Why do clients want to change Sps ?

[Alexis696969]

I dont want to get into the whole scoop ,the bottom line is ,I have retired this year from a few years of being an sp/mp and having a break doing other crappy jobs in the meantime .Yes i have been able to keep up my lifestyle only because i kept seeing my regulars up to this point .Heres where Im very pissed off right now .One of these clients has been my fav client and plus he sees me weekly for years ..well guess what shit he pulled on me today ....he wants to pay for my university course and doesnt want me to return to seeing new clients in the spring cause he thinks i need to be in the real world .Im like wtf? then the huge ass speach that i deserve more and that theres too many assholes out there to abuse woman .Now hes not the first and im sure not the last that pulls this pyschology crap on my head .

Now i dont wanna see him for new years ! I think hes the biggest hypocrite on the planet ......he will still see sps, .......how dare he tell me to quit .......yes im thankful that he wants to pay thousands for a university course .....but i dont want to be only exclusive to him .....im not wanting a husband for crying out loud ! he says if i dont take the offer for school he doesnt know if he can see me anymore if i start seeing new clients !!!!!!! but its ok for this guy to see other sps !!!!

Why do some of you clients play this card that say she needs to quit cause shes too good or whatever else for this business and tell her you will help her get out and then support and see other escorts !!!!!!!!! i think men that pull this shit are hypocrites!!!!!

 

[Svend]

Does this mean there's an opening?


I sense he means well and simply wants you to himself. Let a guy have these fantasies, just do what's in your best interest.

 

[slick_romeo]

Why do some of you clients play this card that say she needs to quit cause shes too good or whatever else for this business and tell her you will help her get out and then support and see other escorts !!!!!!!!! i think men that pull this shit are hypocrites!!!!!

its not about being a hypocrite, he has a subconcious madonna/whore complex (like 90% of the guys out there today) and will never understand why this is bad...

 

[Alexis696969]

Svend
No ,on the rate my girlfriend and I are drinking right now we might not be awake for new years haha we are already half way there

 

[Alexis696969]

I agree, a lot of us are simply greedy, self-centred shits; me included...my SO is at home working her ass off getting things ready for tonights festivities thinking that I'm at my office preparing for a business trip when I'm actually here just surfing terb. (everything is ready for the business trip) If things were the other way around, I'd be PISSED! Hypocrite?...Yes! Sounds like he just wants you to be his exclusive mistress and not an sp for other's anymore. We also think we can always get our own way with money.

I appreciate your honesty


cheers!!!!!

 

[drrogers]

Interesting, I have heard this lament over and over from a number of girls. They get one or two clients that they have a rapport with and see them often and over a number of years. Then John decides he wants a better life for "his girl" while he continues on with his hobbying and stays happily married. Give it up guys. If an SP wants a Surgar daddy she will let you know, if she wants a husband, she will let you know. In my experience a girl who I have met as an SP is usually happier if she continues working, be it part time or full time - she is usually strong minded, independant and very sexual and is not looking for any kind of an exclusivitiy. It is possible for an SP to have an amazing relaitionship with a client as long as he understands what she needs - it is not all about what he needs, even though he is paying because she is paying as well in one way or another. Send me your OHIP # and there will be no billing for this consultation

 

[tboy]

The selfish bastard, to even THINK that you'd appreciate a university education and to get out of the biz permanantly....fuck, what an asshole!

 

[Alexis696969]

The selfish bastard, to even THINK that you'd appreciate a university education and to get out of the biz permanantly....fuck, what an asshole!

well yes there are strings attached .....i get the school if i only see him and noone else ......but he can still see sps mps and im to cater to his demands while in school .....i rather see him as a client and pay the rest of the course myself ! he wants it his way or the highway !!! yes im very stressed .....cause i have been very spoiled financially from him ........so its a huge decision ! yes i appreciate it so much what he offered ......i just dont like the fact i cant see other men !!!!!!! hes a hypocrite !!!!!!!!!

