I love you Maya. Let's hook up and have interracial babies. You down?Miss Maya Blue said:nothing ventured, nothing gained.
if you are falling for someone, you might as well try your luck.
i say tell her.
the worst thing that could happen is she decides to not see you again. life goes on.
but continuing to see her and letting your feelings bottle up will never be satisfying for you, truly. so really, you have little to lose. not telling her isn't going to lead to happiness. risking telling her just might.
romances can and do happen
good luck hun...
Poll - Best course of action if you fall for an SP
- Thread starter Toguy54
- Start date
Invite her over to your house for a romantic dinner and leave your computer logged into Terb showing half a dozen of your recent reviews.Toguy54 said:
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burt-oh-my!
lol - I am a bit surprised at these comments such as "Would you want a whore for your wife, kids mother etc" - talk about hypocritical! Would you want a john for a husband, kids father? Its exactly the same thing guys, we are just as 'bad' as the SPs, lets not kid ourselves. Our relationship is equivalent.
I think the issue here is motivation and balance. If you are a 55 year old out-of-shape fat slob, and the SP is a 25 year old hotty - well c'mon, you know she ain't genuine. Don't fool your self.
If on the other hand the two of you are about equal in phsical looks, then at least that is a starting point. I suppose th enext real big thing would be how on earth to convince each other that you will be faithful to each other. That would be the hard one to accomplish. He is used to getting lots and lots of choice - and she knows it! I suppose the only way would be for her to be sure to bonk his brains all the time.
I think the issue here is motivation and balance. If you are a 55 year old out-of-shape fat slob, and the SP is a 25 year old hotty - well c'mon, you know she ain't genuine. Don't fool your self.
If on the other hand the two of you are about equal in phsical looks, then at least that is a starting point. I suppose th enext real big thing would be how on earth to convince each other that you will be faithful to each other. That would be the hard one to accomplish. He is used to getting lots and lots of choice - and she knows it! I suppose the only way would be for her to be sure to bonk his brains all the time.
You could also have an open marriage. After all you both know in the current relationship that it is not exclusive. Having said that, how many hobbyists would go for a non-exclusive relationship? Or, for that matter, how many SP's/former SP's? Some of us are hard-wired to be jealous.burt-oh-my! said:
This is the best answer here. Every situation is different. There have been many on this board past and present that have gotten into relationships with clients. Some publicly {reminded of Jenn Angel and Miranda} and others privately that only a select few knew about. Some worked out, some didn't. Some where long relationships, some where short.JohnFK said:
I am dating a former hobbyist that I met on this board. He never made it to see me as a client. Twice we tried but he canceled one and I canceled one. I can honestly say that if we had met as SP/Client, we would not be dating now. It would have been under a different dynamic and therefore I would not have entertained the idea. If he had contacted me for a date on this board, I would have declined. He contacted me on another non industry related site to go for drinks. Even then he explained it was not about a free fuck and that he just wanted to get to know the person behind the escort. I was very hesitant, and since we fought like cats and dogs on the boards to the point that we both got suspended a couple of times I thought I was out of my mind agreeing to a date. Now it is 15 months later and we happy. Will we continue to be in a year or 2, I have no idea. So it hopefully shows you that while it is possible, everyone is different and I don't think the odds are very high.
So again, if he was a client, I would never had entertained the idea at all. I would have refused right from the beginning. There was always me-the escort and me-the person, and I would never let one cross into the other. It is like having two personalities, and I think it is like this for many escorts out there.
That one is a tough one. Myself personally, I can be exclusive, loyal and very thoughtful and giving to my partner. The BF feels extremely secure in our relationship because that is how I make him feel. He can also be very loyal. However, we can both handle having an open relationship as well. It is sometimes tough, and I think I would and have handled a little better him{don't worry sweetie, we can fight about this one later, lol} but the key for us is open communication.moresex4me said:
I am very low maintenance in a relationship as well. I don't need a lot of attention, just the right type of attention. I will tell him straight out, I need some attention right now. I will tell him I would like some flowers. I don't get upset that I had to tell him what I want like I know most women do. I know he is not a mind reader and to ensure that I get what I want when I want, I simply tell him. And he does the same with me.
So again, can be tough, the odds are staked against you, but if you walk into it honestly and communicate to your partner, then it is very possible that it can work.
Wow, a woman that tells you what she wants when she wants it and doesn't get upset she had to tell you... are you sure you're not a man in a woman's body? LOL!!!
moresex4me said:
Last time I checked, the only cock I had was a strap on, so I am pretty sure I am woman, LOL
The breasts are a dead give-a-way anyway.
I did say "in a woman's body"! It's more about the attitude: you want it, say it. I sometimes think all women think their SO's are Kreskin (now there's a reference from the past...) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/KreskinKya_Jean said:Last time I checked, the only cock I had was a strap on, so I am pretty sure I am woman, LOL
The breasts are a dead give-a-way anyway.
Just take her out for dinner, pay for it, get laid again, have a nice day. Otherwise, write her a book and if she reads it, she's yours.
Gyaos.
Gyaos.
One of the nicest things a girl said to me was I really like you because you don't look down on us, you consider us equals. I have always told the ladies that there are either 2 sinners in the room or no sinners in the room depending how you look at it but there is not just one.
