provider turn hobbyist
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dick slapping, lotsa dick slapping...havent you watched those party videos with the dancing bear?..lol j/k
I went to an MP once. I was very wary of the boundaries because I didn't know what they were. It was an interesting experience though.
I take direction well.I'm talking about raw, passionate & wild sex... the way I like to be fucked!
And not the way men, who watch too much porno, think it should be done.
(Spewing all over my face isn't exactly a turn on for me, and neither is
ramming my mouth until I start crying).
The emotion part is just a bonus
I can do serious fucking.
For you two ladies, I have the TERB special.
The official boundaries are easy...don't stick anything into any holes
. But, if you click, the fun can extend well beyond...just like real life...if unsure, just follow the MPAs lead!
This is interesting, and I admire your candor, but I think you are bringing "double jeopardy" upon yourself, as some sort of a psychological want/need for (seeing the glass as being half-empty).
When one becomes a working girl, she is already adjusting considerably the unique and traditional relationship which tends to exist between mere 'sex' and 'human emotional bonding'. As it has previously been a 'given' that you are here at TERB and in the role of provider, you simply cannot pretend that to turn around and become a customer doubles your seeming shortcomings that way.
The common thread is the removal of traditional boundaries, and you certainly didn't do so twice.
In reality it stands to reason that it could be easier for one who has worked in this business to (think nothing of) turning around to be a customer in the same arena. So go ahead, look in the mirror and question whether you've seemingly adjusted your psychology to a degree great enough so that recovery will take a great deal of the future, but don't double your concerns over your own indulgence as a customer.
PS - because as you say, this "isn't really talked about anywhere"... many of the rest of us don't know the set-up at a male strip club, and don't understand whether "The VIP room" facilitates you getting your rocks off in the same way we so often read about men doing so at female strip clubs.
So when somebody says: "are you talking about sex?" we need additional clarity.
I disagree. It was harder for me to be a customer than it was for me to be an SP. Being an SP I already know my boundaries and what I'm comfortable with. Not knowing what hers were made me uncomfortable even though she showed a lot of interest in me. Boundaries are very important in the industry and I would have never wanted to make her feel like I was trying to push them. Being an SP has made me very considerate of other sex providers. I didn't think "nothing of it".
Well since I have posted this I can honestly say I have visited this particular male strip club in my city litterally 7 times, kept my self on a budget of what I would spend on the gentlmen I fancy, now they think I am a regular which is pretty nice since the days I went in and I didn't have any money to go in the vip room I still got some special attention.
I am starting to think that me visiting the male strip club is part of my self-care and getting me to release some sensual tension I don't get to when I am working as a provider. Being a provider pretty much means my sexual needs are secondary, there are times I do have great sexual experience with my clients but that isn't my goal to be worrying about. I am there to provide an experinece that makes them feel good about themselves and leaving the space open for them to return to see me again if they choose.
I had a buddy in college that worked for the Fox's Den. The way he describes it is women are much worse than men when it comes to these clubs. He'd be grabbed at, licked, touched, etc.,. and if he ever complained or told them to settle down his masculinity was immediately called into question...
Don't get me wrong, he said most nights were a lot of fun, but you often also get the "crazies" who think that you're dying to fuck them simply because you're flirting with them.
