Whose responsibility is it?

[The Baroness]

The scene:

You are with someone that you have only been seeing about a month.
Things get very HOT and you have sex without a condom(which is not something either of you endorse).

Is it either ones fault?I believe they both share responsibility in this one but the man believes it is a womans job to make sure protection is used seeing as men think with their little head.

 

[gramage]

definately both peoples fault. the guy has to know to wrap it up but the woman can't let him get away with not wearing protection.

 

[drlove]

Yes. I agree.... another way of looking at it is, since when is your personal safety someone elses responsibility?? One would think both parties involved would have enough common sense to protect themselves. If not, hopefully the other individual will speak up.

 

[Sasha Jones]

In this case I voted for the woman because you are asking the question and you are the woman.

This might sound a little harsh but if niether of you endorse sex without condoms how did it happen that you had sex without one? Obviously your views on safe sex aren't really all that serious now are they?

I have been seeing the same guy for a year now and I wouldn't dare have sex without a condom. Not because I don't trust him ( i trust him totally) but because if anything happend I would like to know that I took all the precautions neccessary to prevent it.

I have always been of the belief that STD's aside the woman is the one left with the "baggage" so to speak. If you don't want to deal with that sort of thing, raising a baby, abortion, adoption. Then you sure as hell won't "forget" to put on a condom.

I don't think there is any excuse for overlooking that when you get "caught up in the moment".

 

[sara@select]

This is why I admire Sasha so very much. She is 100% right on!!If you are "mature" enough to take off your clothes and have sex, you should be mature enough to take responsibility for yourself. If, at the end of the day you can't- then for goodness sake keep your legs closed/pants zipped! If that sounds harsh I don't mean it to be but it is reality. Being an adult involves being responsible for your actions at ALL TIMES! and if not it also means living with the consequences.

Sara x

 

[fiasco]

to each his own

Cant speak for anyone else but if in a personal situation would blame no one but myself. Have and never will have sex without a condom until married and this is just to protect myself so if by some chance i did have unprotected sex then no ones fault but my own.

 

[The Baron]

Sasha I know Mirandas views on safe sex I think all she was triing to do is start a discussion of intrest so lets not make this a personal attack on her. We all know that not taking precausions is not the brightest thing to do. I think all she was tring to do is get some other peoples views on the subject. I do however agree that it is the responsibility of both parties to play safe. But some men being what they are tend to push the limits so the burden is on the woman not very fair but sadly true

Baron

 

[sarasota]

The scene:

... seeing as men think with their little head.

That to is a thought you might want to reconsider as it will also affect your present and future happiness.

 

[rr_bill]

Since this is an Escort Review Board ->

....................... I do however agree that it is the responsibility of both parties to play safe. But some men being what they are tend to push the limits so the burden is on the woman not very fair but sadly true
Baron

I'd have to agree with Baron's assessment here, however my position will not necessarily be acceptable to all people in every situation. Since this board is primarily concerned with the escort scene my comments are intended to embrace that understanding and of course may not be applicable to personal relationships between friends.

Yes, as Miranda says, things can get very hot and steamy and it is by natures command that "the male's function is to spread the seed". This means then that when things do get too steamy it is the males natural, inborn tendency to proceed to complete his "duty" to Mother Nature. Knowing this trait of the male of the species, the provider of service must of necessity have her own agenda and be prepared to counter those long standing intentions of Mother Nature.

He, as the purchaser of a few moments of pleasure, unfortunately thinks predominantly about his own pleasure and less about responsibility.

She, being the professional provider of such service to her client, must of necessity make foremost, at all cost, the responsibilty for her own safety.

Now, if Miranda had intended this to be about a personal relationship and not a working relationship, then I would opt for mutual responsibility.

 

[johnyboy]

you would not ask someone to wrap a gift you were gonna give them now would you ssooo...if you are gonna give the gift of love don't forget to wrap it....

 

[Dorm201]

intimacy and condoms

Is it that important not to use condoms in a loving relationship? I see alot of people saying that in an intimate relationship there is an overwhelming urge not to use condoms. Does intimacy mean being as close as possible and not using a condom? Does it imply trust in your partner?

I'd really like to understand how passion or love can over come sensibility, especially for SPs.

 

[Foxhound]

Miranda!

Hot and heavy with your boytoy Gramage?

 

[Sasha Jones]

Well I didn't realy mean it as a personal attack on Miranda.

All I was saying is that if this did indeed happen there is NO excuse for not protecting yourself. To many people use the bullshit comment that they got caught up in the moment. It is really a very childish excuse.
If you can't be responsible for your own health and well being, how can you be responsible for anything or anyone else in your life?

If you don't have a condom, don't have sex. If you have a condom, use it. It is really a pretty simple premise. You are the only person who can protect yourself. As I said if you were to go ahead and have sex without protection, you are going to be the one who has to live with the consequences, and unfortunately women, by nature, end up with the majority of those consequences, wether it be STD's, or babies.

If you are smart enough to get a guy into bed you should be smart enough to get a condom on him too.

Once again this is not a personal attack on Miranda, but rather a general statement to anyone who would be in the same situation.

 

[TravellingGuy]

LOL

If you are smart enough to get a guy into bed you should be smart enough to get a condom on him too.

I don't think you need to be smart at all to get a man into bed, but safe sex is always a smart thing.

 

[Sasha Jones]

how did I know someone was going to say that!

 

[train]

Well at the risk of making a gross generalization - one rarely hears a young guy saying he would like to have sex with a smart chick for once .

 

[Cool Dude]

Smart?

If you are smart enough to get a guy into bed you should be smart enough to get a condom on him too.

Try breathing.

 

[Jay_toronto]

Sorry Miranda:

No matter how uppity he gets with me, I'll never allow my little head power of veto. It would be my fault if I did.

Recent argument:

Little head - I gotta have Sasha!

Big Head - I want a house.

LH - Fangu the house!

BH - No, flunk you and Sasha to.

LH - Who's on first?

BH - The house.

LH - Who?

BH - F##k off!

LH - Cool!

 

[Dorm201]

A woman's perspective?

Here's a question. What are the reasons for wanting to go bareback for a woman?

Is it for more intimacy? Is it to show trust?