BTW, just in case it came out wrong, it wasn't a shot at you, I was referring to the persona of Don Draper.
What does it mean when a woman says "Let's just be friends"
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Precisely this. But, to get to the 'why'...
Most likely, she's just not that into you. You should not read into it more than that.. her reasons are her own. The good thing is she announced her intentions and now you may move on. If you decide to dwell, it would not be her error anymore.
I've had a guy say this to me before, in university some 10 years ago. He said his studies were more important than having a relationship at the time, despite having feelings for me. I didn't want to wait for him.
But this has happened. When I've said 'let's just be friends' to someone before, in my civie life, it was opposite of what it would usually mean - I had intense feelings for him and he wasn't open emotionally. I had to let that one go for my sanity's sake and to preserve our good memories together. I was both frustrated and angered that I couldn't have him the way I wanted to - but people are not to be controlled. I'm glad I made that decision and I stick by it. We are still in touch - we have a friendship with slight affections and a professional relationship, but no sexual tension really.
Perfect answer . If a guy has feelings for a lady it will drive him nuts being there only as a friend . It would be for me . Seeing her with someone else . No thanks . Some guys can handle that . I can't . Besides just going out for dinner and things like that will cost you money . Let the boyfriend pay her way is the way I see it .
No play .... No pay . She will no doubt ask you for favours as a buddy . No thanks . I've got buddies to hang around with . Not in need of another one .
I feel that your feelings for her will get stronger and stronger the more you see her . I don't need to be thinking about her all the time . Move on and forget her . Well for me anyways .
She means yeah, we fcuked a few times but you didn't beat my pussy up thoroughly so "lets just be friends". She might consider you an "In Case of Emergency Just Break Glass Penis" for her to keep on ice just in case she's crazy horny|drunk one night and needs some "familiar" dick. I wouldn't sweat it. Hang around, call her once a week at around 9:30pm (the witching hour for bootycalls) after a little dirty talk on the phone her panty will start getting moist and she'll invite you over for some smashing
The sublime brutal honesty of someone in the pay for play trade is worth it's weight in gold. Beautiful lady, and absolutely correct. She would still like your money OP, but your cock is being shown the door...…….I don't want to fuck with you anymore, but would be nice if you still pay my dinner!
All good. No worries.
You can't take a "shot" at me. We don't know each other personally. I'm confident that you're a a decent human.
Just remember this: YOU are in charge. YOU are the Man.
It takes 2 to tango and the Man takes the lead.
Always.
I wonder how many Men are never told this at the dawn of their youth.
This is one of the most Influenatial and Important threads on TERB on or any Men's website ever.
If you really want to mess with her head, acknowledge and accept what she said, don't make a big deal about it and cut it off - just be friendly but not a pushover. What she expects is for you to not be okay, for you to be upset or sad about it. Just agree with her and be cool. Don't ask to hang out as friends, and if she wants to hang out just say you have plans or something or other. She'll probably come back after a while wanting the original fwb arrangement lol. Women are emotional creatures and you have to play to that. Be confident.
It means YOU fucked up some how. You where too feminine , too needy or too emotional around her. Or you where too self centered in bed. You came too fast or didn't please her first. But chances r is was the former. You where too needy or too emotional.
True that. I'm thinking of GF #2. About three months in she decided I was not a good fit (pun intended). She was very mature, and she told me politely that I was 'fired.' I said I understand. I was also polite. A few weeks later we were together again, until we broke up for good. Looking back I see that she tried to control me, and ultimately she could not.
You are too kind, Don.
I volunteered in a previous thread which I also started, about breakups - were they amicable or not*. I volunteered that I made several rookie mistakes as a young man pursuing chicks. I discovered that 'Manning up' (I dislike this term) is what attracts women, and keeps them attracted.
I cringe when I think about some of my earlier mis-steps. But to my credit, I learned from my mistakes.
*This thread went nowhere.
