Online dating
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I try every now and then, but it's hard to put up with all the bullshit when I know I can pay a girl to pretend to like me for a couple of hours and do things no civvie would
Online dating is incredibly a big YMMV. There's two rules to online dating apps for success as a male.
1. Be Attractive, 2. Don't be unattractive.
I'm not saying you won't matches, but don't get your hopes up. There's thousands of guys compared to females on these apps.
1. Be Attractive, 2. Don't be unattractive.
I'm not saying you won't matches, but don't get your hopes up. There's thousands of guys compared to females on these apps.
Most people on Dating Apps or whatever it may be now are there only for the following reasons ,,,,
1. Validation for their ego
2. TDP - Trauma Dumping Post, the person dumps their issues ( trauma no matter how wrong they are ) on you not wanting to hear anything about it. (This is the worst person) the other tier person will hear your TDP with no solution even if they have one. No comment means no judgement but give a comment then you are judging. When you are not.
3. A mental disorder. I think I posted this already.
4. An honest person seeking real love. One in eight.
Go in crazy and come out healthy by Knowing the above.
1. Validation for their ego
2. TDP - Trauma Dumping Post, the person dumps their issues ( trauma no matter how wrong they are ) on you not wanting to hear anything about it. (This is the worst person) the other tier person will hear your TDP with no solution even if they have one. No comment means no judgement but give a comment then you are judging. When you are not.
3. A mental disorder. I think I posted this already.
4. An honest person seeking real love. One in eight.
Go in crazy and come out healthy by Knowing the above.
This came up on my YouTube feed this morning and some of the comments are gold! Sell your Tinder/Bumble stock and invest in Escort biz!
- Dating apps = female validation app
- ok .. I heard that even an average woman on tinder would get flooded with matches .. this is what I thing began the women's overestimation of their value in their own minds,
- High Mileage Totaled Out USED CARS at........."New Car Prices"
- I love how each year that has passed my 40th birthday my testosterone drops slightly and my ability to not give a shit goes up a bit. I still would like to meet a wonderful woman to share my life with, but I am not longer going to play these stupid bullshit games. I am not going to simp or make them feel special.
- I'm 59. At this point, women are invisible to me. I'm fit, rich, retired. I barely notice them. Get into the mindset that they are not worth as much attention as tying my shoe laces.
- Dating apps = female validation app
- ok .. I heard that even an average woman on tinder would get flooded with matches .. this is what I thing began the women's overestimation of their value in their own minds,
- High Mileage Totaled Out USED CARS at........."New Car Prices"
- I love how each year that has passed my 40th birthday my testosterone drops slightly and my ability to not give a shit goes up a bit. I still would like to meet a wonderful woman to share my life with, but I am not longer going to play these stupid bullshit games. I am not going to simp or make them feel special.
- I'm 59. At this point, women are invisible to me. I'm fit, rich, retired. I barely notice them. Get into the mindset that they are not worth as much attention as tying my shoe laces.
Politicians and the media still talk about family formation as if we are still living in the 1950s. Demographers find this puzzling. Some men and women are also still thinking this way.
By the way, one aspect that women like about the 1950s is the man paying for everything.
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So what about bald and fat guys? They have no chance at all? What happens with them?
I'm just speaking from personal experience. I can only imagine the reality for the less ideal guy is a tough road for online dating. Especially depending on people's standards nowadays. I wish it was easier.
Yes I've done way better in real life than being on this app so far. Dated attractive women 1/2 my age! I didn't even have to ask her out, she asked me first. Another one I asked her and she did go on a date with me too. Danced with hot blondes at clubs as well. I seem to do a lot better in real life than this stupid app.
I've been browsing r/tinder on Reddit and there are even good looking white guys that are complaining also! What do women on tinder want?? Maybe they just want the attention?
I disagree, most non-black women prefer someone from their own culture as a first choice
and do NOT want a black man as a date/bf (for all kinds of reasons, even if they "like" them in general).
Don't confuse liking someone for wanting to date them.
My theory is that they do want to meet and develop a relationship of whatever type they want, but then get hooked on the waves and waves of attention. That becomes their drug and they lose a lot of the need to feel wanted in real life. How many Tinder profiles say to add or DM on Insta etc! Social validation is what they really want. Times are changing, times are changing.
And same with me as you in real life.
Today I went out for a long walk, just to enjoy the city as if I were a tourist. Towards the end I stopped into Black Horse coffee to sit down, grab an iced coffee to eat my pistachio donut I bought earlier at Unholy donuts on Bay.
