What is a strong woman ?
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She certainly did not become CEO by sleeping her way to the top.ayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyMD
Putting up with asshat comments from the peanut gallery is what probably made this woman strong then most. I can only imagine the extra hard work she had to put in to get where she is now.
Everyone who gets to the top puts in the extra hours, work, and energy. Without knowing a thing about her, only her success, I know she is a strong personality, likely extremely intelligent and dedicated too. She had to put her career above all her other interests. Not something women are known to do.
Based on her physical appearance, she may have higher levels of testosterone than a typical female which may have contributed to her undertaking whatever was necessary to get to the top. She may have more male tendencies than is usual. Whatever the case may be, good for her and her success!
While I may not have survived any wars and am a woman in the work force in a first world country, I've hardly had things easy.
I was put up for adoption because the man my biological mother married was an alcoholic, who didn't work much and wouldn't take care of me.
I was then adopted into an abusive home whereby my eldest brother molested me and the other one got funny ideas when I told him what the oldest was up to. No, I didn't tell my parents because they would have put the blame on me, not his 9 year older self, especially as he was biologically theirs and a boy, not a girl, which they held in higher regard.
A counselor I talked to at HS about the problems at home involved the CAS when there was proof of physical abuse, without my consent, who after 2 mediation sessions bailed on me because my dad was lying through his teeth and there was nothing they could do about it if he wasn't going to participate in the round table process. This only made the situation at home worse. Thank you very much CAS!
I then left home at 16 but was denied Student Welfare because my dad said I could live at home. I was living with an aunt (father's sister) and uncle. She was as tempermental as my dad and my uncle got funny ideas about me in his head, so I went home for 2 weeks only to leave again. This after talking to the same such said counselor as before about the problems at my relatives house who then called my aunt, telling her everything I said. I guess he thought I was the girl who cried wolf. So much for confidentiality!
I had also talked to my GP about the problems at my aunts. Why? My cousin, her daughter in law, told me to as she had experienced difficulties with her and gone to him. He diagnosed me with depression and gave me my options. Either take meds and move back home or be hospitalized. I pictured padded walls so opted for the lessor of two evils. Without counselling, which he didn't recommend, things didn't improve much.
I once moved 7 times in a year because I kept getting myself into sticky situations. One example is the roommate who turned into Mr. Hyde when he drank. He once came into my room late at night after being out drinking, grabbing my leg through the bedsheet, exclaiming in a sodden voice that I was too thin. I feigned sleep throughout this ordeal and ran downstairs to sleep on the downstairs tenant's couch after he finally dozed off.
I was employed as a waitress for many years after dropping out of HS to work for my supper. I had an employer that would purposely dock everyone's pay, claiming shortages, to fund his weekly out of pocket expenses. I was told by another employer that if they had to pay us for statutory holidays they might have to lay people off. Interestingly they had money for nose candy. Another employer didn't pay us for 4 weeks (biweekly pay period). I didn't stick around for week six and took them to the labour board, easily winning as they had X cases against them already. I've been ripped off/shorted by clients, but have never done so to them. But hey, I have it easy in the work world because I'm a woman!
When I was saving up to go to university my then roommate kept skimming money off the top of my stash. I didn't put it in the bank because I thought I might apply for OSAP and figured I wouldn't qualify if I did but needed the extra help all the same. When I broke up with my common law, whilst still in university, I let him keep a supplemental cc until he applied for one of his own. The first month we were apart he racked up 5 grand on it. I had to pay that, putting a big dent in my university stash and chased him for 2 years, first trying mediation that he ignored, finally taking him to small claims court and successfully winning my case. I then had to wait through another 2 years of wage garnishment to finally get all my money back. It is at this point that I got into the SW field!
I could go on but I think you get the point.
I rarely come on here but every time I do I read some bigoted post by some keyboard warrior. The antithesis to the SJW.
Am I a feminist? Absolutely if it means equal pay for equal work, etc.
Am I a strong woman? Absolutely as I've been through much adversity in life.
