The fact that you guys are spending this entire thread talking about dating actually gives me some faith in the male species ;-)
From my own experience and that of my 20s-30s gf's (not all 'industry girls' btw) we women are just as confused as you!
If you'll allow me some comments from my own female perspective (and that of many of my gf's)...
1. The 'got game' part definitely does apply. Most women will gravitate towards a charming and successful guy. Having money alone does not qualify as 'having game.' e.g. I was out last nite with a couple of my hottie gf's. One of them ran into a guy she had met before at another club. The guy was a Doctor so my gf was like 'Mmm, Dr... ;-)' I'm not gonna comment on that, other than to say it became obvious very soon that the young man had no game -- he seemed 'not at ease' in the place, definitely not funny, and not the best looking guy on the block either. My gf then ended up chatting the whole nite with a much older gent who was showing genuine interest in her, and being charming etc.
2. Guys, the 'Dutch' thing doesn't work. I knowww, it's not fair to you guys, in a society where women have virtually the same work opportunities as men do... BUT... as women we still expect the guy to pay (for most things.) I have to tell you as a woman (and this is the consensus among virtually all my gf's -- industry or not), that there's no bigger turn-off than a 'cheap guy.'
I still remember this one 1st (and last) double date with a couple of guys. The guys invited my gf and I to dinner. We didn't even go to an expensive place -- Spring Rolls, hello-o? The whole bill for 4 people came to ~$100; when the bill came, the guys paid their part, then showed us our half of the bill (!!) My gf and I were speechless. (We did pay our part, and of course, never saw those ******* again.)
Guys, I can't emphasize this point enough -- as women, we may offer to pay, and be fully capable of paying; your job for the most part is to decline, or just let us pay symbolic amounts like the waitress' tip.
We will be even more offended if we happen to know you do have money, and you still wanna go Dutch.
To a woman, this spells 'cheap' and 'you don't value me enough.'
Either way you put it, Big Turn-Off.
To sum up, unless you're already in a relationship with a woman, and at a point where you now share finances, paying for dates is a man's job, and doing so will definitely endear you to Most women. (Maybe with the exception of the femiNazi and then good luck with those!)
3. Lastly, and this is just my own experience talking: pls. don't be desperate. I personally don't appreciate a guy sending me Numerous texts/a guy who calls me all the time in the initial phases of dating. That's just creepy ok? Love professions early on: creepy also. A few texts a week + mayyybe 1-2 phone-calls/week in the initial stages is just fine, thanks!
The reverse of showing Too much interest is a guy who doesn't make Enough of an effort. My biggest pet-peeve is a guy who doesn't think it necessary to plan a date ahead, and who'll call me on a Thu/Fri for a Sat nite date :-( Um yeah, good luck with that! If you want to see a girl on the weekend, yes you Should ask her to reserve the date for you no later than Wed nite. That's polite and it shows that you're interested enough in her. She will appreciate your thoughtfulness.
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Thanks for reading; at the risk of sounding like another 'stuck-up TO b----', I thought you guys may like to hear from the other side of the fence. Guys always tell me 'Don't hate the player, hate the game.' I Do sometimes, and if my comments make you hate the game too, pls. don't hate the player ;-)
Much luv,
