Anyone Regret ever starting this Hobby

[danajo]

Great thread btw ...

The only thing I'll ever regret is not fulfilling some dreams before I die ... I want to experience them all.

Of course, any behavior that becomes pathological can become a problem. Sex, eating, gambling, drugs, whatever. But that is a sign of some underlying psychological/emotional issues that need to be worked through. But as long as the hobby is under control, and not causing harmful, criminal, anti-social or psychotic behavior, then what's to regret? Even then, if it forces you to confront those underlying issues, and you become a better person because of it, who's to say it wasn't worth it in the end?

To me, life is about experiencing everything life has to offer. And yes, you have to be prepared to take risks and accept the good with the bad. Sometimes you make questionable choices and mistakes -- serious ones with serious consequences. But even those are not wasted. You learn, you grow, you move on to the next experience. What's the alternative? To do nothing you might conceivably regret?

So ... short answer ... no regrets.

 

[johnnyjohn17]

i dont regret ever getting started, but i do regret some of the things ive done, associatted with this. ive been doing this for almost 20 years spent a small fortune on SCs, SPs and SWs, i dont regret doing it, just wish i had the money that i spent. i regret introducing my ex gf, to the hobby, we hired a SP for a 3sum, and she started telling her all about the money she was making, next thing i know my gf was turning tricks at day, while i was at work, she got hooked on drugs, then moved to the streets selling her body for crack. i do regret that, maybe if we didnt get the SP she woulda been ok, and we still woulda been together.
i did stop hobbying for about 6 years, im married now, but wife has lost all interest in sex, so im just starting to get back into it. i regret doing this while in a marriage, but ive got needs that need to be met.

 

[nosidam]

Nope. SC is a rip off. SP is risky, MP is just right. Needs have to be met. Dating is so pointless it's a waste of time.

 

[afterhours]

The first mistake is referring to this as a "hobby." It's not a fucking hobby. It's paying to get your rocks off when you're horny. A hobby is something you can go in to work and tell everyone, "Hey folks, guess what I did this weekend? I got my balls sucked by some asian chick and then spluged all over her face! And all for only $120!!!"

If you can't do that, it's not a hobby....

if you can't do that, your work ain't cool I can and do that whenever I feel like it, although generally I don't kiss and tell

 

[danajo]

The first mistake is referring to this as a "hobby." It's not a fucking hobby. It's paying to get your rocks off when you're horny. A hobby is something you can go in to work and tell everyone, "Hey folks, guess what I did this weekend? I got my balls sucked by some asian chick and then spluged all over her face! And all for only $120!!!"

If you can't do that, it's not a hobby.

Calling it a "hobby" is how people try to legitimize what they're doing. Don't get me wrong, I don't see anything wrong with paying for sex. But don't try to dress it up to be something it's not...

OH ... MY ... GOD! You're telling us that the term 'hobby' is a euphemism for 'fucking escorts on a regular basis.' Who knew?!

chill my son ... some of you boys are way too literal.

 

[danajo]

Wow. So many regrets, and so much guilt. I wouldn't have expected that.

It's a very interesting angle of discussion on the topic of prostitution, much different than what we typically hear about. There's usually an assumption that only women in the sex industry are emotionally (or otherwise) affected by sex work. While I know that many are, this hasn't been my experience of sex work, nor that of most of the women I have gotten to know in the biz (obviously, this has much to do with our privilege position in this industry). I'm surprised to hear so much regrets from clients, and wonder how much of those are tainted by our society unhealthy and puritan views around sexuality.

For those who voiced regrets associated with the money that you have spent on this hobby: do you have any other expensive hobby/habits? Do you feel the same kind of regrets about this other expensive hobby/habits?

Interesting insights Gen

To answer your last question: I've also spent thousands of dollars on state-of-the-art tennis rackets, golf clubs, cameras, stereo equipment, etc. None of which has enriched my life near as much the enjoyment I get from great unabashed sex (and btw spending that money never really improved my tennis or golf game either). But like the past, the money is gone for good ... what's the use in regretting it?

 

[barrowing]

I met my soulmate via this "hobby". Not planned by either of us, just happened through evolution over time, and luck. Now we are both out of it with, obviously, no regrets but some interesting stories. Would still advise that this is not the way to find longer term companionship, recognize the time and moment for what it is and enjoy it.

 

[pokerdude]

I met my soulmate via this "hobby". Not planned by either of us, just happened through evolution over time, and luck. Now we are both out of it with, obviously, no regrets but some interesting stories. Would still advise that this is not the way to find longer term companionship, recognize the time and moment for what it is and enjoy it.

Without going into great detail, would you care to elaborate on the evolution of the relationship from the beginning?

 

[The Options Menu]

Without going into great detail, would you care to elaborate on the evolution of the relationship from the beginning?

If he does I hope he doesn't encourage anybodies delusions, or give people false hope, or get anybody taken advantage of.

 

[barrowing]

Without going into great detail, would you care to elaborate on the evolution of the relationship from the beginning?

It doesn't really matter where or how you meet the right person, just matters that you did. I did. She did. As we got to know each other we became friends which is not unusual in an ongoing situation, but true feelings developed between us without us realizing it at first. Life has moved us on now together and happy.

 

[barrowing]

If he does I hope he doesn't encourage anybodies delusions, or give people false hope, or get anybody taken advantage of.

Very good point. Remember it is a fantasy not real life. I was very careful and knew this person's real life status, which was different than most, and did my homework.

 

[BohemianArtist]

My only regret is that I didn't start when I was still in my prime physically. But I suppose it was being in my prime that kept alive the delusion that I would find someone, or even better several someones. Those were some very horny years. Ironically, it is the fact that I am no longer so easily aroused by porn that finally pushed me over the edge into this "hobby".

 

[freestuff]

Very good point. Remember it is a fantasy not real life. I was very careful and knew this person's real life status, which was different than most, and did my homework.

Don't tell Ben that -- you'll crash his fantasy world with his fantasy wife Russian Monica.

 

[anon1]

I regret it everytime I see moths fly out of my wallet.

 

[The Options Menu]

I regret it everytime I see moths fly out of my wallet.

As long as the moths didn't die of starvation you're doing fine.

 

[smylee52]

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No regrets . More like gratitude to be able to fulfill basic desires with minimal drama, reasonable cost
and at my leisure .

No guilt , no anxiety , Some great levels of excitement and at worst I still get my rocks off .

The benefits list is a long one and if you aren't compromised by a committed relationship
the freedom is wonderful . Just pick up the phone and an attractive women will soon
be fulfilling your lust . Life is great for a guy when he isn't chasing pussy and it is
presented to him on a plattter (LOL) .

Unlike other hobbies like hockey , rock climbing etc you can get pleasure from this
one right up until you wake up on the wrong side of the lawn (LOL) .

 

[HG Hunter]

I have regrets on two levels. One being the amount of money I've spent on the hobby. I know full well I could have put that money to other, possibly better use. The second is that I do feel bad for cheating on my wife. And I do consider this to be cheating.
However, on the less regretful side of the coin lies the fact that I've had many fantastic experiences and I recognize that you get what you pay for in life, so that helps justify the $$$ I've spent. I've also met some great ladies. Four of whom I would consider to be friends, beyond the business relationship.

 

[freestuff]

Interesting that those individuals who have regrets about starting this "hobby" only have regrets about the $$$ they have spent into it and only 1 guy is sorry for having cheating on his wife with SPs.