Dick Ratings
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Non-consensual dick picks are the same as any other non-consensual act, a violation of boundaries. So please reserve sending these to those you have a sexting or dick-rating service with. Those who want to roll their eyes in amazement that this can be monetized are being willfully blind to the obvious market for this service.
I’m not sure why it bothers you so much but please don’t kink-shame others. You don’t represent all men nor what’s normal. It’s a really transparent display of insecurity to try to make yourself look more manly by putting down other dudes. Lots of men pay for this service because they like SPH or cock worship. You don’t need to understand it, have to like it or to pay for it but please don’t patronize that you’re the authority on what’s sexy, healthy, normal or desperate. Just stay in your lane.
You're one of the better trolls around anywhere on the internet.
I mean this as a compliment.
LOLZ.
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It doesn't bother me at all I just found it strange seeing as all other times I have read that SP considered guys sending them dick picks to be creeps and people to avoid, and now there is one turning it into a business for herself.
I don’t give a flying fuck it is not my dick on the picture, you think you are being more of a man buy sending dick picks go right ahead enjoy yourself..
I don’t have insecurities at my age I am quite comfortable with who I am and the life I have led
Mostly it was with the love of my life who cancer took from me, but I have my children and grandchildren and a few exceptional women that I see.
The only thing I miss is being able to see all of them during this crazy time that we are living.
I don’t have an issue, I was just pointing out the obvious.
Send a dick pick and you are creep and to be avoided add $20-$30 dollars to it and call it a rating service and you become a gentleman.
The other thing that must also be obvious to you is that these are the Women that I will avoid.
I couldn’t care less how you deal with unsolicited dick picks.
You are saying this like it is a bad thing.
Unsolicited dick pics = Asshole/creepy ~ yes
Dick pic rating service = client/gentleman ~ Yes
Why is that's bad thing?
One is a service being offered and the client is following those policies so he is a gentleman. The other is doing it unrequested and that is what makes him an asshole or creep.
How is that a hard concept to understand? One is consensually requested, the other is not.
I understand the concept very well.
However like you have a screening process and see only people that meet your criteria, I wouldn’t be caught dead seeing a woman who offers dick pick rating services especially the one that this thread is coming from who's Twitter does nothing but bash clients and treat them like dirt.
To me this just screams of you are nothing but an ATM, then again some guys are perfectly fine with that, best clients ever right.
I’m really sorry about your partner, that must have been hard.
It seems you’re not quite understanding that what makes sending dick pics creepy is that it’s nonconsensual. Maybe think of it as a form of digital flashing.
As far as whether you would see a provider who offers this service, how would you really know? Most SPs will offer services within their boundaries to clients & regulars willing to pay for them. It really speaks more about the volume of requests they’re getting rather than an attitude towards clients. And so how is monetizing dick ratings any morally different than monetizing sex? Is it a cash-grab for Starbucks to sell cake-pops? No, they’re adding value to customers; customers were asking for cake pops and now they sell them.
Maybe hiring a SW just isn’t for you if it makes you feel demoralized and like an ATM. But most clients get that they’re paying for a service and it’s a fair exchange. It takes a certain amount of personal security to do this and know there’s nothing wrong with you, so I still wonder if maybe this is coming from some deeper insecurities. Are you worried your providers are secretly rating and judging you perhaps?
So instead you shame those who offer a service? Do you shame those who like GREEK? Or other fetishes?
I get this clearly does bother you. It really does and we can all see it, I just don't get why. Your arguments make no sense. Remember, there are plenty of women who would not have sex with you either on a personal level but will for money based on your theories, are they not looking at you like an ATM as well?
I'm not saying you have to see these providers. Not at all, screen all you want, I just don't get shaming people for something you are not interested in. You want to make this a "bad" thing. You want people to jump on your bandwagon for something that is between two consenting adults.
Now I don't know what Twitter thread you are talking about either because you never linked it but seems to me, the problem here is you. Don't read the threads, don't get the service. Easy.
