DenWa
Denwa,
point taken on trust. I understand what you're getting at. But, I still *somewhat* disagee with your previous statement, and this statement: "I was simply claiming that many escorts are able to both work as an escort and maintain a relationship. No, this isn't the ideal relationship for most, but it can be achieved." True, on the surface it does appear that the relationship can be achieved. But, can it be sustained without evasion and emotional pain? I don't think so. I think a normal psychologically healthy individual, with self esteem, wants to be valued. We desire psychological visibility. I think SPs can't have healthy relationships because they devalue the emotional currency -- which love or a strong emotional attachment -- when they have sex with hobbiests. Yes you're very correct that it isn't cheating -- and some claim to be able to handle it. It's their perogative. And yes, a person in their twenties may not want a serious relationship. Now that you've had time to explain, I don't think we disagree that much on this issue. I thought you were claiming that this kind or relationship was better than a normal kind.
I DON'T disrepect your opinions, Denwa. Your previous post made it appear (I was wrong) that you were defending this as a superior form of relationship in *all contexts* -- it isn't. (I agree, I can see it's value in certain limited contexts) After all, why would I have complimented you on your usual intelligence? I don't do that often. Just like your reply to me, it's how you read it. This is one of the problems with online forums. I remember talking -- in person -- with George H Smith about a disagreement we had. We cleared it up very quickly by talking about it.
Denwa,
point taken on trust. I understand what you're getting at. But, I still *somewhat* disagee with your previous statement, and this statement: "I was simply claiming that many escorts are able to both work as an escort and maintain a relationship. No, this isn't the ideal relationship for most, but it can be achieved." True, on the surface it does appear that the relationship can be achieved. But, can it be sustained without evasion and emotional pain? I don't think so. I think a normal psychologically healthy individual, with self esteem, wants to be valued. We desire psychological visibility. I think SPs can't have healthy relationships because they devalue the emotional currency -- which love or a strong emotional attachment -- when they have sex with hobbiests. Yes you're very correct that it isn't cheating -- and some claim to be able to handle it. It's their perogative. And yes, a person in their twenties may not want a serious relationship. Now that you've had time to explain, I don't think we disagree that much on this issue. I thought you were claiming that this kind or relationship was better than a normal kind.
I DON'T disrepect your opinions, Denwa. Your previous post made it appear (I was wrong) that you were defending this as a superior form of relationship in *all contexts* -- it isn't. (I agree, I can see it's value in certain limited contexts) After all, why would I have complimented you on your usual intelligence? I don't do that often. Just like your reply to me, it's how you read it. This is one of the problems with online forums. I remember talking -- in person -- with George H Smith about a disagreement we had. We cleared it up very quickly by talking about it.
