My updated Sugar dating progresses

[GeeBee]

Yeah, I get the position Seeking is in, but it does mean you have to beat around the bush a lot longer. Honestly, given their whole "hypergamy" (surprisingly, a real (old) word for basically hooking up with someone above your "station in life") push, it makes sense, but for guys like us looking for casual fun, it's more time-consuming.

"training type session"? Like some Sensitivity training?

Yeah and SB told me about it a while ago. She said she’d used PPM in a chat with a guy and she immediately got a warning message. She was locked out of the message function until she went through a little review of the Seeking rules, followed by a quiz.

It seemed quite juvenile, and their puritanical attitude is very frustrating, but I get why Seeking are like that. If they are seen in any way to be facilitating sex for money they can be in a world of hurt with the US feds. I wonder where the other sites are based that they aren’t as paranoid about it?

 

[waxtrax]

Due to lack of experience/knowledge, I recalled speaking PPM casually and even quoted specific amounts(from the girl and myself) from several chats within Seeking but I had no warnings or banning my account. This is good to know as a future reminder. Hmm, maybe that's also why some just give me their numbers right way

 

[Massivo]

Yeah and SB told me about it a while ago. She said she’d used PPM in a chat with a guy and she immediately got a warning message. She was locked out of the message function until she went through a little review of the Seeking rules, followed by a quiz.

It seemed quite juvenile, and their puritanical attitude is very frustrating, but I get why Seeking are like that. If they are seen in any way to be facilitating sex for money they can be in a world of hurt with the US feds. I wonder where the other sites are based that they aren’t as paranoid about it?

I'm on Seeking right now as well as Sugar daddy. Have been for the last 6 weeks. I've talked to a lot of girls...

On Seeking I have the word PPM in 95% of my messages...We're talking at least a dozen different sets of messages... I haven't heard anything from any moderator. I also have numbers in my messages...

They may monitor the girls but they're definitely not monitoring me lol

 

[Leimonis]

Due to lack of experience/knowledge, I recalled speaking PPM casually and even quoted specific amounts(from the girl and myself) from several chats within Seeking but I had no warnings or banning my account. This is good to know as a future reminder. Hmm, maybe that's also why some just give me their numbers right way

Yeah it’s not automatic, someone is likely need to complain for them to notice. It creates these fucked up situations when new girls are connecting to new guys and they all take these risks unknowingly. Then the girls become insufferable when you ask them to switch to text bc they already have “experience” of not having been banned for it

 

[Leimonis]

I'm on Seeking right now as well as Sugar daddy. Have been for the last 6 weeks. I've talked to a lot of girls...

On Seeking I have the word PPM in 95% of my messages...We're talking at least a dozen different sets of messages... I haven't heard anything from any moderator. I also have numbers in my messages...

They may monitor the girls but they're definitely not monitoring me lol

That’s a very long run on the dark side lol

 

[Massivo]

Some of my observations thus far...

1. I feel the sugar world is almost like dating...Which has its plus and minuses but you do need to have some game...I don't really run game on any of the girls, but I needed to remind myself of how to behave on a date, seduce a girl, escalate, close etc... in that sense it's good practice if you're trying to get back into actual dating. The initial meets and greets can be used as practice for that.

2. The furthest I have gotten so far is second base. I had to cut the girl loose though...Exotic dancer, ordered four or five drinks the last time I saw her. The bill for dinner came to $230 plus I gave her gas money... That was our second meet and she just wanted to grab a "bite"... Seemed nice on our first outing but drinking changes people...in Vino Veritas as they say... Do you guys ever put a limit on how much a girl can drink on a date?

3. One girl quoted me $1,000 per meet because she's "internet famous"... Whatever that means... A streamer of adult content...no thanks...

4. Enjoying the process to some extent thus far, but for convenience SP's cannot be beat.

 

[Leimonis]

The furthest I have gotten so far is second base. I had to cut the girl loose though...Exotic dancer, ordered four or five drinks the last time I saw her. The bill for dinner came to $230 plus I gave her gas money... That was our second meet and she just wanted to grab a "bite"... Seemed nice on our first outing but drinking changes people...in Vino Veritas as they say... Do you guys ever put a limit on how much a girl can drink on a date?

exotic dancers are a hard pass for me. I am looking to pay per date, not hourly and not per fucking song which is how their brain operates when they see a man with a wallet. She is literally trained to think about money every 3-5 min that she is with you. Fuck that.

 

[Dfkseeker]

Anyone saw any massage provider on any sugar baby sites or have you tried to convince a massage provider to be your SB?

