You are simply wrong about it being "bullshit". It is called being strategic. Eventually after 6 months or faster depending on your mutual comfort level you can slowly open up. I can guarantee you that most women are turned off by guys who cannot be measured and methodical about things. I think this applies to sps too. You think you know what you want...aka transparency, honesty, etc... But these "nice guys" never take home the hottest girls.
Now I don't know you, so hopefully not making too many assumptions, but ask yourself when the last time you really were intrigued by a guy willing to lay all his hands on the table on a first date? We treat and interact with different people differently everyday... Like do you interact with your brother the same way you do with a banker ..etc..? Probably not. There is a time and place for everything. When it comes to dating its all about timing and strategic moves in the beginning. the only thing that really improved my sex life in my twenties was changing how I interact with women on the first dates. In fact I don't even think I revealed most of the time what I even did or where I was going to school until at least three months. For some reason this drove the women I was seeing head over heels about me... Damn life used to be so good.
If the op follows your advice he will be single, dependent on sps for sex his whole life, etc...
. Trust me op, I am trying to help. I find trying to help through sharing my trials and tribulations entertaining and rewarding as it reminds me of more fun younger days.
Right. Now ask yourself: are you still with any of those women whom you wasted months of your times playing games with? My assumption based on your comment is, "no."
If you want some fake, shell of a human being like we were talking about above, then yes, it may be necessary to play those dumb games with her. But if you find a girl who is actually real, then, no, she wont want you to do all that shit, and would be very receptive to someone who is honest about their intentions. I'm not saying reveal everything about yourself as soon as you meet... I'm just saying all the "rules" are ridiculous. Trying to hide who you are might land you a really hot chick, but if you actually want a relationship with the girl eventually you're going to realize there's nothing there but a sexy body and hair products... And sexy bodies don't last forever!
If you're real and just act like yourself maybe you wont get that super-hot chick at the bar. But if you want a relationship and not just to get laid, that chick probably doesn't have much to offer anyways.
Fake begets fake... Let's be real, people.
