DDLG is not always age regressive.
It could just be a Master/Slave dynamic with the girl calling you Daddy.
What did I do wrong? Industry related rant
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It could just be a Master/Slave dynamic with the girl calling you Daddy.
Nothing important enough to continue further posting back and forth.
Yeah I don't do the Daddy word. Not my thing.
I think you did the best you could and he simply perceived it differently. It may have nothing to do with what you said but perhaps past occurrences in his life. IMO you probably went above and beyond as that is your generous helpful nature. Heck, maybe his true kink is in “being shamed” for having it
I don't mind the daddy/mom if the age of the client is close to mine. But if it's too realistic it's weird a bit.
So we will never fantasize about AOC on the pillow together ???! 🥹 My heart is broken. My vagina is numb.I was going to say the same thing. I don't believe turning down the service was the issue; it was refusing future appointments.
I am so damn curious, what was the kink??? Must have been a doozy.
I get it though because if I see a review of a SP rimming a dude, I will never book her. She can be a 10 but she is off my list.
It's funny, I've had civvies and pros try to use the finger and the tongue and I stop them cold in their tracks. LOL
The crazy thing is I will DATO them if they have the perfect peach. I'm sick, I tell ya SICK!!!
Any decent guy would be told this and go ok.. she’s not the one to do this, I’m gonna go look for someone that can
and leave it at that
lots of cry babies out there
and leave it at that
lots of cry babies out there
nines, eights and sevens too please 
What did you do wrong? You took standard absolute dumb on-line word-salad, Reddit-type bullshit seriously.
Men go to see sex workers for a good time, to have an illusion of intimacy.
For some, it may be the only viable option to get laid.
Sex workers aren't supposed to be honest and forthcoming, especially if such honesty leads to hurt feelings. It messes with the whole "fantasy" concept.
Ghosting a sensitive client is a much better alternative vs putting him down, even gently.
Sure, your body, your choice etc. I'm on board with it, but many/most men aren't.
You are not going to start telling people you don't LFK/DFK cuz they're ugly Or you don't do missionary if they're too fat?
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You are rage baiting lol
Things are usually misinterpreted if it's said over text or email. It's not the same as having a conversation in person or over the phone where you can note tone and attitude while saying something. I'm sure you didn't mean anything by it by telling him to look on terb but clearly he took it the wrong way. If he is a client you actually vibed with and liked you could have possibly set up a phone conversation to just make sure there were no hard feelings and that you were actually trying to help him.
You did nothing wrong. Giving him suggestions of where to search for SPs that would fill his kink needs was above and beyond what you needed to do. That you don't want to see him I can also agree with but telling him face to face may not have been the best way, IMO. Some guys have fragile egos.
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You did the right thing, and went above and beyond.
In the past I've said that I'd always prefer to be told why I was being declined, or if a provider was otherwise having a problem with me, or was simply unavailable. I really would-- Communications going into the void causes head scratching and waiting around. If a provider is sufficiently interesting I may reach out a second time, but after that I'm done, even if curious. If I was declined the most I'd say is a polite reply, and then I'd move on. If there was anything I could clarify in one message I would, but otherwise it would be, "Thank you for letting me know." Being told is better than wondering or waiting, IMO.
However, I get that the guys that are the most likely to be declined may be the people the most likely to take it poorly. At that point all you can do is block and put it out of your head (as far as safety allows). As a provider it has to suck getting stuck in these situations.
In the past I've said that I'd always prefer to be told why I was being declined, or if a provider was otherwise having a problem with me, or was simply unavailable. I really would-- Communications going into the void causes head scratching and waiting around. If a provider is sufficiently interesting I may reach out a second time, but after that I'm done, even if curious. If I was declined the most I'd say is a polite reply, and then I'd move on. If there was anything I could clarify in one message I would, but otherwise it would be, "Thank you for letting me know." Being told is better than wondering or waiting, IMO.
However, I get that the guys that are the most likely to be declined may be the people the most likely to take it poorly. At that point all you can do is block and put it out of your head (as far as safety allows). As a provider it has to suck getting stuck in these situations.
The English language is a funny thing isn’t it? I’m still trying to figure out which meaning of “got off” you're referring to hereLOL...reminds me of the time I joined Fetlife and got off pretty quick.
That's on him. You told him what you are comfortable with and made it clear you don't offer the services he's looking for. You should have ended it there ie. ignore him. If he asked you if you knew other providers who do x,y,z then you can point him to TERB or wherever/whomever but unless he asked don't offer the suggestion(s).
