Old fling won't be my facebook friend just because she's married
- Thread starter hyperdog
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Yes, I was facebook friends with an ex-gf, then a couple of years later she got married and messaged me that we couldn't be facebook friends any longer as her husband didn't like single guys being on her friends list. She removed all the other single guys from her list too, so nothing personal.
Well, there's your answer. "It's not you, it's her" LOL
How tall is she? Is her husband taller than you? Is he taller than her? What's their wingspan? Does his height make you mad?
Did you tell her you got leg-lengthened? Or that you agonzied over, practically stalked, then struck out with a lesbian at work? Because I can't believe she would reject you after knowing all that.
Clearly her marriage is to blame, not your being creepy on the Internet.
I think she wants you and is playing hard to get. You should insist she add you, even if you have to phone and text her every 30 min until she does. Also, ask her out a lot.
Or not
Or not
Well she feels guilty likely because she still feels a tiny sense of "what if?..." about the two of you as a couple, and maybe still has some warm feelings, but doesnt want to take a chance at screwing up her nice married life.
Just take it as a compliment, respect her wishes and move on.
This right here is the point I'm trying to make. It's not about how can I persuade her let me fuck her. It's about the fact the some women just act so fucked up just because they are married. All I'm doing is venting over that.
Lame.
However, she made the decision (albeit coerced to do so) so you have to live with it.
I always laugh at guys who are so insecure.
As I said earlier about you being such a expert on marriage, it's not just women who get fucked up by marriage and it would appear you're well on the way from the other side of the room. Marriage didn't fuck her up. She just has different priorities now and apparently they don't involve you. Many people after they marry loose contact with the single friends, especially of the opposite sex. Since you haven't part of her life for some time now it's even more likely. Enjoy the time you spent and got updated on her life and let it go.
If your recent post and some your past one are any example maybe she's matured faster than you have.
Just the fact that you started this threat and are pissed off proves her reasoning was justified. I'm guessing that when she met you and saw your reaction that an alarm went off that you could become a nuisance. Remember she dated you so I'm sure she can read your intentions.
Just hint, I didn't start this thread and she didn't date me, Careful who you quote.
I think that some women, probably more than men, tend to carry a torch for exes long after things are over. These women may think that guys are like that too. I'm sure some are, but most I know are able to remain friends after and not be bothered by the past.
I have one friend who had a first serious gf in his late teens-early 20s. Long after they broke up, he married and his wife never wanted to even acknowledge that this former gf even existed.
The ex gf sadly passed away in her mid 30s and my buddy's wife didn't even want him to go to the funeral. The ex gf's whole family was there, including her then husband and kids, and obviously her parents and siblings.
My buddy went to the funeral, but it was a bone of contention for quite some time.
Some people are simply more possessive than others.
If my wife knew about my hobbying, she might also question some of my facebook friends.
I have one friend who had a first serious gf in his late teens-early 20s. Long after they broke up, he married and his wife never wanted to even acknowledge that this former gf even existed.
The ex gf sadly passed away in her mid 30s and my buddy's wife didn't even want him to go to the funeral. The ex gf's whole family was there, including her then husband and kids, and obviously her parents and siblings.
My buddy went to the funeral, but it was a bone of contention for quite some time.
Some people are simply more possessive than others.
If my wife knew about my hobbying, she might also question some of my facebook friends.
Three observations:
I recently met an acquaintance from high school and the surprise and spontaneous nature of the meeting made me happy and we had an enthusiastic visit. A few days later I realised why I had not kept in touch and why I had to keep far far away from them.
Most women seem to like to use nice ways to say “ I do not want you in my life because you are not the kind of person I want in my life” Guilty sounds like a nice way of saying it.
One of my work buddies often says “I would love to, but my wife would object”. I heard him turn down a fishing trip using that excuse. I know he hates fishing. Seems a lot use their spouse as an excuse to avoid things they do not like.
Sounds to me like she has a controlling husband.
She needs to man up!!!
I guess that is why I am single lol
She needs to man up!!!
I guess that is why I am single lol
have an ex...she found me...we reconnected...then i realized that the reason we aren't together was because of her cheating...she blamed me for not moving the relationship forward...i vented...she blocked me...
She's married. End of story. Put the shoe on the other foot. If you were married would you want your wife trolling on Facebook ???
BS
BS
Perhaps she did this after hearing of your Terbie handle and then reading your posts here....:eyebrows:
'Trolling' no, but if she has friends that she stays in touch with via Facebook , why the hell not. Is your girlfriend supposed to give up all her male friends because you can't handle other guys talking to her when you're not around. Are you that insecure?
The husband may be a jerk, but knowing HD as we do on here. would you be comfortable with his being a friend of your wife/GF? it's more like she doesn't feel it's good/proper/worth it.