As I got my coffee and I turned around I realized all the tables were taken. There was one bar stool at the side so I made my way over looking to see if anyone was leaving. My eyes met this quite nice looking young mid-20's light brown skinned woman (no idea of her background but maybe an Indian mix?) was sitting alone with an almost empty cup and a book. I smiled to acknowledge meeting her eyes, but decided not to bother her to ask to sit. But as I sat down at the bar stool, she said the seat was free if I wanted to sit in a nicer chair. I hate bar stools and love meeting people so of course I went over! we had a great talk about the book she was reading. I asked why that book and she told me. I said I have similar books on the shelf and I could text her a few titles when I refreshed my memory. Big smile on her face and she held out her hand for my phone. She texted her name and mine from my phone to hers! Doesn't happen every day but often enough that I think it is always worthwhile dressing nicely and flashing a smile. Never know where it can take you! (i've got too much on the go this year to take on a gf, but I'll definitely meet her for coffee again!
On Tinder I have lots of matches and like I can't see but no matter how clever or good the text conversation goes, it most often just dead ends. Without ANY reason. And without any 'not interested', ttyl, bye... nothing. And I meet the req's to do well on it. Over 6' nice hair, look decent, only slightly overweight (195 lbs @ 6'1"). I am in my late 50's but am told I look in my late 40's. Still "old". I don't list my job or have anything expensive or flashy in my ad or pics. I asked one girl about it last year or so and she says it almost becomes like an overwhelming game to keep up with the messages and still be tempted to swipe right and maybe move up a level ... or just the thrill of matching.
Ironically, the only success I've had in actually meeting (and more
) through Tinder is with the very attractive women thatI didn't think I'd ahve a chance with! 
Or when I'm travelling and say I'm just in town for a day or three etc. And then it's with women who say they are looking for a "Long Term Partner".Insanity!
I'm still hooked on online dating though because I just killed it back in the early days of online dating. I know I'm getting, and am much older now but I don't think that's the problem either. Because I also get young (18-23) women "liking" me. So I think itis really just that online dating has been gamified and/or is just an attention gratification for women.
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That's true.
I am very attracted to slender black women. Have dated many (and many times each-enough to call them my gf) and have had two 'serious' relationships with black women. But inter-racial couples do attract unusual attention. Often it is her who is uncomfortable with me, a white guy, introducing me to her friends and family.
And doubly so with Indian chicks! The woman of my dreams, one I would actually marry said she simply can't even think of even letting her parents think she might be dating a non-Indian man. As much as white guys seem to love asian women, I don;t find them particularly attractive. Not unattractive, just not particularly attractive. I'd imagine that a traditional Chinese parent would prefer their daughter to be with a Chinese Doctor.. at the very least! lol
I found someone, but on POF not Tinder, had a first date with someone else and got along well with a third personage of the female persuasion until she decided to punish me for the behavior of the last asshole she dated so I never met her om person.
The other two highly above my looks level, sadly the one that I ended up in a relationship with had issue
But once you hit past 40, hell past 30 it's pretty grim.
If you are not already married off than either
1: You are a real life unicorn/real life saint who never found someone because you were busy I donno, with doctors without borders, saving kittens, elder car whatever
2: You are a shut in, in which case said person you are unlikely to come across anyway and I doubt there are many of those
3: Those who gave up because of some sort of trauma, in which case fuck off you MAN. She ain't looking. Yeah, she won't go near you with a 10 foot pole.
3a: Not quite trauma but baggage city which she will make you pay for. Been there done that.
4: Someone who never got married, dated around and couldn't land someone, I wonder why.
4: She is divorced and it's totally her fault or partly her fault. People don't learn and odds are she [or he] won't recognize her role in things going south.
5: Divorced but it really wasn't her fault, except she picked the wrong guy, and that is probably her preference, the wrong guy. Sure she might want a break by dating someone who isn't an asshole but in time the lack of cheating and beating will bore her and she will leave, as for those who truely grow out of it, unicorn.
6: Widow. I knew a guy who dated one of those [she was in her 20's] as he put it, you can't compete with a dead guy. Poor fellow.
Then you toss in kids, and all the problems involved there both legal and relationship wise, and beyond a certain age well there are not too many Marissa Tormeis and Valarie Bertenellis in the world, getting stuck in your ways, baggage etc.
Then you get the whole issue of finding someone, someone who likes you, compatibility and all the other relationship minefields that apply to any age.
I finally gave up on that relationship mentioned above, I think it's best to just brush myself off and get back on the whores. Better than holding out for some unicorn, double plus so with what little I offer.
Little????
I been searching for awhile what you said for a long time and you nailed it perfectly. Thanks.
I remember my now deceased uncle(divorced) advising me to find someone who loves me. Well, women are designed to love children not men, except for the initial stage when mother nature tries to get us to procreate. So the battle is uphill to begin with.
