TheNiteHwk said:
Yes it’s true that people do sober up all the time. Also though… Sobriety is very difficult and challenging to maintain without help. I wonder if this guy is seeking some help or his he just white knuckling it. In recovery circles there is an old saying: Nothing changes, nothing changes or You sober up an old horse thief, you still have an old horse thief. You can’t just put the cork in the jug and just go on like nothing ever happened and expect life to be hunky dory. Real long-term sobriety requires massive amounts of introspection and a strong motivation to change. He must admit deep down in his heart all his past indiscretions; not just mouth the words. And that’s only the beginning. He must really want to do this for him not to get his SO back. This situation does not sound like that to me. And here is the kicker. She also needs help. I’m willing to bet this is not the first time that she has been in an abusive relationship. She needs to do a little introspection herself. She has to work on herself not him and visa versa. Not easy at the best of times. Trust me… I know, been there done that too many times. Give me a bit… I’ll find some links that may help. I’ll pray for your friend.
I agree and think she also needs help, from what my friend told me in her previous marriage, her husband totaly ignored her those final years, she seems to have an issues with self confidence and from what I have herd that old saying "you have to be mean to keep them kean" works with this one. Plus funny fact for those who like astrology, she is a Pisces so they are always confused, easily manipulated and emotional, those are the females have no idea about the guys. Well my friend is suffering like most, true broken heart, very sweet and open, too bad about it all, I guess some do change but without the right type of help it can be hard, having someone there for you is important but it is more of a struggle for the other trying to deal with the ups and downs of trying to over come the booze and drugs. Wonder why it is worth it?