By the way, everything I own is bought and paid for by me, including my investments, etc. and I'm damn proud of that fact. I've done it all on my own with little to no help from anyone, including a second income from a SO, father's advice, etc. How many of you can honestly say that?
Maybe the better question is: What makes for a strong man?
I can tell you this much, it isn't sitting on an anonymous board putting down women all the time, insisting that we've all had it so much easier than you!
I was put up for adoption because the man my biological mother married was an alcoholic, who didn't work much and wouldn't take care of me.
I was then adopted into an abusive home whereby my eldest brother molested me and the other one got funny ideas when I told him what the oldest was up to. No, I didn't tell my parents because they would have put the blame on me, not his 9 year older self, especially as he was biologically theirs and a boy, not a girl, which they held in higher regard.
A counselor I talked to at HS about the problems at home involved the CAS when there was proof of physical abuse, without my consent, who after 2 mediation sessions bailed on me because my dad was lying through his teeth and there was nothing they could do about it if he wasn't going to participate in the round table process. This only made the situation at home worse. Thank you very much CAS!
I then left home at 16 but was denied Student Welfare because my dad said I could live at home. I was living with an aunt (father's sister) and uncle. She was as tempermental as my dad and my uncle got funny ideas about me in his head, so I went home for 2 weeks only to leave again. This after talking to the same such said counselor as before about the problems at my relatives house who then called my aunt, telling her everything I said. I guess he thought I was the girl who cried wolf. So much for confidentiality!
I had also talked to my GP about the problems at my aunts. Why? My cousin, her daughter in law, told me to as she had experienced difficulties with her and gone to him. He diagnosed me with depression and gave me my options. Either take meds and move back home or be hospitalized. I pictured padded walls so opted for the lessor of two evils. Without counselling, which he didn't recommend, things didn't improve much.
I once moved 7 times in a year because I kept getting myself into sticky situations. One example is the roommate who turned into Mr. Hyde when he drank. He once came into my room late at night after being out drinking, grabbing my leg through the bedsheet, exclaiming in a sodden voice that I was too thin. I feigned sleep throughout this ordeal and ran downstairs to sleep on the downstairs tenant's couch after he finally dozed off.
I was employed as a waitress for many years after dropping out of HS to work for my supper. I had an employer that would purposely dock everyone's pay, claiming shortages, to fund his weekly out of pocket expenses. I was told by another employer that if they had to pay us for statutory holidays they might have to lay people off. Interestingly they had money for nose candy. Another employer didn't pay us for 4 weeks (biweekly pay period). I didn't stick around for week six and took them to the labour board, easily winning as they had X cases against them already. I've been ripped off/shorted by clients, but have never done so to them. But hey, I have it easy in the work world because I'm a woman!
When I was saving up to go to university my then roommate kept skimming money off the top of my stash. I didn't put it in the bank because I thought I might apply for OSAP and figured I wouldn't qualify if I did but needed the extra help all the same. When I broke up with my common law, whilst still in university, I let him keep a supplemental cc until he applied for one of his own. The first month we were apart he racked up 5 grand on it. I had to pay that, putting a big dent in my university stash and chased him for 2 years, first trying mediation that he ignored, finally taking him to small claims court and successfully winning my case. I then had to wait through another 2 years of wage garnishment to finally get all my money back. It is at this point that I got into the SW field!
I could go on but I think you get the point.
I rarely come on here but every time I do I read some bigoted post by some keyboard warrior. The antithesis to the SJW.
Am I a feminist? Absolutely if it means equal pay for equal work, etc.
Am I a strong woman? Absolutely as I've been through much adversity in life.
By the way, everything I own is bought and paid for by me, including my investments, etc. and I'm damn proud of that fact. I've done it all on my own with little to no help from anyone, including a second income from a SO, father's advice, etc. How many of you can honestly say that?
Maybe the better question is: What makes for a strong man?
I can tell you this much, it isn't sitting on an anonymous board putting down women all the time, insisting that we've all had it so much easier than you!
Old Russian proverb. "woman without job like ox without cart. no fuckink use, comrade"
Thanks for sharing! Takes a smart, strong, sassy kinda woman not only to survive shit, but to excel ! (kick-ass) Respect!
