I got Herpes from a BBBJ
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My question is, is how many SPs are busy offering CBJ only, no daty and no kissing.
I doubt many of you guys would pay $300 hr for safe GFE. I think no kissing, no daty and cbj doesn’t qualify it to be a GFE session anymore.
I doubt many of you guys would pay $300 hr for safe GFE. I think no kissing, no daty and cbj doesn’t qualify it to be a GFE session anymore.
How is staying with one sp cutting down the risk factor? As a std warning poster once pointed out, if one of you has multiple partners, you are basically having sex with all their partners. I only see 2 sp's, but God knows what they get up to the rest of the week.
Thanks to everyone who posted words of support and provided links to information in this thread and by way of PM's. In response to many questions I received, I will notify the spas and agencies I visited in the weeks prior to my outbreak. I got a lot of messages asking me to secretly and privately name names and I'm not going to do that. As others have pointed out, it is technically possible that I was infected a long time ago and didn't realize it and this outbreak has nothing to do with who I saw recently, so no point tainting several providers and agencies with pure speculation.
The outbreak is ongoing. Four sores/lesions which are very uncomfortable (more of a burning/stinging than actual pain). They are starting to heal. I was diagnosed at the HFC and was told that anti-virals were not necessary. Thanks to info provided by SchlongConnery and others, I now realize that this was probably not great advice, but seems to be consistent with how the HFC minimizes the importance of herpes. I will now be seeing my family doctor and asking to get on anti-virus to suppress any recurrence and reduce shedding.
I feel bad for you, the girls who you were with before you knew who have now possibly been exposed, but I really really feel bad for the wife.
We take on this risk as sex workers, you guys take the risk as well, but the wife, who was probably thinking she has a good marriage and good sex life, is the biggest victim. She thought she was being safe because she was married and trusted her husband, and now she may have an STD for life.
Which would really fuck things up her going forward if she decides to leave the OP.
Sorry, I know. I’m the downer here, but I just can’t help but think of her in all this.
We take on this risk as sex workers, you guys take the risk as well, but the wife, who was probably thinking she has a good marriage and good sex life, is the biggest victim. She thought she was being safe because she was married and trusted her husband, and now she may have an STD for life.
Which would really fuck things up her going forward if she decides to leave the OP.
Sorry, I know. I’m the downer here, but I just can’t help but think of her in all this.
Well either you got rimmed or got pegged...
At the clinic, one of the first questions the doctors ask is if your sexual partners are male or female, since it changes your risk level and affects the scope of tests run.
I generally feel the same way about this entire hobby. I'm not married, so can't fully understand the mindset, but I've never participated in the hobby while dating. I think it's unfair to do so even before a situation like this one arises.
Though I don't expect many clients or SPs to agree with my POV, so I tend to keep quiet about it.
ummmm okay, so if your seeing 2 SP's that have 10 clients each, your risk factor is 20. Now if your seeing 4 SP's with 10 clients each.. what's the risk factor???
Kind of basic math bro.
Not to mention, if you stick with one SP who lets say is semi-retired (like mine) doesn't take on a new clients and only kept a few after she stop advertising, cuts down the risk, wouldn't ya say???
Was thinking the same thing - you've been hobbying a long time, but how often were you going to get tested? You could have been infected a long time ago, but have been asymptomatic until very recently.
you have as much chance as catching burpies with random girl at bar as you would getting slurpies at 7/11. me thinks
I can't disagree with you. She's a great wife, but has never had the sex drive to keep up and is slowing down even more as she approaches menopause. I know it's impossible to tell for certain, but I really do think I acquired this recently and have had no intimate contact with my wife since, so I really hope she has not been infected.
I have been tested periodically for other STI's, but herpes is not part of the standard screening so I have never been tested for it before.
You seem like a real descent guy who got the crap end of the stick in this hobby. I hope for your sake of guilt, that your wife is STD free. I feel this would weigh heavy on your conscience if she is not.
My fingers are crossed for both of you.
I didn’t read entire thread, but it’s very bold for OP to accuse a SW of giving him herpes when:
Herpes can lay dormant (sort of like it's in hibernation) for years without causing any noticeable symptoms. Because of this, many people don't know they have it and may have trouble figuring out how or when they got it. When symptoms do occur, they often appear as small blisters on or around the genitals.
Herpes can lay dormant (sort of like it's in hibernation) for years without causing any noticeable symptoms. Because of this, many people don't know they have it and may have trouble figuring out how or when they got it. When symptoms do occur, they often appear as small blisters on or around the genitals.
