When to Leave/Ask for Donation?

[KittyCaterina]

This thread is written purely out of curiousity and interest in SW/Client opinions.

I have noticed in many reviews that clients have complaints about when and how the donation is asked for.

Is this because it is asked for as soon as you walk in the door? Or because it is asked for once you are on the bed? Or because it is asked for at all? Please post your preference or your way of leaving the donation.

For SWs, what is your protocol when it comes to acquiring the donation? What do you expect from your client?

I will post my answer in a separate post.

 

[KittyCaterina]

On my website, I do ask that the donation is left on my dresser or in clear view once you enter my bedroom.
I actually prefer no envelope with new clients and never count the donation in front of a client unless asked to.

When you walk in my door, you get a friendly greeting with me in lingerie, hugs and kisses, and then you take your shoes off and enter my room.
Once you enter my bedroom I expect the donation to be left on a surface unless you are a longterm regular that I trust.

I feel uncomfortable having to ask, especially if the client is eager and things get hot and heavy right away before showering.
Interrupting a hot groping and make out session to ask for the money is the last thing I want to do, which is why I am clear in my guidelines on my website.
I just do not feel comfortable continuing a session without being paid first.

The problem is, about 60% of my new clients forget or neglect to follow my guidelines to place the donation on my dresser.
So I have to awkwardly say something along the lines of "Hey hun, do you mind leaving the donation on the dresser first"?

 

[Mr Deeds]

When the client walks in the door get the donation unless hes a regular and you trust him. Put your preferences in your ad s0 there's no confusion

 

[thalastjedi]

This thread is written purely out of curiousity and interest in SW/Client opinions.

I have noticed in many reviews that clients have complaints about when and how the donation is asked for.

Is this because it is asked for as soon as you walk in the door? Or because it is asked for once you are on the bed? Or because it is asked for at all? Please post your preference or your way of leaving the donation.

For SWs, what is your protocol when it comes to acquiring the donation? What do you expect from your client?

I will post my answer in a separate post.

Majority of the time I provide the donation after the session. Either while retiring in bed having a quick chat or before I head to the shower. I do not prefer to be asked up front for the donation as it's a bit of a mood killer for me in anticipation of being with a lovely lady

 

[Jasmina]

I slipped once, got caught up with a new client, and got ripped off. I had no trouble asking that point on.

Typically I would greet with a warm smile, hello, and hug and if after the greeting they did not immediately move to place money on the dresser, I would smile, bat my eyelashes and say, "are you forgetting something?", making it as playful and light as possible. I would then let them know they were welcome to freshen up in the washroom, giving me a chance to count the money, and stash it away. If they declined (and ewww guys don't decline, go wash your hands if nothing else), I would try to count/stash it while they took off shoes/undressed.

I understand some feel like it is better to pay after, but that just isnt feasible in this business.

 

[xmontrealer]

I like to give the donation up front. I'm sure it puts the lady's mind at ease if it's our first meeting.

However I often get quite involved in conversation with my few regulars as soon as I enter the room, and have to admit that I have sometimes forgotten to pay up front, and have even started to leave without remembering to pay.

Usually the lady will gently remind me just before I walk out the door, but on very rare occasions neither of us remembered until after I left, and I got a text from her or the agency about it. A problem that is resolved by either myself going back to pay if the next guy isn't already there, or by e-transfer.

So that is another reason why I like to pay up front unless it slips my mind.

 

[KittyCaterina]

Majority of the time I provide the donation after the session. Either while retiring in bed having a quick chat or before I head to the shower. I do not prefer to be asked up front for the donation as it's a bit of a mood killer for me in anticipation of being with a lovely lady

So my question is, why not just put the donation on her dresser before the session without being asked?

That way she is comfortable knowing you have paid, and you are not confronted with her asking for it.

Or is it just the act of paying first that kills the mood for you, no matter if it is asked for or not?

I have to admit, with a new client I would not be comfortable taking payment afterwards.

 

[onomatopoeia]

The gentleman should offer the donation in the first few minutes of the session. The lady should count it and hide it somewhere while he's in the shower.

