I'm much funnier when you are EscoedEsco! said:This is one of those rare times when Smerf makes me laugh
Question to EVERYONE
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It never hurts to show to respect in a relationship. She may have over-reacted but it goes with the territory. If your in it for the long term, it is in your best interest in learning her boundaries. If not in it for the long term tell her to get over herself.
I sincerely mean no offence here, but how are you able to be with someone so insecure?Nooki_23 said:
I find whenever a g/f gets peeved over some minor bit of nothing, it usually is because of an accumulation of several minor events that have been building up uncommented on. Then some minor nothing occurs, and Mt. St. Helens errupts. Was it totally over the top a reaction for the situation? Yes, but when trying to resolve the issue later it turns out there were other things, maybe worse, that she never said boo about over the past 2 weeks that were simmering under the surface and chose this minor event to blow forth. A 'straw that broke the camel's back' kind of thing.
papasmerf said:
LMAO.
Reminds me of what my uncle used to say. When you pick up a girl on a date and she looks angry. Ask her if she has her "vex money"
Very wise
The guy that replied that maybe it's deeper, underlying issues has a valid point.
A month ago, I gave her my password to my poker account, and I happen to use the same password for my facebook account. Low and behold, she went into my facebook account without my consent and read all my messages I've ever sent. She also went through all my text messages on my cell. Ya, I was texting and sending sexy comments to women, but I was just playin'. I think most women don't understand the basic concept that if you break down a man's basic primordial roots...it is to have sex with as many women as possible. A faithful guy (like me) only has sex with one, but lives a virtual fantasy world...(or else he's lying to himself).
The guy that replied that maybe it's deeper, underlying issues has a valid point.
A month ago, I gave her my password to my poker account, and I happen to use the same password for my facebook account. Low and behold, she went into my facebook account without my consent and read all my messages I've ever sent. She also went through all my text messages on my cell. Ya, I was texting and sending sexy comments to women, but I was just playin'. I think most women don't understand the basic concept that if you break down a man's basic primordial roots...it is to have sex with as many women as possible. A faithful guy (like me) only has sex with one, but lives a virtual fantasy world...(or else he's lying to himself).
LOL yup, that one made me laugh and that's hard to do!!!papasmerf said:
Good one P Smerf, VERY good one!
BTW: as for KWI's comment about asking her first and volunterring her: shit, how many MILLIONS of times do you hear the woman volunteering the guy to help her family move, accept an invitation to dinner, babysit kids, go away with another couple for a weekend, etc etc etc
Playing tennis, as stated, didn't and wouldn't kill her but we have our answer....jealous.....
Nooki_23 said:
Did she scan your facebook account before or after the tennis game? If it was before, I can see her point and for the record, and this is just MHO, I don't care if it's flirting in a bar, on a singles site online, or facebook, it's showing a lot of disrespect to her and your relationship...fantasy or not.
You see, watching porn is fantasy, havng cyber sex or flirting with someone online is REAL because you are interacting with them.....
I agree. As this thread unfolds it seems that you have given her cause to feel insecure in the relationship. As others have pointed out, she may have security issues, but you need to look at and understand your role in creating and/or contributing to those issues.tboy said:
Not to mention..you are playing on TERB as well...
Listen Guy..The tennis really is a non issue..TRULY it is nothing. it is but a small indicator of some very big trust issues, secret lives, hurt and other issues that you...yes YOU ..need to deal with. Tennis is nothing.
She seems to have an anger on for you..for good reason....and I would seriously think about changing your ways or checking out yourself.
This will not work as it is now!
You are minimizing the bigger issues..and there are some......by trying to isolate a tennis issue.....yes you gain some support with that issue...but in the big picture...you have MAJOR issues....that even counselling may not sort out for her!
Trust me..shape up or ship out!!
Listen Guy..The tennis really is a non issue..TRULY it is nothing. it is but a small indicator of some very big trust issues, secret lives, hurt and other issues that you...yes YOU ..need to deal with. Tennis is nothing.
She seems to have an anger on for you..for good reason....and I would seriously think about changing your ways or checking out yourself.
This will not work as it is now!
You are minimizing the bigger issues..and there are some......by trying to isolate a tennis issue.....yes you gain some support with that issue...but in the big picture...you have MAJOR issues....that even counselling may not sort out for her!
Trust me..shape up or ship out!!
Bail out of this relationship before it's too late! She obviously doesn't trust you - doesn't sound like a solid basis for a relationship to me.
Sorry man but that's just the way I see things.
Sorry man but that's just the way I see things.
