Oh Dear....

[SweetSerenity]

So I am currently a jumble of emotions. I woke up this morning, started getting ready for work, and deciding what I was going to wear afterwards to go out to dinner with my mother. I turned on my computer and scanned through my emails, clicking on one that had come from my father. I was curious, as we don't talk anymore, why he would be emailing me.
It turns out they have found out about my choice of employment. How, I do not know, but they have nonetheless. The gist of the email was that my dinner was cancelled, as my mother was unable to 'face me and pretend everything was alright'. I couldn't really understand much else from it, as my father has horrible spelling and grammar. Since that email I have gotten six others from my father. He says he wants to try and 'fix' me. So somehow I have gone from not speaking with my father, and being on good terms with my mother to the exact opposite.
I am curious as to exactly how they found the ASA site though. Its not like I ever gave them any clues about it. And I highly doubt my parents have the skills or intelligence level to figure it out on their own. I am a mix of happy and unhappy. Happy because a part of me has always loathed my parents, and never forgave them for past actions. Unhappy... I don't why I would feel that, I never had any extensive attatchment to my mother.

 

[shane.katz]

Are you postive it's your dad? Could it be someone with malicious intent pretending?

 

[Timbit]

It's your life to live. I know that people feel a need to answer to family but if you enjoy what you do and you aren't harming yourself, then continue doing what you're doing.

You've already said that you're partly happy because they found out - I don't think I like the reasoning behind it - kind of a "that'll show them attitude", but whatever floats your boat.

However, if you do want to continue to have a relationship with your mother, you're going to have to talk to her.

Timbit

 

[artj]

Oh Dear? Why?

As we start to make our own living and supporting ourselves. There will be always somebody close, who will question what you do. If you are ok with what you are doing. Then in time,I'm sure they will come around.

 

[tboy]

I don't know you're exact situation but I know how difficult it can be to want to lead your own life and face your parent's disapproval. If you truly want to get out from under their thumb this could be a good enough reason.

I mean, I always wondered about the GGW films and what the girls are thinking there. At least in this biz you're making money at it, not just being a drunken fool for a bunch of pervs to make money off of.

If you truly don't care about your relationship with your mother then tell her simply this:

This is my life. I enjoy what I do and I make a decent living at it. I don't rely on any handouts, or being supported by anyone else. If you can't handle it then that is your problem not mine. If you feel so strongly that you want to end your relationship with me over what I do, then again, that is YOUR choice.

Remember Mom: YOU raised me so any decisions I have made in life are somewhat based on what YOU taught me.......

 

[fuji]

It's pretty clear why this is a big deal. However strained your relationship is with your parents, however much you may disagree with them, they are your family. You grew up with them, they represent all of your childhood memories, at least some of which must be happy, and so on.

Serenity this is obviously a stressful situation for you. It will take time, but remember this: You are their family too. Like it or not they're stuck with you which means eventually they'll have to find a way accept you again.

 

[toughb]

A simple general comment.

What always surprises me is that it's a surprise to the escort when this happens.

The fact is that sooner or later it's a fairly large probability that someone, who is a relative or friend, will find out.

...

 

[tboy]

It's pretty clear why this is a big deal. However strained your relationship is with your parents, however much you may disagree with them, they are your family. You grew up with them, they represent all of your childhood memories, at least some of which must be happy, and so on.

Serenity this is obviously a stressful situation for you. It will take time, but remember this: You are their family too. Like it or not they're stuck with you which means eventually they'll have to find a way accept you again.

That's just it: many families do NOT accept a person the way they are. One has to learn to deal with that. Frankly their perceived notions about her business is what she will probably never sway in her favour.

For the record, I had some of those misconceptions before I started hobbying. Now that I've met some really great ladies, and fellow hobbyists, I have done a 180.

Another good line comes to mind:

Escorting is what I DO, not who I AM.

 

[rt-24]

P.S. What is ASA?

ditto

 

[Brill]

Don't do or say anything until the shock has worn off.

It might only be your father who has a problem with it, see if you can quietly get together with your mother to assure her.
Remember that you have friends and support out there if they won't accept you.

