I'm the same with POF/OKcupid...
But I finally got my first reply of 2012!!!!
...on eHarmony (going through the "stages" right now)
wtf! i think i'm on a roll on Plentyoffish
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But I finally got my first reply of 2012!!!!
...on eHarmony (going through the "stages" right now)those guys are probably thinking that it only has to work once!It's a good start!
I tried POF for a few weeks, and I would seriously get about 100-200 messages every day. Most of them were shirtless guys saying stuff like, "hey baby, wanna fuck?"
Like really? Does this even work on any girls?
xo Ember
I consider myself good looking. I am tall, fit, have an interesting profile along with some select pics from my vacations. Of course, I don't have a shirtless pic with a ferrari next to me but maybe I should put that just in case lol.
I just hope you know what you are talking about. POF is free but it is the most efficient dating website for fun or for serious people. That's why they have millions of members. You can monitor who is on line, how often, when, who is she or he chatting with, and how many at the same time and such it all depends on how you pick and choose. They don't use their own employees as phoney dates to keep you in their loop like some other paid dating club or sites to keep making money of you.. In my past 6 yrs on POF, I had met 3 real estate ladies, a doctor and two lawyers. One was a super rich marketting director from Montreal with a well known firm. happily married to a doctor, but always looking for a good laid whenever in TO on business. The real estate lady from BC lives in a 7 million dollar beach side mansion, but fools around whenever she comes to TO for business. So it is not just for cheap losers.
Over the past decade or so have tried out Match.com, Date.com, Lava, eHarmony, POF and many others I can't recall, and have never met or messaged with anyone off of them...of course I would be aiming for the worst market....20s and very early 30s. I found that a lot of the different paid and free dating sites had a lot of the same women and like someone said, when I'd leave a site and go back to it after a couple of months or years it seemed like a lot of the same women were still on there. In fact, on POF I taunted a girl who I'd seen on Lava many, many years earlier (who I had messaged with no response)...I received no reply but when I tried logging in the day after or so my profile was deleted.
I tried putting up a fake profile with pics of Mario Ermito, unlike my regular profile which would receive barely a handful of views over a long period of time and no messages or responses, Within the first 2 or 3 days I received so many views and a few unsolicited messages right off the bat.
Edit: Also, I didn't target Indian women, but A LOT of pictures used in Indian female profiles are fake (Tineye was useless for finding fakes compared to Google).
I tried putting up a fake profile with pics of Mario Ermito, unlike my regular profile which would receive barely a handful of views over a long period of time and no messages or responses, Within the first 2 or 3 days I received so many views and a few unsolicited messages right off the bat.
Edit: Also, I didn't target Indian women, but A LOT of pictures used in Indian female profiles are fake (Tineye was useless for finding fakes compared to Google).
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Very hard with internet dating to convey your personality. Also ladies are sifting through so many responces. Thus it becomes a selection based on pics & numbers. Guys that come up atleast a little better than average in looks, physic & height have a fighting chance. If you are short, fat, ugly or any combo there of ... losing battle!
what do you guys talk about in terms of conversation topics. that keep the girls talking and coming back for more?
Terminator2000 a few mentioned getting almost no responces back. I am suggesting women on these sites can easily do some " window shopping " and pass over guys that don't meet an " ideal standard ". To eliminate the large amount of responces they get , they go by a guys looks & the numbers ( age , height, build ) to decide who to converse with. Personality will not factor in it initially.
I haven't used the internet to meet women in 5 years.
But I'll take your word for it that there are all these hot doctors and lawyers hanging out on POF looking for discreet hookups.
Well - LKD stated in his OP that he found the secret response to tug at their hearts and now is juggling ten women...- and then, theres the other guy that states that women inherently want to be cherished and desired. - which is also true. And here i thought they were onto something - but, when LKD takes those ten women hes typing up a storm of pretth words with - and meets them offline - it becomes a whole new ballgame where they suddenly turn into completely different people offline - as if all their statements, and the things they said - and their nice, sweet endearing personalities suddenly vanish into thin air - and they become completely different women entirely suddenly when you meet them in person -
Its exactly like when youre talking to and meeting an sp - and paying for her time - shes all sweet and attentive to you and youre thinking the whole time with her - that you have so much game and shes so digging you - but when youre not paying her - and you see her at a grocery store - and you go - hey, daniella - she doesnt even acknowledge you even exist and tries to ignore you and avoid you and you get the hint and stay away from her and are asking yourself, what the heck just happened there. Same scenario in a strip club. Girls approaching and being all sweet to you in the backroom. Having "deep" conversations with you about their personal lives and youre thinking youre having the most amazing conversational skills ala george constanza and then they go, would you like another dance? And you go no. Then they just get up and start getting dressed and the pretty smile is suddenly gone. Same shit online and offline.
