Should we objectify sp's ?

[panhead]

funny story

The blow up doll reminded me of store a guy I use to work with and his idea of a joke. He said it was late evening and he need a thrill, so he grabs his blow up doll and takes off for the local gas station. This is when service stations did repairs, anyhow he runs into this station in a panic telling the attendent that his doll has a hole in it and he needs it fixed NOW. He said the attendent was flabergased at his demand but after a short time fixed it . So if you ever need a quick thrill and a good laugh try it see what happens

 

[zog]

Back to objectifying...

Think about this:

If an SP shows up looking different from her pictures you would call it a bait-and-switch. You wouldn't wait to see if her personality matched her description before deciding she was not the girl you ordered.

If, on the other hand, the SP looks exactly like her pictures, you probably won't notice if she's really "talkative" like her description said.

This is not a bad thing. It just shows that when we select an SP, we do so on mostly physical qualities.

What it also means, however, is that we are objectifying the SP by selecting her on the basis of physical description. It does not mean that we can't come to like her personality as well (though how do we know it's her "real" personality?) but you would never waste your time trying if your were not physically attracted.

Zog.

 

[rdhaired_vixen]

zog

well put hon, you see it is the same as if you were trying to pick her up then is what your sayin... no difference
first comes the primary attraction and if you go beyond that, then comes the other traits that hold ya there...repeats in our case...
panhead your too much lmao can i play ya blow up doll honey.. giggle

 

[zog]

Thanks

well put hon, you see it is the same as if you were trying to pick her up then is what your sayin... no difference
first comes the primary attraction and if you go beyond that, then comes the other traits that hold ya there...repeats in our case...

Thanks vixen.

You make a good point yourself. I was focusing on the fact that we, as clients, tend to objectify SPs, especially in our initial selection. True, that is not all we do, but it is part of our behaviour.

But your point is worth making! We, as people, tend to objectify potential mates (be it bar pick-ups, BF/GFs, or spotential spouses) as well! Especially in the early stages of any relationship when we usually have little but physical cues to work with.

In most lasting relationships, be they spousal, social, or Escort, the physical tends to take a back-seat to the emotional as time goes by. Thus, we tend to objectify more at the start and, usually, move on to less superficial feelings later in the relationship.

Zog.

 

[Shmoozer]

To some degree, we objectify *everyone*, not just SPs. IMO, it's human nature to catagorize upon first encountering someone new. We immediately do the equivalent of a checklist based on what we see, and usually bring forward the stereotypes that go with those checks; "blonde - hot but stupid", "heavy - not sexy, won't be a good time", "big chest - guarenteed good time, should be easy to get into her pants", etc. It's something that most all of us do to some degree, and that's a shame. I'm heavy and have been all my life. The reaction of a couple of women to the fact that I'm not a sexless guy who loves to eat all the time was instructional, to say the least...