Good luck.

 

[Mencken]

not really. I have a friend who is an evangelical. he married the daughter of a pastor from his church. mother found out the pastors daughter was a slut forbade son to marry her. daddy offered son 250K if he walked away from her. he married her, is having a kid and the mum, dad and sister don't talk to him anymore.

P.S. What is ASA?

In this case he should start quoting the Bible to them. They have an obligation to demonstrate the love of Christ to them. And lots more that can be used to show them their error.

I personally think it is all BS...but I would not hesitate to use their own beliefs and scripture to push back.

As for the OP...Serenity so sorry this happened to you. Hope you can work through it and they can too...family is family, even with problems.

 

[Brill]

ASA is also known as a naboot. It's a quarterstaff constructed of palm wood or rattan. It originated in Egypt and is used in the martial art of Tahtib.

 

[jwmorrice]

Don't do or say anything until the shock has worn off.

I think that's the best advice. There can be the understandable but oft unfortunate tendency to reduce the tension of the situation by responding too quickly. Try to slow things down. You need to find your own way through this. Give yourself time.

jwm

 

[HG Hunter]

Here's a little anecdote. Not sure it will help, but it can't hurt.
I have a friend who was a MPA. She did quite well at it and she always had very strict limits when it came to extras.
She was engaged to marry a young man with whom she had been for years. At a certain point, they had a big blow up in their relationship and he went all crazy on her so they broke up. He then threatened to go to her mother and tell her all about what she was doing for a living.
The MPA was crushed and did not want him doing that. She had a friend drive her a few hours to her mother's place and told her mother herself. Her mother was disappointed, but once she got over the initial shock, she accepted her daughter's choice to do what she wanted to do and their mother-daughter relationship has been better and stronger ever since.

 

[moresex4me]

Okay, I am a little disappointed none of the ladies on the board have piped up, but I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt and am assuming they've pm'd her.

Guys, we don't know what she's going through. We can't. We're not in the same boat.

Serenity, hopefully some other ladies will reach out to you. I can think of at least one who had this happen to her, but she's retired now.

As to how they found out, you're in a relatively small town. Someone who knows you hobbies, and saw you on the website, and told your father. Sorry this happened to you, but you'll get through it. Good luck!

 

[tboy]

Okay, I am a little disappointed none of the ladies on the board have piped up, but I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt and am assuming they've pm'd her.

Guys, we don't know what she's going through. We can't. We're not in the same boat.

Serenity, hopefully some other ladies will reach out to you. I can think of at least one who had this happen to her, but she's retired now.

As to how they found out, you're in a relatively small town. Someone who knows you hobbies, and saw you on the website, and told your father. Sorry this happened to you, but you'll get through it. Good luck!

they are prolly sleeping from all the action they got last night lol....

good advice though not pressing the issue. Let them digest it for a few weeks then address it. But don't put up with any shit from dad suddenly popping up and trying to fix the OP. She isn't broken.......

 

[someone]

P.S. What is ASA?

Although Brill could be right, in this case I think it is short for A Step Above: http://astepabove.escort8.com

 

[rt-24]

Although Brill could be right, in this case I think it is short for A Step Above: http://astepabove.escort8.com

thanks, was just about to post the same thing after doing some searches on here, since some people would rather provide less than helpful info in their replies.

 

[69Shooter]

I am a mix of happy and unhappy. Happy because a part of me has always loathed my parents, and never forgave them for past actions.

I don't mean to get too analytical here but, holding a grudge against anyone (especially your parents) can be very harmful to you. I've seen it happen to a lot of people. I suggest that you make an effort to deal with whatever it is/was that makes you loath them.

 

[calloway]

Hi Serenity... I'm sorry this happened to you and hopefully things will work out for the better in the long run over this.

I would assume somebody has recognized your body/clothing/location from your pictures online.

How did they get to the ASA site you may ask?

Your Dad is on Terb? He's searching escort ads on Craislist and then found the ASA link? Any other family members/ex-friends/competitors that might have done this to you?