Pffff. I'm not even going to grace this comment with a proper sarcastic reply. There.tboy said:
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SPs would you date
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Nocute-bald said:really !! That overwhelms you or confounds you???
Your fixation tells me there is something more to the question then the question itself.
Very often the more simplistic the question the more probing and targeted it is.
Gen, you're smart enough to know there is no formula, no guidebook, no rules, no checklist, no manual on romance. It just happens. Like the other thing.genintoronto said:
Well, my views on love and romance may differ from yours and that of the majority. I don't believe that love just "happens" and that we have no choice and agency in the matter.rama putri said:
I think that a main condition for love to develop between two (or more) individuals is for both of them to be open to it. In the case of an SP/client relationship, I'm not open to it, as mentioned above.
But sometime yes, something can develop between two people (call it love, chemistry, attraction, whatever) even if they were not actively open to or looking for it. But it's still their choice to do something about it or not. My choice would most likely be not to try making a romantic relationship from an SP/client relationship, and maybe even terminating the SP/client relationship if I deem it necessary.
I've dated a couple of clients. They are still very good friends now, but I have stopped doing it for my own reasons. I get asked out frequently by clients, but I always refuse.
I have to agree with Gen on this one, sometimes one must open themselves up to the possibilities for something to happen before it will. If one makes a conscious effort to not get involved with x people they won't.
What I find annoying is how some people (mostly women ime) make a decision to not get involved with say, accountants, and if they meet a fantastic guy, perfect in everyway, is adorable to them, then they find out he's an accountant, they turn and walk away......This differs from genie's views in so much that this hobby is a special circumstance and that she isn't classifying one particular type of guy.
What bugs me to no end is how some women openly state that they will not get involved in any way shape or form with men who are not 6-2 3.2 yrs older, 220 lbs and have a full head of hair at 45. (even if they are 4-8, 30 lbs overweight, and boobs that sag to their waistline). I was on lavalife chat once and pm'd a woman and she replied with: sorry, I only date men with a full head of hair. I replied: good luck finding that at 46 but that's ok, I only date women without saggy breasts but at 46, that's kind of hard to find....She replied: that was kind of harsh.....
What I find annoying is how some people (mostly women ime) make a decision to not get involved with say, accountants, and if they meet a fantastic guy, perfect in everyway, is adorable to them, then they find out he's an accountant, they turn and walk away......This differs from genie's views in so much that this hobby is a special circumstance and that she isn't classifying one particular type of guy.
What bugs me to no end is how some women openly state that they will not get involved in any way shape or form with men who are not 6-2 3.2 yrs older, 220 lbs and have a full head of hair at 45. (even if they are 4-8, 30 lbs overweight, and boobs that sag to their waistline). I was on lavalife chat once and pm'd a woman and she replied with: sorry, I only date men with a full head of hair. I replied: good luck finding that at 46 but that's ok, I only date women without saggy breasts but at 46, that's kind of hard to find....She replied: that was kind of harsh.....
I dont think I would ever expect those kind of things from my gf. For me it would be that I realize that you are/were an sp and that you have feelings too, and I just want to be able to attend to your feelings too. Maybe it's just me being submissive but I've always wanted to be able to date an SP, not because I want to get her out of the business or anything, but just to be able to see the other side of her
Another thing that bugs me is this. I'm a fairly good looking guy (at elast I'm told so by females I know).. I find all the "regular" girls to be too uptight or just very narrow minded. I've only had 1 SP experience so I'm not sure if I speak for all, but from browsing these forums I've found that some of the SPs are actually very intellectually smart and know what they want. I think for me maybe that's what I crave other than my fetishes
I would probably not date a client. Its not because I see them as pathetic or desperate or any of those other awful things that people have implied in this thread. Nearly everyone I see is a longtime repeat and they're good friends - I don't think I'd be able to play a character long enough to persuade anyone, to be honest. Its just that the relationship isn't structured in such a way that's condusive to a romantic relationship. "Clients" make great friends, and often stay later than the hour (sorry again Chris and Andy but you're not going to break me of it) to chat or go out for a coffee on the way out... but its friends who help each other out, not a romantic encounter.
(Cute-bald I suspect this is the way your POF girl feels as well.)
Having worked and been good friends with a lot of agency girls I can think of one (out of maybe 40) that has dated a client.
(Cute-bald I suspect this is the way your POF girl feels as well.)
Having worked and been good friends with a lot of agency girls I can think of one (out of maybe 40) that has dated a client.