 

[Akila Besos]

It depends
I know I should generally ask for it prior to any fun commencing but I typically get it right near the end placed on the dresser or in my hand. Clients I've seen are fairly good with that but I'm also fine with them paying prior to the first shower

I read the aura/ character and proceed based on that which has been fairly successful for the most part

 

[KittyCaterina]

It depends
I know I should generally ask for it prior to any fun commencing but I typically get it right near the end placed on the dresser or in my hand. Clients I've seen are fairly good with that but I'm also fine with them paying prior to the first shower

I read the aura/ character and proceed based on that which has been fairly successful for the most part

Yes, I have realized that trusting my gut feeling or as you said reading the aura/character of someone is important.

I am not always right, but for the most I am.

 

[philandsararecordings]

This thread is written purely out of curiousity and interest in SW/Client opinions.
I have noticed in many reviews that clients have complaints about when and how the donation is asked for.
Is this because it is asked for as soon as you walk in the door? Or because it is asked for once you are on the bed? Or because it is asked for at all? Please post your preference or your way of leaving the donation.
For SWs, what is your protocol when it comes to acquiring the donation? What do you expect from your client?
I will post my answer in a separate post.

IMO, this is a YMMV from both sides....

I feel that it's common courtesy for the client to provide the donation upfront (and decide to whether to tip later on). I tip and give gifts up front, but I'm also a sucker...

It's hard for me to know how things go in different scenarios because I typically give the charitable donation in an envelope at the beginning of the session. The few times I have forgotten, the SP did not say anything and I eventually remembered. I have never had an SP take the cash out and count it in front of me, which would have kinda killed the mood.

There has only been one time (If you search, "My worst experience hobbying so far...") where the SP actually made an issue of it right away - she requested it before I even had an opportunity to give it to her.

I have no idea what it's like to be an SP: if clients make it an issue of $, bargain with you, stiff you, or whatever,....

My experience has mostly been that SPs have not been pushy about it (again, not an issue because I try to pay up front with tip, as long as it doesn't slip my mind), but I have no idea what it's like on the other side of the coin....

Haven't read the thread yet, interested in variety of perspectives....

 

[Bobzilla]

If it's someone I've never seen before, I'll give it to her when I get there, no envelope. If it's someone I have seen before, I'll give it to her when I get there, usually in an envelope. In both cases, I don't want to be thinking about it, and I don't want her to be thinking about it. I would much rather get it out of the way, so we can both concentrate on having fun. If someone is uncomfortable with paying up front in this business, I would bet they're uncomfortable about paying at all.

 

[y2kmark]

First timers: Get a clear picture of his face on your cell phone, consider a fingerprint app as they become available. If he asks, tell him you want another dick pic, but not just now. As for the donation as soon as the door is closed. If it's cash, be sure to count it in front of your client, just to get off on the right foot. I have had this very thing happen to me (the counting part, not the rest)...

 

[boomboom]

I too see both sides of this. I've had it be a mood killer, but understand the need to count beforehand. The only thing I ever forgot over the years once was my watch on the nightstand. Quite often I leave it under her cell or glass/cup if she has one, as she watches me put it there.
Sometimes it depends on the greeting too, especially if a repeat, great hug & kiss as I enter, remove my coat if on & more DFK with roaming hands on both parties. Now that I'm out of town, I always insist on a freshen up shower before getting too far.

 

[y2kmark]

Personally, given the nature of the business, I would find it distasteful to slip a 20 into her hand as I was leaving as a way of saying, "Hey. Great blow job."

Means you don't know her well enough yet, especially since you wouldn't come out and say it...

 

[RLTF]

I offer an envelope minutes after arriving. Once I hit the showers my date can make sure it’s good. I will comment about ”that thing you did was awesome!” After the fact. It opens up dialog about what works for each other during sex and enhances future sessions. I think of the envelope this way: you wouldn’t get into Canada’s Wonderland without paying first. The rides are a lot better with my fave escorts.

