Why do we do it?

[rosemount36]

I think all the news lately about Tiger Woods and his "transgressions" has had many of us rethinking our involvement in this hobby.
Probably thoughts we already had, but were supressing. Much easier to think about these things when we see them in the paper every day.
I know it has me reflecting on my actions and questioning if or how frequently I will continue to hobby.

It's like you can read my mind....thought about this quite a bit before Tiger was caught, but am thinking about it more often now. I still enjoy surfing TERB, but haven't indulged in a long time. Not saying I won't hobby in the future, but am thinking more about giving it up.

Tiger's humiliation could be ours, but obviously, thankfully, on a much smaller scale. I won't take part in making fun of him, because I think he's a very sad character and I very much relate to him. Obviously I don't relate to his fabulous wealth, but I do relate to his cheating and his inability to control it. Sex addiction is mercurial, from the incredible high of sex with a hot stranger to the lowest of lows that comes with guilt that hangs on my conscience like a deadweight. So why do we hobby - especially those of us with SOs who are good wives - the adrenalin rush of aniticipated sex. Can't seem to match this high with anything else.

 

[SQUAD51]

 

[y2kmark]

he DEVIL makes us do it!!!

 

[skypilot68]

It is an addiction pure and simple.

for some who have been in the hobby a long time, it really is an addiction. the thrill of the search and the thrill of finding that new girl. as one member said, it is the same release as gambling. there is also the hormone release of having sex as well.

 

[John Wick]

Awesome necro-bump! 11 year old thread...keep up the good work!

 

[malata]

just to kill time during my break

 

[IloveMe2345]

Dating is hard, you act mannered and play coy then the females gets confused, dates around, does not know what she wants,. Some of my female friends go around screwing 2 guys at different times without them knowing but uses them to go places and buy her things. I would rather know the plan, if you want gifts and a casual, sure. But girls these days play around confused. I rather pay for play whether it’s dinner then fun or just a drink and fun. It’s short lived, it’s exciting, I don’t want to hear sad stories or about what she doesn’t like. I can move on and work, carry on my life without someone in my neck asking me to carry this and get her that. Honestly, for the right girl I will, but right now I am not ready to have a SO

 

[Ogremagi]

To not have regrets later in life and think, “oh I should’ve been with more girls when I was young before settling”

Basically to negate the fear of missing out.

 

[chodge]

To not have regrets later in life and think, “oh I should’ve been with more girls when I was young before settling”

Basically to negate the fear of missing out.

I dont want to spend tons of dollars dating and end up with no action in the end

 

[coolmanfever]

little head below is thinking over the big head

 

[IM469]

dating sucks

I agree with this completely. You spend less time on a date, probably pay less money and get to cross all the bases on the first pitch. After there are no calls, no guilt, no regrets.