Is there any other kind for a woman? Aren't they ALL REALLY GOOD?!MLAM said:
Excellent point!MLAM said:
Words Women Use & Their Real Meaning
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A Little Faith
Like MLAM said, they obsess over things that seem monumental to them and trivial to men. Then they are resentful that men don't react with the same level of urgency to a situation that has either already occurred or has no importance whatsoever. Any man ever in any relationship can attest to many of these situations. Men would rather deal with situation ahead of time, dismantle it so that it never becomes an issue and potentially saves the day. Instead of praise for this, the man usually gets: "Why didn't you tell me!!"
As in the case of my buddies, they are an amalgam for 'everyman'. One has bought a house with his SO and therefore selling it, dividing up everything is more daunting than putting up with petty, catty remarks. They always have the 'talk' but eventually it goes back to the same thing. She 'likes him enough' but doesn't Love him. She admitted later she only wanted to get married so she wouldn't have to live with her parents anymore but didn't have the fortitude to go out on her own and have her own place and make her own way in the world. She wanted someone else to shoulder the main responsibilities of living.
Another buddy has the house and kids. The whole package. During some tough times, he and his wife borrowed $ from her parents to stay afloat. Since this episode, she became empowered and beligirant and uses any excuse to put him down and degrade him. He is now happily in a new place but since they have kids, they'll never be rid of each other.
Another is such a good-hearted guy that he'll just do anything to avoid confrontations. As soon as he married, his sweet and affectionate girlfriend became a distant, disconnected wife that is no longer interested in sex, going out or spending time with HIS family or friends. When he brings the subject up, (like going out to dinner with me and my SO) she just says: "Oh shut up! Are you stupid or can't you see?". And she said this to my buddy right in front of me!!
There is one couple that is making a go of it. It's not always pretty but they have genuine love and respect for each other and therefore are committed to sticking it out. They are in the vast minority of successful couples.
I don't think I'm particularly successful in relationships. Two SO's per year is a normal ratio for any decent man, I would think, same as me. I would love to find a woman that would motivate me enough to marry, have kids and get a house. Real, Powerful Love. I will not settle for "Like" instead of "Love", Convenience, Family Expectations or Timelines. Therefore, I am romantic, cautious and patient with any potential SO's.
Some women don't listen as you are telling them that there are certain plans that I will follow through with. As I have many interests in life, the moment I hear "I won't let you do that" or "Why didn't you ask me first" when it comes to running with the bulls in pamplona, handgliding in Peru or hiking "El Impossible" rainforest, that's when I say: "you can join me and live your life or you can live it without me because I'm going to do this." It will potentially ruin whatever plans THEY have made regarding MY life that they haven't even spoken to me about! I'm sure a woman with the same goals and ambitions as me would be happy to join me. So far, very few have. The ones who did are priceless to me but Destiny always plays a role.
I care about my friends, I want the best for them and will help them any way I can. They crash at my place when things are rough and having someone to talk to is invaluable. Little by little, there is less and less motivation to 'settle down' and 'put down roots'. Still, if my dream-girl came along, I would give it every single opportunity to make it work, with a little faith.
As we are well aware, there are many varying reasons for these scenarios. Not just one enveloping factor. Primarily it is that women change once they are in an established, formal relationship. They strive to establish their life long dream of 'Family Matriarch'. Nothing wrong with that, just depends on how they do it. I have noticed that they grow to feel empowered and would like all things strictly their way. The decoration of the house, the dressing of children, what a man says or does in the company of her friends or family, spending holidays and week-ends with HER family members, this sort of thing.MLAM said:
Like MLAM said, they obsess over things that seem monumental to them and trivial to men. Then they are resentful that men don't react with the same level of urgency to a situation that has either already occurred or has no importance whatsoever. Any man ever in any relationship can attest to many of these situations. Men would rather deal with situation ahead of time, dismantle it so that it never becomes an issue and potentially saves the day. Instead of praise for this, the man usually gets: "Why didn't you tell me!!"
As in the case of my buddies, they are an amalgam for 'everyman'. One has bought a house with his SO and therefore selling it, dividing up everything is more daunting than putting up with petty, catty remarks. They always have the 'talk' but eventually it goes back to the same thing. She 'likes him enough' but doesn't Love him. She admitted later she only wanted to get married so she wouldn't have to live with her parents anymore but didn't have the fortitude to go out on her own and have her own place and make her own way in the world. She wanted someone else to shoulder the main responsibilities of living.
Another buddy has the house and kids. The whole package. During some tough times, he and his wife borrowed $ from her parents to stay afloat. Since this episode, she became empowered and beligirant and uses any excuse to put him down and degrade him. He is now happily in a new place but since they have kids, they'll never be rid of each other.
Another is such a good-hearted guy that he'll just do anything to avoid confrontations. As soon as he married, his sweet and affectionate girlfriend became a distant, disconnected wife that is no longer interested in sex, going out or spending time with HIS family or friends. When he brings the subject up, (like going out to dinner with me and my SO) she just says: "Oh shut up! Are you stupid or can't you see?". And she said this to my buddy right in front of me!!
There is one couple that is making a go of it. It's not always pretty but they have genuine love and respect for each other and therefore are committed to sticking it out. They are in the vast minority of successful couples.
I don't think I'm particularly successful in relationships. Two SO's per year is a normal ratio for any decent man, I would think, same as me. I would love to find a woman that would motivate me enough to marry, have kids and get a house. Real, Powerful Love. I will not settle for "Like" instead of "Love", Convenience, Family Expectations or Timelines. Therefore, I am romantic, cautious and patient with any potential SO's.
Some women don't listen as you are telling them that there are certain plans that I will follow through with. As I have many interests in life, the moment I hear "I won't let you do that" or "Why didn't you ask me first" when it comes to running with the bulls in pamplona, handgliding in Peru or hiking "El Impossible" rainforest, that's when I say: "you can join me and live your life or you can live it without me because I'm going to do this." It will potentially ruin whatever plans THEY have made regarding MY life that they haven't even spoken to me about! I'm sure a woman with the same goals and ambitions as me would be happy to join me. So far, very few have. The ones who did are priceless to me but Destiny always plays a role.
I care about my friends, I want the best for them and will help them any way I can. They crash at my place when things are rough and having someone to talk to is invaluable. Little by little, there is less and less motivation to 'settle down' and 'put down roots'. Still, if my dream-girl came along, I would give it every single opportunity to make it work, with a little faith.
Yes, it wasn't pretty. All ten of her fingernails dug into my flesh (still have the scars). One foot kicked me in the forehead and the other foot kicked the beer bottle clear across the room.MLAM said:
What does it mean when the woman switches from English to ITALIAN or RUSSIAN? Is my life in danger at that point? (I don't understand a word of Italian or Russian.)