Wow lots of pessimism here. As stated before it is a numbers game. Of the 10 that LKD is chatting to he will probably meat up with say 7-8. Of those 7-8 probably chemistry will not be present for 4-5 of them in person. That leaves 2-3 that he could very well be banging in short order and having a blast. I dont make shit up. Of course I got a few that mis-represented themselves with age/weight and they were quickly dismissed. I even had a standard script on how to let those type know I wasnt interested after meeting. Went something like this "Thanks for the meeting, I enjoyed the conversation but based on the fact that I felt you misrepresented yourself prior to meeting I cannot persue this further. I feel relationships are based on trust and cannot further a relationship predicated on initial misrepresentation" It works guys. I will say it again dont act like an ape. Women on there have already been subjected to many unsolicited sexual invitations and have their "creep radar" on full. So do everything to avoid this label. No sexual jokes or undertones during initial stages. Be gentleman. Common sense shit. If you get rejected no big deal, you are an adult move on. Its not rocket science. One big mistake I made was getting one girls name wrong. I thought she had potential and had what i was seeking BUT i blew it. Things fizzled out after that. live and learn....next!
Man these dumb chicks on pof mistake it for the real world. Because no matter how good a girl looks, they don't get even the same amount of attention in real life. Because most guys won't come up to them because a lot of guys don't just go up to girls on the street or there are tons of other girls walking around so seeing a girl in passing isn't anything special, especially if the chick isn't all dolled up. I think POF is bad for both men and women, because there is a reason you see the same nice looking girls on there time and time again for years. And don't get it all confused, other than POF these chicks not getting as much attention as you think. Hence that's why they are on POF, to get attention. One other thing, you guys stop putting chicks on a pedestal. I keep hearing what girls are looking for blah blah blah. The thing their looking for you "YOU" LOL. They lookin for a man, and your a man. So your what they are looking for. The real question is what are you looking for? Just cause a chick looks good doesn't mean anything, they are supposed to look good for us. If they don't look good, then what good is a woman to a guy? We like pretty girls and if they aren't living up to our standard then they hold no value. I don't give chicks credit for looking good, as I said they are supposed to be hot.
Anyways, my advice for you fellas is to get of POF it's a waste of time unless you mass email (copy/paste). If your doing more than that, then your wasting your time. Get outside and enjoy life and meet some girls out places. Leave POF alone.......
I think it's true for online dating in general (eharmony included where you have more teachers, nurses, doctors, accountants). Every woman on an online site thinks her value is that much more because a lot of guys are messaging her. OR, they take the "let me see what comes up next" mindset to the online dating site.
Given how some guys have commented that they've seen the same chick on a dating site for years tells me that there's some unreasonable expectations at play with these women in Toronto.
Given how some guys have commented that they've seen the same chick on a dating site for years tells me that there's some unreasonable expectations at play with these women in Toronto.
I spent 3 years on POF. If you can play the game right you can have the time of your life.I did.If you can read people right away it helps.I still rub one out every now and then to the outlandish stuff I got to try on there with certian women.For the record, yes, there are some hot women on POF. Especially in that 35-45 range.
There is also the chance that they start giving the average joe more notice because of all the douche bags who contact them and are only interested in having sex. xD
The two lawyers are looking seriously to settle with some one. The real estate lady and the marketing dir lady were there to fool around. The doctor was a nut case. One Asian real estate lady was there looking for some one to treat her like a princess. No wonder she's still single for 6 plus yrs after divorce even tho she is really pretty in her high 30s with nice body. she's a little up at her nose cuz she gets about 50 to 100 mails a day who wants to bang her. The rest are just looking for a date and too bloody time consuming dealing with them. I am not ready to settle yet so its a lot easier for me just go to Asian spas and hook up with some one there.
BTW.. POF is where I first met Christine the inSpa owner. lol.
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Many guys have noted ( a few here & others in the past) that their messages to women on POF go unread & deleted. Women on POF look at the guys pic & numbers ( age, height) . IF you do not meet the minimum ideal standard the women demand in looks & height, your messages go unread & deleted. Thus for some they have no chance to reveal their personality & best to exercise their slim chances in the real world were they may stumble upon a non superficial woman who does not have a pre-conceived " must be" standard of an attractive man.
And location. A lot of lazy people on POF and Lava.
20 minutes away = to being on the moon.
well.. that is true. Women on there can be highly superficial and almost always look at a guy's photo first. It doesn't matter if her profile says she's looking for a gentleman with a brain over good looks. All are hypocrites in some ways and will look at photos first. A guy could have the shittiest profile, first message and not even considered attractive but if she likes what she sees, she will most likely reply back to him.
A good, wife-material girl is not what we're after on there to find so none of it matters
Its especially funny when an unattractive, slutty girl, with kids from a previous marriage, who can barely put together a sentence and write in broken english, has all these impossible demands of the type of guy she is looking for. xD- Status