All points I'm sure the wife's lawyer will use to take the house, the car, the shirt on @Regret's back... if she chooses to leave him. It is why many married men spend money on escorts right? Because it's cheaper than a divorce?
Your math makes sense initially - until you add in the multiplication of all the partners the clients that see your reduced amount of chosen SP/SPs. Seeing just one SP (put aside for a moment your individual choice of a semi-retired SP) that SP's client base over the last 6 months? 12 months? and add in all the partners and their partners-partners - still will come to a few thousand in let's call it a 'pool' of partners.
Yes, a gent who see's many different SP's over a time period is part of a much larger pool of partners many thousands versus only a few thousand. Just putting the true math into perspective.
In your suggested chosen approach, which many of us can relate to - the reality is if she's not 'exclusive' to you then your semi-retired choice may easily have at least one other gent who sees her and let's say 10 different SP's a month otherwise who in turn are part of a multi thousand partner pool - your chosen lady and therefore you yourself - are still part of that pool of partners and risk of transmission.
Is your risk reduced compared to other hobbyists who see many SP's? Yes, fully agree. Is it a significant reduction in risk, pool size of partners? You can see the math I have suggested above based on my own research and shared here for yours and all the readers consideration.
Food for thought.
A page or two back there was some good discussion about testing options available and the limited offering of herpes tests from clinics and even resistance from family doctor's to order them - on that note this is an excellent thread of insight and knowledge for the readers and is appreciated, thank you to the OP for starting this healthy discussion between all of us as members.
I believe in being tested regularly and when I ran up against the 'we don't bother testing for herpes' and also the stigma of 'you were testing only a few months ago, you want to be tested again?' from my family doctor - I did my research and found this offering for private testing:
https://www.letsgetchecked.com/ca/en/
Specifically related to sexual health testing are these bundle packages:
https://www.letsgetchecked.com/ca/en/home-std-test/
Note the 'Complete 10' bundle includes HSV 1 and 2.
For those who get tested by HFC/Regular Clinic/Family Doctor and are unable to get the HSV 1 and 2 tests - there is this option for a much lower cost than the Complete 10 Bundle:
https://www.letsgetchecked.com/ca/en/home-herpes-test/
Considering what most of us spend per month/per year overall on the Hobby life - the cost of these private tests are quite reasonable and one should never, ever skimp on their health.
Quick note - for those married/dating and living with their SO who would worry about ordering these test kits to their home - perhaps have them shipped to your place of work - the packaging is non-descript and the results are made available to you online (not mailed to you).
Last but not least, for those who refrain from testing more often - fearing the process of doctor/clinic questioning you and your activities, who your partners/history has been, etc (if anything is found) - this process is anonymous and actually well suited for those like all of us who are part of this lifestyle - allowing you to plan your next steps to get help if anything should be found.
Hope this helps even a few members get tested and tested more often.
I believe in being tested regularly and when I ran up against the 'we don't bother testing for herpes' and also the stigma of 'you were testing only a few months ago, you want to be tested again?' from my family doctor - I did my research and found this offering for private testing:
https://www.letsgetchecked.com/ca/en/
Specifically related to sexual health testing are these bundle packages:
https://www.letsgetchecked.com/ca/en/home-std-test/
Note the 'Complete 10' bundle includes HSV 1 and 2.
For those who get tested by HFC/Regular Clinic/Family Doctor and are unable to get the HSV 1 and 2 tests - there is this option for a much lower cost than the Complete 10 Bundle:
https://www.letsgetchecked.com/ca/en/home-herpes-test/
Considering what most of us spend per month/per year overall on the Hobby life - the cost of these private tests are quite reasonable and one should never, ever skimp on their health.
Quick note - for those married/dating and living with their SO who would worry about ordering these test kits to their home - perhaps have them shipped to your place of work - the packaging is non-descript and the results are made available to you online (not mailed to you).
Last but not least, for those who refrain from testing more often - fearing the process of doctor/clinic questioning you and your activities, who your partners/history has been, etc (if anything is found) - this process is anonymous and actually well suited for those like all of us who are part of this lifestyle - allowing you to plan your next steps to get help if anything should be found.
Hope this helps even a few members get tested and tested more often.
I didn't accuse anyone and, if you had bothered to read the thread, would already know that I won't name names specifically because of what you mentioned. That said, in my case, unless it had been dormant for 20+ years, I either got it from my wife (which I'm almost positive is not the case) or from a SW, so it's really not that bold for me to say I likely got it from a SW. I'm not saying which one, but a SW is almost definitely the source in my case.
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