Ottawa Social Life

[purpleshaft]

Guys, a friend of mine has been in Ottawa for a few years and tells me the women are "harder" to get in the big city of Ottawa. Is this so. I think he is just a little too intense. Where are the good places to meet women in Ottawa. Late 20's to 40. I'd say absolutely no older then 40, maybe late 30's.

Some ideas would be good. I'd be the Wing-man from out of time, just trying to help my buddy.

 

[InfortiesAndAlone]

I have lived in Ottawa for past sixteen years, and for the life of me I have not been able to meet anyone.
Paradoxically enough, the ratio of women to men in Ottawa is supposed to be roughly 3:1 I have been told. But that's across all age groups not the "breeding range" that your buddy seems to be looking.
My impression is that there are many women in that age group, but they tend to cluster together in somewhat exclusive activity-oriented cliques. For instance, if you play ultimate frisbee, you may be able to sign up in a team and meet women there. Another example is ballroom-dancing; if you take a class in ballrooming-dancing you will probably meet girls there. If your friend plays beach-volleyball he could probably join one of the local (social) teams, and there he will be able to meet girls. There are other similar "activity-oriented" social groups, such as hiking groups, boating groups, skiing and skating groups etc. Unfortunately for me, I am not the atheltic outdoorsy sort, so I have not been able to take advantage of any such venues.

 

[kingpin1]

Seriously guys....there are tons of women to be met. Just get out and meet them wherever you are or whatever you are doing. It is not hard.

 

[Mable]

Although I have lived and worked all over the place I was born and raised in the Ottawa area. This is not a passive entertainment town. New York is. If you want to meet women it is important to go out and do things that you like. The women will be there. Personally I do long distance cycling. Joined a club. Wow!! They are there in the hoards. Got many hits. If you are not that physically active there are many other types of clubs you can join. Use the Internet and your imagination. Also, seek out where the government employees hang out. I have recently been to 2 functions by invitation and, I kid you not, out of 40-50 in attendance there were 3 guys other than me. After years of reverse discrimination, otherwize known as affirmative action, the gov. is LOADED with women. A real turkey shoot, if you are so inclined. Hope this contributes something for you.

 

[purpleshaft]

Some pretty sound advice guys. I'll pass it along. Just hope he listens and doesn't assume I'm out of the loop just because I'm married.

 

[InfortiesAndAlone]

Seriously guys....there are tons of women to be met. Just get out and meet them wherever you are or whatever you are doing. It is not hard.

When you say "get out and meet them", where exactly is the "out" that you talk about? By that I mean, can you actually name a venue?
This what I have been hearing for sixteen years "just get out and meet them"; but no one has once named an actual place or time or venue of any sort.

I think the truth and the bottom line is, you meet women through:

1. work
2. friends
3. and in Ottawa outdoors activity groups

And that's it. If your friends and coworkers are primarily male, and you are not the outdoorsy sort, then you are NOT going to get women in Ottawa! Plain and simple. You might as well get used to it now!

 

[InfortiesAndAlone]

Although I have lived and worked all over the place I was born and raised in the Ottawa area. This is not a passive entertainment town. New York is. If you want to meet women it is important to go out and do things that you like. The women will be there. Personally I do long distance cycling. Joined a club. Wow!! They are there in the hoards. Got many hits. If you are not that physically active there are many other types of clubs you can join. Use the Internet and your imagination. Also, seek out where the government employees hang out. I have recently been to 2 functions by invitation and, I kid you not, out of 40-50 in attendance there were 3 guys other than me. After years of reverse discrimination, otherwize known as affirmative action, the gov. is LOADED with women. A real turkey shoot, if you are so inclined. Hope this contributes something for you.

You probably got that invitation through your long distance cycling crowd, right?

Actually, do you have any suggestions as to where government employees hang out?

 

[DoubleDave]

Have you tried Plenty O Fish? There's all kinds (literally and figuratively) of women in Ottawa that use that site to meet men. Some are looking for relationships and others for "friendship" but either way it'd be a great way for you to break out of your rut.

Oh, and Big Daddy's on Elgin is a middle aged meat/meet market on Thursday Nights as is Maxwell's right across the street from it. Believe me friend, there are lots and lots of women in Ottawa with the same story as yours so get out there and have some fun!!

Good luck!

PS: re the 'if your not outdoorsy you're not going to meet anyone', I have a female friend that tells me the exact same thing so I'll tell you what I told her. If you really believe that to be true, then you are wilfully choosing to be alone (and complain about it) rather that taking the initiative to change your lifestyle so that you're not alone. Getting on a bike or joining one of the Running Room's Learn to Run workshops seems to me to be an easy and small price to pay to meet members of the opposite sex. Heck, it might even improve your quality of life in other ways too. It just comes down to how bad you want something.

 

[InfortiesAndAlone]

Thanks for the info DoubleDave.
I have one more question though please, and I don't mean to sound sardonical at all. How come you guys who do meet lots of women need to hobby? If you can get women for free why do you want to pay for it?

 

[GlavaMan]

Thanks for the info DoubleDave.
I have one more question though please, and I don't mean to sound sardonical at all. How come you guys who do meet lots of women need to hobby? If you can get women for free why do you want to pay for it?

