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Quick question......At what age is it weird for you to still be a virgin?

And is it weird if I have sex with an escort for my first time.

Since I'll probably get questions on my background:

I'm 19 years old and I grew up in a very religious household. I was taught to save it for marriage but I've had a change of heart recently. I'm good looking(at least my mom tells me :)) but I have no idea how to go about getting with a girl because I have not even tried. My friend said I should just go for it and I would find out that women are not as scary as they look so I'm thinking an escort might help me with that.
 
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Your first time should be with someone you care about. Part of the learning process is to experience the highs and sometimes lows of relationships. Though escorts are wonderful, it's not what you should start off with and won't be the memory you'll cherish.
 
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Is there a girl you know that you'd like to date? If she's available, talk to her a bit - find out if she'd like to have dinner or go for drinks, or blading - whatever you think she'd be interested in.
You have to be a bit forward, I know it's awkward but it will get easier to talk to women with practice. There are a lot of women looking to meet nice guys.

Don't worry about being a virgin.
Be a nice guy and don't use her just to get laid. Unless she wants to use you in return, of course!
It will happen, I was 19 when I first had sex and it was about the same time for many of my friends.
Don't go the escort route if you're looking for a mate and eventually want to get married.
 
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Hey, welcome to terb.

Definitely go with your heart. If it feels right, go for it. If not, don't. Whatever you decide, good luck to you!

By the way, I think you meant beautiful women are intimidating rather than "scary", right?
 
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As long as you are not a virgin at 40, you have nothing to worry about. As for losing it to someone you love, that is great for women. But as a guy, I can tell you that half my friends lost their virginity to local skanks while drunk, the other half to girl friends. Both groups enjoyed it.

The good part of seeing a SP, especially one that is 30+ is that she will know exactly what to do and will probably be more willing to teach you and ensure you have a great time. Losing your virginity to another virgin means that both of you will be fumbling around, not knowing exactly what to do. Don't use porn as a guide BTW.
 
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The "right" age to lose your virginity is the age at which you are when you are ready to have sex. There's certainly nothing weird with being a virgin at 19.

As others have said, I would suggest that you have your first sexual experience with a non-SP. Maybe someone you care about, or just someone who you feel comfortable losing your virginity with. Sex can be a bit awkward in the best conditions (when you think about it, the noise, the smell, the bed gymnastics: it's all a bit awkward and funny), and the SP/client context can add a few extra layers of awkwardness, especially for someone who doesn't have any experience outside of paid sex.

Keep in mind also that for most people, their first time wasn't really all that. Sex is something that gets much better with practice and experience.
 
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Zibbers said:
And is it weird if I have sex with an escort for my first time.
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The definitive answer to your question is, No it is not weird too have sex with an escort for your first time.

There was once a time when fathers would bring their sons to an escort as a rite of passage into manhood.

Too bad my father had never heard of this and I had to fumble around in the front seat of my mother's honda civic with a girl who I barely knew.

Go to the review section. Pick a lady that fits the bill and tell her the situation.

I'm sure who ever you pick will make sure that it's an extra special event for you.
 
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I'm embarrassed thinking about my first time, porn wasn't up to par in illustrating exactly where it goes.
That was very heavy bush cuntry I ventured in.
 
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"Weird" is a relative term. What's unusual for one might not be for another.
Ah, 19. I'm sure you're hearing from all your buddies that they've been laid and they're teasing you about your virginity. I guess there's 2 routes to take at this point. You can cave in to the peer pressure and find a hooker and get the deed done. Or you can just tell your friends to back off. If they're your friends, they'll tease you about it but not mean it (e.g. you're not a man yet bullshit). But just remember, you only get 1 cherry and it cost $$$ to see an escort (and it adds about 1000% pressure -- there's guys on this board who have had sex with civilians but are too chicken to call and make an appointment with an escort). First time, it won't be memorable (or it will be but for bad reasons) -- it won't last long, it'll be awkward, etc. So, it might as well be with a civilian so you can talk about it with your buddies. Guys who sees escort keep this "hobby" to themselves. Also, in the real world, there's a perception (rightly or wrongly) that guys who sees escorts are losers. Listen to the mob and try meeting a civilian and seeing where that takes you. GL.
 
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I'm going to go the opposite direction to everyone else. I lost my virginity at 16 to a girl who had more experience but whom I had no real feelings for other than horniness. Quite frankly it was lame and I haven't been able to picture her face in my mind for a long time now.

The first girl I tried to go down on thought it was dirty and wasn't real thrilled about returning the favour either. But she did like to fuck. My sexual knowledge was therfore limited for the 2 years I went out with her.

I only wish I had seen a few sp's at the beginning to show me the ropes, so to speak. Kind of like wishing I'd taken a lesson before hitting the golf course for the first time.

Never underestimate confidence and being comfortable in what you are doing and knowing what to expect. Practice gives you all of those things

The idea that losing your virginity to someone you care about is a romantic notion that doesn't play quite as loudly for the male of the species.
 
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I didn't expect you all to try and convince me out of seeing an escort, I thought the guys and gals on this board would have done the exact opposite.

It's true that I was probably thinking of just getting it over with cause of peer pressure. I mean when you're around dudes and they're all talking about the girl they fucked last night or this girl they're trying to fuck, I'm usually just nodding like I know what they're talking about.

I think I'm going to take my time like a lot of you said. When I really think about it I wouldn't want to miss out on the process of getting to know someone, dating, kissing, being intimate. I might just need to put myself out there, it's probably not as difficult as I'm imagining.

I really thank you all for the beautiful advice. I was racking my brain like crazy over this and you really helped calm me down and think about it before I made any decisions I might have regret.

Thank you <3
 
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