office crush PROBLEM I'm engaged!!

[ethan99]

Mark, nobody deserves that treatment. When you have a sex addiction you seem to put others feelings aside. My hobbying makes me feel aweful and it hurts, but I still really really love my girl. I'm sure a large % of members here have SO's and probably pull the same stunts. Similar to an alcoholic that continues to drink while they destroy the lives around them. (good thing I'm not into drugs or booze!)

As for my crush, that's the part I have problems with. It's the emotional feelings I have with her, hell it already feels like I'm cheating. I can have sex with an SP because I don't give a crap about them, but enter the feelings and thats where the trouble brews. My workplace would probably not think anything of it (the flirting, or thinking I'm a sleeze) and actually now that I think of it, I wouldn't even care.

The crush is so very mesmerizing, but as my last post indicates, I don't think I have the balls to go for it, it's too complicated, work affairs cant work and I'd be caught.

 

[fuji]

I'm married, and I use escorts, and I have a girlfriend, and a mistress, and I go to strip clubs. I may be an extreme case, but I bet the majority of guys who use escorts are married. Lots of people cheat on their wives too. You know what else? Lots of wives cheat on their husbands... who do you think the husbands are cheating with anyway??

The guy might well be ready for marriage.

The problem here is whether he's going to fuck up his work environment. THAT is a real concern.

 

[papasmerf]

First of all office romances are never a good idea. You tend to lay your problems out for all to see. and if the relationship goes bad people will take sides.

You are engauged??????? So marry the girl and commit your dick to her. If you do not you will sooner or later find out how mch 5 short minutes of love can cost you.

 

[canbreathethroughearsmale]

I have no idea how long, how your relationship has been, or how good you get along.

I was in the same situation about 20 years ago. Some girl really liked me, and we got along great as well. We were great friends. I was also great friends with my girlfriend of 4 years. Something changed in that my girlfriend was expecting certain things of me, and instead of working them out, I gave up, and went out with the other girl. It was a great month, but it ended there. Would I do it again, no, because I lost 2 of my best friends within a month and didn't take time to think of what my girlfriend had to say and then work through it.

 

[Rose]

your "big problem"

You want to solve the problem? Stop going out to lunch with her or talking on msn or on breaks--tell her she knows you are engaged and your love your lady--you get too close to fire you are going to get burned and lose what you love the most.

Big problem. I think I'm falling in love with a girl from my office. We hang out all the time, eat lunches, go on breaks, msn, and flirt with each other non-stop.

I know she's into me. she knows I have a GF and that I'm engaged. The crush is so goddamm nice, and really sexy too. yeah, i'm engaged. i'm not sure if i'm just freaked out about marriage, but am really feeling the urge to make a pass at her. I bailed on a work party last week knowing I might move on her. i cannot stop thinking about her

is there ever any happy ending to making out with another girl for a while then living happily ever after?

 

[The Bandit]

You are causing the problem by letting it happen, don't fall for her now, and then regret it later. You only know about her work life, her home life could be completely different.