 

[Leimonis]

And some more fun convos

 

[400DC]

Any mention in SB profile of ; "pay pig" or "findom" is an instant block

 

[RobI]

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I wonder where the other sites are based that they aren’t as paranoid about it?

Yeah I've wondered about that. On SDM girls openly advertise ppm and somehow thet get away with it. Thet do list an office in Canada, but that must just be mailing address - it looks like a dentist office on Google maps.

But then again if Seeking was worried about that, they could incorporate in any number of nearby countries - even if the Bahamas aren't offshore enough, I hear the weather is great in Cyprus lol

I suspect it's partly some kind of "take the game to the next level" (be more than just a cleaned up Backpages) as much wanting to avoid being thrown onto a one way planetrip to Venezuela.

 

[dchoye]

Anyone saw any massage provider on any sugar baby sites or have you tried to convince a massage provider to be your SB?

I saw an agency girl. I was her 2nd ever client. Could tell she was inexperienced. Her enthusiasm did make up for her lack of skills though. I convinced her to do outcalls under the table not letting her agency know and it develops into sugar experience. No clock watching. Several visits Anywhere from 3-6 hours depending her schedule for $300.
She eventually quit escorting all together but did keep me for a few months longer before she vanished.
I started looking for SB after that experience Only have used seeking app.
I think it just easier to find SBs that way.
Most massage/agency girls have been one and done for me and I can’t remember all the escorts I had sex with. With SB I feel there is more personalized connection.

 

[Leimonis]

Anybody wants to share their favourite explanation for women on seeking who ask about ppm etc as to why these convos should be taken off seeking site?

My attempts to educate them about bans etc are futile in at least 50% of cases

 

[GeeBee]

Anybody wants to share their favourite explanation for women on seeking who ask about ppm etc as to why these convos should be taken off seeking site?

My attempts to educate them about bans etc are futile in at least 50% of cases

Amen, I’d love top know if anyone has a magic formula. I’ve tried too, but some girls just don’t get it.

I sometimes think maybe I’ve dodged a bullet. The only logical explanation is that she’s following their “tips” about not moving off site quickly. The other explanations for not wanting to text or snapchat are that she’s a scam, or too stupid, careless or indiscreet. Honestly I’m better off without the hassles of any of those.

 

[Leimonis]

Amen, I’d love top know if anyone has a magic formula. I’ve tried too, but some girls just don’t get it.

I sometimes think maybe I’ve dodged a bullet. The only logical explanation is that she’s following their “tips” about not moving off site quickly. The other explanations for not wanting to text or snapchat are that she’s a scam, or too stupid, careless or indiscreet. Honestly I’m better off without the hassles of any of those.

I agree and I wish I could vet all the stupids and careless mercilessly but I am cursed with not liking fat girls nor fake boobs which leaves me with a pretty shallow pool of applicants

 

[Aprilmaeuk]

I think he means things like vandalize her property. Expose her as a SB and nude photos to family and friends
Not that I would do those things but I heard of vengeful acts that guys might do

To give you some peace of mind from a SB thats had many successful and meaningful connections over 8 years, any normal girl would ever even think about doing that. You’re probably talking to a guy who wants to blackmail you… be careful. Also theres nothing wrong with dating older men? My whole family know. Also exposing nudes is illegal . I have met some amazing men on Seeking, its the ‘normal’ men you have to worry about lol. Crazzzyyyyy

 

[Aprilmaeuk]

yeah I recently was just on Sb's and I had to ask one girl if she was real or not and she replied "I am verified so id like to believe that I am real haha". I am still watching out for scam patterns, I can see that some message you so that you can you your credits and then ghost. a good way to spend 8$ for SBs. plus I noticed that Sb and SDM have the same format. are they linked across platforms?

We don’t get credits from you?? You are paying the site not us.

 

[StyleX]

When I had more free time, sugar dating was fun. Had a really great SB for a few years. Felt like a real relationship at times and was a bit hard when she broke it off. It was a win-win though, we both helped each other get through difficult times. The PPM was very reasonable because of the great chemistry we had.

Also met some absolutely toxic people (an entire novel could be written about this lol). So use your judgement, this playground is not for the emotionally immature.

Nowadays I stick to escorts because I work 7 days a week and I just don't have 5 hours to take off and go on long romantic dates like I used to. But it's great for what it is, as long as you don't kid yourself.

 

[Aprilmaeuk]

I don’t think they have enough awareness and/or capacity to even recognize that issue let alone monitor rise or fall. When a young woman is good looking things mostly just happen for her and engaging her brain would be a waste of resources

Wow what a disgusting thing to say.

 

[tombrady12]

We don’t get credits from you?? You are paying the site not us.

I think he means that the SBs are setup by the site to get SDs to use more credits.