 

[Alexis696969]

Tell him that. If he is that attached to you there is no way in a million years he will give up seeing you.

well he already gave me the ultimatum ,that if stay as being an sp ,he wont see me anymore cause he feels to guilty now , WTF ??? he wants me to feel special ............oh spare me !!!!!!!!!! this guy has seen me for years !!!!!! whats his problem ??????.......is he saying he doesnt want other sps to feel special by paying them !!!!!!!! hypocrite!!!!!!!

 

[Garrett]

well yes there are strings attached .....i get the school if i only see him and noone else ......but he can still see sps mps and im to cater to his demands while in school .....i rather see him as a client and pay the rest of the course myself ! he wants it his way or the highway !!! yes im very stressed .....cause i have been very spoiled financially from him ........so its a huge decision ! yes i appreciate it so much what he offered ......i just dont like the fact i cant see other men !!!!!!! hes a hypocrite !!!!!!!!!

He is not a hypocrite. He is the one paying, and he wants to pay for exclusivity. The fact that it is a dilemma for you means he has likely dropped serious coin and is in the ballpark. Reasons for exclusivity could be the alpha male rearing its head or even just common sense to limit your exposure to potential STD's (and his exposure).

 

[forcebwu]

I had two regular SP whom I was seeing on alternating weeks for 2 years... One was retired but she still saw me privately an they were more like date/session.

These two SP are friends and the other is an active SP . Funny thing is they both live in the same building, not same condo though. One day, the retired SP saw me at the lobby of her condo talking to the concierge, she got upset b/c she though I was coming to see her. I pulled her aside and explained I was going to see another friend in the same building. Well, she figure out who and she had one of those looks in her eye that said "what a bitch". I've seen her a few times since but she does not even say hello or give an acknowledgement. My office is around the area and before she would often say hello if we bumped into each other in the nearby area. This of course tells me she is upset I am still seeing her friend. I am not sure if she thought that I was exclusive to her while she was retired. I like to keep things discreet so I did not think it was anyone's business who I saw regardless of the location. I've never mentioned this to the other SP who does not know my TERB handle.

Alexis, I do not want to alarm you but becareful with that fellow. If anything, keep in on a short leash - meaning time to cut him off. Further delay could send the wrong signals.

And, if you need a substitute to take his place - you know where to find me

 

[Alexis696969]

He is not a hypocrite. He is the one paying, and he wants to pay for exclusivity. The fact that it is a dilemma for you means he has likely dropped serious coin and is in the ballpark. Reasons for exclusivity could be the alpha male rearing its head or even just common sense to limit your exposure to potential STD's (and his exposure).

well if he gets to screw around with sps mps and strippers and i dont .........thats just selfish !!!!!and meaningless ......that STD alibi wont work !!!!

 

[bethy]

well yes there are strings attached .....i get the school if i only see him and noone else ......but he can still see sps mps and im to cater to his demands while in school .....i rather see him as a client and pay the rest of the course myself ! he wants it his way or the highway !!! yes im very stressed .....cause i have been very spoiled financially from him ........so its a huge decision ! yes i appreciate it so much what he offered ......i just dont like the fact i cant see other men !!!!!!! hes a hypocrite !!!!!!!!!

How clearly you are in a state of confusion. Let me break it down for you.

He wants you to quit SPing. That’s why he offer to support you financially until your education.

It is clearly a good intension. You are lucky there is a man who cares about your well being, other men don’t give a fuck.

As for him seeing other SP, this man goes around and see SP's, and when he found a nice sp he really likes, he wants to do something nice for her. And you became judgmental and criticize him? How unstreet-wise is that?

This man likes you and he wants you to have the higher education that you deserve so then you will be prepared to get a normal job.

Take the offer or leave it, perhaps you aren’t as smart as he thinks.

