Which type of SP do you prefer?

[ha7271]

A provider who asks you (What do you want me to do?) and does everything you ask her for? Or a provider that makes you feel like her boyfriend, where things flow naturally, but not necessarily get everything you wished for?

 

[Celticman]

Natural flow. Who knows, I might get everything I wish for as well !! It's the Betty Boop in me

 

[freestuff]

She's not my girlfriend, she's my escort.

 

[tennessee]

Definitely the natural kind. Service may be meh, but as long as I get the sexual experience, then I'm happy. On the other hand, the "what do you want me to do" kind of girls really make me uncomfortable, especially when an SP that I will not name who was like that tried to take my keys.

 

[lenny2]

I'd rather get what i want & be happy than not get it & be frustrated.

 

[lenny2]

Even with an SP, no matter how much you pay, you really don't get a "What do you want to do?" type of SP, so I would consider that a mythical SP. More of an academic exercise, since they don't exist, I've never found one, I can't answer which one I prefer since I've only ever seen one type, the "natural flow of the moment" type.

In Canada this may be harder to find than elsewhere, such as Thailand where an SP asking "what do you want"
& doing it is not so uncommon.

 

[thecuriousgeorge]

Even with an SP, no matter how much you pay, you really don't get a "What do you want to do?" type of SP, so I would consider that a mythical SP. More of an academic exercise, since they don't exist, I've never found one, I can't answer which one I prefer since I've only ever seen one type, the "natural flow of the moment" type.

You've never met Tamara...

 

[ha7271]

I prefer the natural flow SPs. I have met 2 well reviewed SPs who asked me (so, what do you want me to do?) and I agree with tennessee that this question makes me VERY uncomfortable, especially if I've already sent an email stating my requests. It actually is a turn off to me.

So whiteman, you are lucky you haven't met one yet (from my point of view). Some other guys might disagree. To me, the mechanical type are exactly like masturbation. Spending time with them is not an experience I'm looking for.

Even with an SP, no matter how much you pay, you really don't get a "What do you want to do?" type of SP, so I would consider that a mythical SP. More of an academic exercise, since they don't exist, I've never found one, I can't answer which one I prefer since I've only ever seen one type, the "natural flow of the moment" type.

 

[calloway]

Totally depends on my mood and the lady involved.

 

[djk]

Where's the option that she's a nasty little thing and I don't have to tell her?

 

[ogibowt]

A provider who asks you (What do you want me to do?) and does everything you ask her for? Or a provider that makes you feel like her boyfriend, where things flow naturally, but not necessarily get everything you wished for?

i once had a girlfriend who gave me all that i wished for.....but then again i went to see an SP once that was so restrictive that i left early....lol......

get the point?

 

[lenny2]

I like it if I take the initiative, but I like it even better if the girl takes the initiative and comes up with her own scenarios.

The problem with her taking the initiative & having no clue what you want is she'll do things that bore you or you totally hate.

If it's not the first time with her, then hopefully she'll recall what you like & can take the initiate with that.

 

[lenny2]

A provider who asks you (What do you want me to do?) and does everything you ask her for? Or a provider that makes you feel like her boyfriend, where things flow naturally, but not necessarily get everything you wished for?

I'll never feel like her BF, because i'm not. Any thoughts otherwise are just deluding oneself. I see SP's for the sexual pleasure
they give me and physical contact they provide, not a mental fantasy-dream. OTOH if she treats me passionately like she would
a BF, then i'll probably be more turned on, get hard faster, and enjoy a better session than with an SP who's distant, lazy,
grumpy or having a bad hair day.

 

[lenny2]

If a girl takes the sexual initiative, since when will it bore you?

Are these your thought bubbles when a girl takes an initiative?

• "Yawn, she's greeted me at the door naked, I'm gonna fall asleep!"
• "Oh no, she's giving me a blowjob again, how cliche? "
• "Oh crap, she's rimming my anus again, can these girls not get a clue?"
• "Why do these girls always think I want them to stick their tongues down my throat? Yeesh."

No, i'm thinking more of stuff i dislike like:

1) Yesterday an SP "took the initiative" & purposely spat a huge amount of saliva into my mouth.
Actually it was more like slowly pouring it in than spitting, but still distasteful nevertheless. I
suspect she's been spending too much time with Japanese customers & porn.

2) SP's who bite your lips so hard when kissing they practicly break the skin or leave blood
blisters.

3) SP's who have no clue how to give a good BBBJ, or at least one that does anything for me,
except bore me to sleep or tears.

4) SP's who initiate touching my body in areas that are injured.

5) SP's giving you a unrequested massage, lame HJ or BBBJ when you want DATO or DFK.

I could give dozens more examples, but that might give some idea of what i'm referring to.

If i want the things you mention, i can request them in advance. Then, if she is willing, i'll
be quite confident to recieve them, rather than just hoping she can read my mind. If she's
not willing, i haven't wasted my money on her & will find one who'll satisfy me.

 

[MissCroft]

Yeah, no argument there, having to explain anything is a definite turn-off. I always prefer to let the flow of the moment take us wherever we're supposed to go. I'd prefer if the girl was just flexible without requiring instructions.

This may sound weird coming from an SP but I've felt the same way. When a client asks me "what do you like?" and seems to be wanting instructions, it makes me slightly uncomfortable. I realize that he may just be trying to learn how to please a woman and there's nothing wrong with that. lol But I guess I just prefer a natural flow as well as opposed to a structured "What do you want me to do?" "Now what would you like?" IMO, it disrupts the 'flow' and the 'passion'. Does that make sense?

 

[d_jedi]

Generally speaking, natural flow. But sometimes, there is a specific thing you want to do with that girl - ex. if she squirts, or does greek, etc. - and it'd be disappointing (or, at least, not all you hoped it could be) if you miss out on that..

 

[ImperialB]

I think all of the communication should be done with body language.

Agreed, but still a natural flow. IMO a cute tease of question, "in here" "like this" with a naughty smile incorporated blows my mind! All without telling her what to do.. she already knows!

 

[massman]

Natural flow 4 sure. If the session goes like this, then it is never "meh"'service wise. If I'm interested in a particular service, I'll book a girl who I knows offers, therefore if I decide to ask for it, there won't likely be an awkward rejection!

 

[CallistaXXX]

Why can't you have it both ways? I do and it works... This is what I want. This is what I get. Then we're both happy. We get what we want, then we can chat, be friends; it's all very natural... Ta friggin da.

xo

 

[massman]

Why can't you have it both ways? I do and it works... This is what I want. This is what I get. Then we're both happy. We get what we want, then we can chat, be friends; it's all very natural... Ta friggin da.

xo

Exactly what I was getting at. I prefer not to create a "work order" at the beginning, rather see where things take us, and let what is enjoyable at the moment lead to what is to come next.