looking ones gave bad dances anyways even when I gave it a chance knowing one day the hot ladies would leave the industry. When that happen men talk about withdrawal. I only remember the top 3 dancers ( Alphas) and the other 3 ( Betas ) or so but the bottom tier I cannot recall nor do I want. There were the odd dancers but few from the many. The only reason I remember the few low tier because they gave great dance(s) but left right away.

At work I have a hard time seen women that are not thin, which is what I am used to. Even other places I go to.

Also you could be seeing the same type of women, meaning white blonde instead of the odd Chocolate. What ever your taste is I am guessing here.
Yes you do need stop from ALL SEX medium for 6 weeks to desensitized your brain. Have fun with that
 

Brightside89

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I am not saying mental sickness, that is later in life.

But let's be honest most people probably don't remember the first person they broke virginity with.

Can a husband remember every sex action with their spouses?
Maybe when they went away if they didn't travel much.

Also the ambience of the room may make a person forget who they saw. It could be anything, and if the person wants know why they forget, they can figure out why they forget so soon.
Could it be stress?
It could be stress, I'm newbie to this and I'm usuay stressed about it like 10 mons Into it and only get into groove after the initial shower and a bit later.
 

Brightside89

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You could be too desensitized. Yes porn and other stimulus can do that. There were studies where a person only ate the same thing for several weeks that they got sick and couldn't eat it any more and they couldn't sense the taste.

If you expose yourself to magazines, corn channels, strip clubs and so on I can see this happening. You over whelmed yourself or over exposed or overload/ over dose or flatline.

I did Strip clubs every weekend for 5 years, way before Covid 19 got dances from most hot dancers and avoid the not so good looking ones. Some of the not so good looking ones gave bad dances anyways even when I gave it a chance knowing one day the hot ladies would leave the industry. When that happen men talk about withdrawal. I only remember the top 3 dancers ( Alphas) and the other 3 ( Betas ) or so but the bottom tier I cannot recall nor do I want. There were the odd dancers but few from the many. The only reason I remember the few low tier because they gave great dance(s) but left right away.

At work I have a hard time seen women that are not thin, which is what I am used to. Even other places I go to.

Also you could be seeing the same type of women, meaning white blonde instead of the odd Chocolate. What ever your taste is I am guessing here.
Yes you do need stop from ALL SEX medium for 6 weeks to desensitized your brain. Have fun with that
I'm leaning heavily towards porn desensitization theory as well because I can so clearly remember the pornstars but not the real women I have been with.

A week is doable but 6 weeks is going to be tough ask for me but I'll try , I already go to gym and try 8k steps per day and all that but i use computers an phone for work so it's hard to be away from porn medium.

But I'll try, thanks for the thoughtful response.
 

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Even if the incalls are bright and being so upclose and personal, it's hard for me to remember the faces (especially during the 1st visit). Some have a hard time remembering faces, some have an easy time remembering faces, after I leave the room I don't seem to recollect their faces either. But that doesn't happen to me in personal life. I would also say after a repeat visit (2nd or 3rd), I could definitely remember their faces.
 
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LP191

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Same reason stripper bars are dimly lit lol you don’t want the lights on! Trust me
 
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I may not remember the face. But I can remember if it's one I want to see again, or one that I don't.
 
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