 

[my2cents]

I think from a guys perspective he sees this as a helping hand and figures deep down you need encouragement. From your post it is obvious he is wrong about this.
Yea he is a hypocrite but so are most men who have a SO and see an SP. So you have benefitted from men being hypocrites but when a man's hypocrasy doesn't suit you then you get pissed off.
I think the guy is misguided in thinking that his understanding of bettering yourself is your understanding of bettering yourself. However you are dealing in fantasies and if he has a fantasy regarding being a sugar daddy to you and you don't want this then you better give him a clear picture of reality. You will loose his visits as reality is not what he is paying for.
If you think of it as a client has made a request for a service you don't provide then your answer would be an very easy no. However what blurs this for you is the amount of funds he has provided in the past and will provide in the future. Why should his request be any different for you than a client asking for a service you just don't do. Oh wait maybe ......hypocrasy perhaps.

 

[Alexis696969]

Call his bluff, no arguing, no shouting, no yelling.
He knows your situation, he knows that he is already on a short list of clients. Tell him he can call and book an appointment but enough of the drama.

He may stay away for a little while but he'll be back.

But after all this do you want him back at all ?

Seriously ..he treated me awesome ....any girl would be thankful to have him as a client ....I wish him the best always .......Im just not buying his reasoning for it all ....or justifications ....I want to be a free spirit ....and still see him ...meaning he could have a friend til dooms day ...under his conditions id learn to hate him .

 

[openwide]

interesting post
i think it becomes a tendency for men in general to want to have some control(i said in general!!)
in some cases a relationship whether business or other moves beyond a transaction
if the your client has begun to believe he has become more than a special client then you need to address this
although the financial benefits may be hard to replace you seem like a strong woman who will persevere
good luck but my advise(whatever it is worth) is always to be straight up with your thoughts or problems will just escalate
happy new year
ps. the cocktails may help with the conversation.........seems to breed honesty!!

 

[my2cents]

His loss and your loss in this situation.
However he may just come back and see you after you tell him or he may simply make this offer to another SP who could be happy living with it. Of course if he wants to prove a point that when he said he can't see you, he meant it, then just on principle he won't be back.
This offer isn't for you so let him offer it up to another SP who would jump at it. I think he would be shocked at your reaction as you have posted it here. But you can't live with it so let him know.

 

[tboy]

Seriously ..he treated me awesome ....any girl would be thankful to have him as a client ....I wish him the best always .......Im just not buying his reasoning for it all ....or justifications ....I want to be a free spirit ....and still see him ...meaning he could have a friend til dooms day ...under his conditions id learn to hate him .

Again, what an asshole, he should be SHOT fuckwad that he is....how double dog dare he make you such an offer!

So tell me, you're all psycho because he made the offer, or made the ultimatum?

If you want to be a "free spirit" as you say, fuck him and his offer and continue as you are now....seeing whom ever you want, when you want....and chalk this one up to history....sounds to me like this is a case of wanting your cake and eating it too.....

 

[Alexis696969]

How clearly you are in a state of confusion. Let me break it down for you.

He wants you to quit SPing. That’s why he offer to support you financially until your education.

It is clearly a good intension. You are lucky there is a man who cares about your well being, other men don’t give a fuck.

As for him seeing other SP, this man goes around and see SP's, and when he found a nice sp he really likes, he wants to do something nice for her. And you became judgmental and criticize him? How unstreet-wise is that?

This man likes you and he wants you to have the higher education that you deserve so then you will be prepared to get a normal job.

Take the offer or leave it, perhaps you aren’t as smart as he thinks.

yes i see the good and bad ...but i dont know how to only be with one man that is open about his other affairs .I guess other woman are smarter then me ,cause i want the same freedom.

 

[Alexis696969]

Again, what an asshole, he should be SHOT fuckwad that he is....how double dog dare he make you such an offer!

So tell me, you're all psycho because he made the offer, or made the ultimatum?

If you want to be a "free spirit" as you say, fuck him and his offer and continue as you are now....seeing whom ever you want, when you want....and chalk this one up to history....sounds to me like this is a case of wanting your cake and eating it too.....

Im very thankful for the offer ...not the ultimatum

Men love sps and then they try to change us .....As much as they think its greener on the other side .......they keep coming back to sps ....and then they start preaching ...........clients should practice what they preach !!!!! SPARE ME as ESCO would say BURP