Thanks for sharing! Takes a smart, strong, sassy kinda woman not only to survive shit, but to excel ! (kick-ass) Respect!
Thank You!
I realize that not all the members here are bitter towards women.
Wow this experience you share is very valuable and takes a certain type of individual to persevere and gain insight, value and purpose and still make the best of it. Some of the best and most valuable lessons come from hard experiences such as yours. Oprah Winfrey talks about this a lot including many of her guests and many share hardships in which they have persevered and gained a lot from these hard experiences and now they inspire others. Thanks for sharing your experiences with us and from what you wrote qualities as a strong woman. I hope you can pass along your lessons and inspire others based on what you have experienced and learned. This is one of the reasons why I have grown to adore the girls of this industry. It really is amazing when they open up and you see exactly what a hard life means and see what they are made of in an industry looked down upon by fake societies. I take this type of woman any day over the sheltered type who was spoon fed through life, with degrees after her name and no actual idea of self or what her life means. They all dolled with these labels up but empty on the inside always struggling to please others and get their validation.
Brother from another Mother . . . . . agree with you 100%
Still listening, still learning . . . . .
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wvWUpHv4AXs&t=616s
thanks man,
Reading about your awful childhood is just heartbreaking. I have so much respect for you Sophia! May all your days be happy ones.Thanks for sharing! Takes a smart, strong, sassy kinda woman not only to survive shit, but to excel ! (kick-ass) Respect!
Reading Sophias experiences puts our own experiences into check and makes many realize they are nothing in comparison to experiences she experienced and she has came out on top and has persevered. This is essence is why this hobby is so fucking addictive because sometimes you meet or stumble across real amazing people that have lived life and have amazing experiences to share with us which help ground us and put us in check. One of my best experiences is the very few times when the MPA have opened up and shared similar experiences 1 on 1 because they develop the trust and you feel their power and get inspired such as one time an MPA told me how she was abandoned by her parents at a very young age and her story you know is legit but yet she was such a sweet girl and had such a positive attitude and great ambitions and palans for future while in school paying for the tuition through the MP business.
@Sophia. I am also sorry like others have mentioned that you had such a tough childhood. No one should have to suffer that. Yet, I am glad you persevered and came out better on the other side and I wish you much continued success and happiness.
As an aside, you are the type of woman I admire not the candy assed weak women that are cuddled in this society and just because they have a degree and a job (probably one their daddy got them from his contacts) they feel like strong women. Strong is not doing what any adult should do (i.e. pay bills, work, take care of family, etc) but it is facing difficulties of life head on and persevering. I once read that life is moving from one obstacle getting over that and then facing another one. In doing so we become stronger and more confident in ourselves.
For the record, I am not against marriage or relationships. I'd happily marry tomorrow if I found a strong woman like Sophia or my mother or grandmothers. Women that I know won't flinch or run away the first sign or trouble. The issue is that living here the quality of women is lacking. Many that adhere to the latest wave of feminism want everything easy and are opportunists. For this reason I doubt if I have to stay here I'd marry. I hope I'm wrong but I don't see this generation of women getting better if anything they are getting worse.
As an aside, you are the type of woman I admire not the candy assed weak women that are cuddled in this society and just because they have a degree and a job (probably one their daddy got them from his contacts) they feel like strong women. Strong is not doing what any adult should do (i.e. pay bills, work, take care of family, etc) but it is facing difficulties of life head on and persevering. I once read that life is moving from one obstacle getting over that and then facing another one. In doing so we become stronger and more confident in ourselves.
For the record, I am not against marriage or relationships. I'd happily marry tomorrow if I found a strong woman like Sophia or my mother or grandmothers. Women that I know won't flinch or run away the first sign or trouble. The issue is that living here the quality of women is lacking. Many that adhere to the latest wave of feminism want everything easy and are opportunists. For this reason I doubt if I have to stay here I'd marry. I hope I'm wrong but I don't see this generation of women getting better if anything they are getting worse.