SP's are younger, hotter & sicker (I mean that in a good way) than almost all the women a guy in his forties would hook up with.

 

[InfortiesAndAlone]

BTW, I will definitely try Big Daddy's and Maxwell's. Thanks again.

 

[cwk]

i do a bit of both really, sometimes you just want to have sex and it's just easier to call an SP as opposed to chatting forever with a girl on POF. And i don't think a lot of Ottawa girls are going to have sex with you on the first date, just my impression other people may have different experiences.

for me it's just i'm really horny and it's easier to make a phone call...plain and simple.

 

[DoubleDave]

Thanks for the info DoubleDave.
How come you guys who do meet lots of women need to hobby? If you can get women for free why do you want to pay for it?

Don't kid yourself, we always pay for sex... one way or another!

 

[InfortiesAndAlone]

Don't kid yourself, we always pay for sex... one way or another!

Good point
As the American comedian Chris Rock says "Pussy costs money, but dick is free!" He also says: "Nothing dries up a pussy more quickly than paying for stuff! Gynaecologists can tell when a woman has been paying for stuff!"

 

[Ice-T]

Getting women "for free" takes work and can lead to frustrations. SPs provide that stress free liason. Like they say, you don't pay a prostitute for sex, you pay them to leave.

 

[CapitalGuy]

Holy fuck. Seriously??? Ottawa is the easiest town in Canada to pick up. Its the ONLY town in Canada where women buy ME drinks. And I'm not saying that to blow my horn - this is a city full of lonely women, if you can't meet someone here...... don't blame Ottawa women. They are not stuck up, they are not ball busters. They are lonely and eager to meet a man.

Join clubs, get active (you have to leave your house), take night courses at Carleton or Algonquin (languages are good), invite friends over for dinner so they invite you to their places and have them set you up, join a pool league at McLaren's or wherever, play softball, go to the Ottawa Little Theatre, go to the NAG, go to the Nature Museum, go to ANY museum, go to Zellers, go to Maxwell's on Wednesday night for Johnny Vegas night, take a yoga class, take a cooking class, fuck,,,, all you have to do is ride the bus in this town and you will meet a 30-50 year old woman who has no man in her life and wants one. I'm not a player - I have no game - but in Ottawa I get the glad eye constantly. 1 time out of 20 I will act on it but the opportunities are quite abundant here. What specifically does you friend not know how to do?

 

[InfortiesAndAlone]

CapitalGuy,
This is the first time in my 16 years of living here that someone has given me concrete leads, namely Big Daddy's and Maxwell's, as to where to meet women.
My experience with Ottawa women has been exactly the opposite of yours: For instance, even though the women I meet don't have a fraction of my education or my intelligence or my professional and material success, they try to belittle me. They have the audacity to talk down to me, expecting me to sheepishly genuflect myself before them. And they are surprised when I tell them off.
As for inviting friends, I have done that too. I am actually good at throwing a banquet; but my friends are also techy types who don't know any women.

Incidentally, where exactly are these magical buses that you talk about, where one meets 30 year old single women looking for men?

Yes, there are many divorcées in their 50's in Ottawa, but I am not looking for a grandmother; now am I?

Yes, I do get the glad-eyes (as you put it) frequently also, but only from married women :frusty:
For some reason married women like me!

 

[Mable]

To Inforties: no I did not meet these ladies cycling, it was through work.

You provide a clue as to why you are having some difficulty in this area. Why do you think it is that the women are (seem) condescending to you? Belittle you? What are you giving off? Women can smell lack of confidence at 1000 paces and, if there is anything that turns them off, that is it.

They expect you to genuflect? They want you to be in a subservient role? True, there are some ball busters out there but in the total scheme of things they are rare. I am a firm believer in that you get back the energy you put out. Try practising interacting in a different way. See what happens. Many moons ago I play acted with this girl who "had attitude" and was, according to folklore, untouchable. Well, let's just say she went down hard! Have fun. See what happens. Just a thought.

I was "feeling up" some tomatoes the other day and a sweet feminine voice whisped from behind, "how can you tell?" I turned to see a very attractive lady smiling at me. Bingo! Had I been inclined at the time I am sure I could have made something happen. So, that is the answer to your question. They are not on the 98 Hawthorne bus from downtown at 5:15. They are all around you all the time. Just have to keep your eyes and ears open and be aware and ready to act. Opportunity is there for the taking.

 

[tcentik]

Yes it's easy to meet women in Ottawa. BUT... it's almost impossible to bed attractive women in Ottawa unless you're ready to spend much more than you would on a SP. Just like Infortiesandalone I've given up long ago and have gone the easy way. I'm not even sure I could get excited anymore with a woman in her forties. I'm not happy about this it's just reality.

 

[OutForFun]

I'm not even sure I could get excited anymore with a woman in her forties. I'm not happy about this it's just reality.

I have exactly the same issue and it is a dilemma. Hard to go through all the effort to meet someone my age (also in 40's) when I can just have sex with far hotter SP's in the 20's or early 30's.