 

[thumper18474]

two sides here
Paying up front...what if she doesnt deliver on agreed upon services ...more prevalent in TOFTT scenarios,,,how do we ask for some back?
Paying afterwards....chance of client forgetting cus the session was so mindblowing his brain wasnt functioning properly..LOL
or
incase of a new client he attempts a dine n dash ...or you got short changed...ooops left my wallet in the car(this one always slays me) and so on.
I dont think there is a right or wrong answer here...

personally i have always paid up front regardless ..doesnt matter if its a TOFTT or a 10 yr relationship...
MY pet peeve is when the SW Counts it infront of me !!
anyone does that with me, They never see me again...regardless of how great the session was

 

[thumper18474]

I offer an envelope minutes after arriving. Once I hit the showers my date can make sure it’s good. I will comment about ”that thing you did was awesome!” After the fact. It opens up dialog about what works for each other during sex and enhances future sessions. I think of the envelope this way: you wouldn’t get into Canada’s Wonderland without paying first. The rides are a lot better with my fave escorts.

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[Jenesis]

On my website, I do ask that the donation is left on my dresser or in clear view once you enter my bedroom.
I actually prefer no envelope with new clients because I can see and estimate the money left without having to count it as I dislike counting it in front of someone.

When you walk in my door, you get a friendly greeting with me in lingerie, hugs and kisses, and then you take your shoes off and enter my room.
Once you enter my bedroom I expect the donation to be left on a surface unless you are a longterm regular that I trust.

I feel uncomfortable having to ask, especially if the client is eager and things get hot and heavy right away.
Interrupting a hot groping and make out session to ask for the money is the last thing I want to do, which is why I am clear in my guidelines on my website.
I just do not feel comfortable continuing a session without being paid first.

The problem is, about 60% of my new clients forget or neglect to follow my guidelines to place the donation on my dresser.
So I have to awkwardly say something along the lines of "Hey hun, do you mind leaving the donation on the dresser first"?

My routine is almost the same. Except I take temp at the door before the hug and kiss greeting. Then when I bring them in the room I simply say

“Feel free to put your stuff here (usually clothes, phone, watch, hat, etc) and you can throw donation there.”

However while I’m taking, I’ll also get really casual. I’ll also ask things like “do you like my outfit” or “ do you like how I got dressed up for you” and do a little twirl. 9/10 times it takes the focus off the money and back on me. This is also when I offer a towel for shower - etc.

I will spread the cash for a quick count as I recently got ripped off $40 on a call. But usually this is when the client is distracted taking off clothes or having a shower. I leave the money on the table so the client feels more comfortable. Like I didn’t just snatch it away greedily. It also helps the guy because he sees it is still there and can feel that if he doesn’t get the service he requested, he can take the money back. I’ll be honest. That will NEVER happen because the money is by the bear spray and if you touch it, me and you and the room is in for a nasty surprise, but I want my new clients to feel as comfortable as possible.

I will not see a guy who insists on pay at the end. If you say no you will pay at the end when I make my donation request, I will tell you to leave. It is too much of a red flag. I’m sorry if clients have had negative experiences but I have the reputation to back up my professionalism so if that is not enough for you to leave the donation in plain view for both of us until the end of the appointment, I will just ask you to leave and find another escort better suited to your needs.

I like to give the donation up front. I'm sure it puts the lady's mind at ease if it's our first meeting.

However I often get quite involved in conversation with my few regulars as soon as I enter the room, and have to admit that I have sometimes forgotten to pay up front, and have even started to leave without remembering to pay.

Usually the lady will gently remind me just before I walk out the door, but on very rare occasions neither of us remembered until after I left, and I got a text from her or the agency about it. A problem that is resolved by either myself going back to pay if the next guy isn't already there, or by e-transfer.

So that is another reason why I like to pay up front unless it slips my mind.

This has happened with me a couple times with regulars but they have always come through in the end. It is a honest mistake and sometimes you just get caught up with the person. I had one weekly regular leave, go home and I didn’t realize until a few hours later. It was a homebase appointment so I was just puttering around the house after. He drove back the next day to give me the cash. LOL.

 

[Fun For All]

I hand an envelope to the SP to make sure she knows she got it and she can put it where she wants...but first, I take about 5 seconds to make sure there are no shenanigans going on.