First I am not shaming anybody, did you see anywhere that I wrote that they should be ashamed of themselves, and quite frankly what ever services somebody wants is their business I merely said that I would not see anybody that offers that kind of service which is my right like some of you don't offer Greek.
I was just pointing out as you have agreed sending dick picks unsolicited equals creepy and being an asshole.
Attaching a couple of $20 bills and calling it a rating services equals being a gentleman.
The women that I see have never treated me like an ATM just like I don't treat them like a piece of meat.
Yes it is a money transaction and I have no illusions or problems with that.
They have been extremely kind to me and with a few we have become good friends.
Why would I want people to jump on my bandwagon, you really think I give a fuck whether anonymous people on an escort board share my opinion or not, or a particular escort does.
I just thought it would be an interesting topic to discuss how quickly the addition of money changes things and people's perception of suddenly turning from being a creep to a gentleman nothing more.
Why would I feel demoralized, yes it took me a very long time to decide to see a sex worker after my wife passed away but I realized that seeing a civilian would be totally unfair as it would always end up being an unfair comparison and I would be waistlng her time and mine.
Luckily the lady I saw turned out to be such an exceptionally kind and gorgeous woman that I have been seeing her ever since and we have become close friends.
I don't see many I have a limited number who I see they are all exceptional woman and are more than kind to me so no I have no guilt feelings, insecurities nor have I ever felt like an ATM with them.
I have never had issues attracting women in my younger years and I still don't if I stuck to my own age group but like I said dating just doesn't interest me for now, I am quite happy with seeing my ATF regularly and the few others sometimes.
It doesn't "suddenly" change it. One is unsolicited. THAT is the issue. You really don't get it. You can say you do all you want but your fight here shows how much you don't.
You don't like this service and that is clear. You want others to feel the same, that is also clear.
You want to label this a "bad" thing, and most Definitely trying to shame the women to offer this service. And you most definitely want people to agree. It is so obvious by everything that you write.
I think you have been shown that people don't agree because they get the difference between the two acts. Whether you accept that or not is a another story.
Maybe time to move on. This is a losing battle for you.
But let's be real - like many others - you won't let it go.
How adorable, you seem to know what I clearly think and what I want without knowing a thing about me.
You have also decided to judge whether people agree or not.
I didn't realize this has now become a battle.
Do you like turning things in to a battle.
Do you like winning at all costs ( perhaps your real hair colour is orange).
You have won! I finally agree with you it is time to move on.
Many people say one thing and they truly mean another. That is what is clear with you. It is written in every post you have made in this thread. It is obvious. So obvious. I'm just calling a spade - a spade.
It became a battle when you were completely unwilling to acknowledge facts and tried to use it as a way to shame women who are offering this service. You don't like the service. We get it. Many don't agree with you or your reasoning and that is clear as well.
Say what you want but the proof is in your own post. Don't blame me for pointing it out.
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I can only imagine how difficult that was. And it takes a lot of courage to embrace life when you’re the one left behind. Thank you for sharing that, you have my respect for having lived and persevered through one of the hardest of life’s challenges.
You should never feel demoralized because these ladies aren’t criticizing you personally nor men in general, but they’re talking of a negative male culture. I know it’s very hard to see things from where someone else stands but trust me when I say you would be equally annoyed (if not much more) to be a SW dealing with those who cross boundaries. Lived realities are real, perceived realities are what you imagine, not even close to real. Consider trusting the lived realities of SWs as we describe them.
As far as feeling like an ATM, maybe just take another look at why you’re even raising this point. Why is appearing not motivated by money a great attribute of a SW? But we accept a great doctor, lawyer, business, car dealership, restaurant, vacation experience can ask for all they’re worth? It’s not mutually exclusive to feel passionately about your work and also want to be compensated. Artists, chefs, boutique entrepreneurs are all similar to SWs in this way. I want to and derive enormous pleasure from feeding you! In fact, it’s 90% of the joy of cooking. But I also have my feet on the ground in my own goals and ambitions like any human, so want to do the best I can for myself & my family. Ambition just makes me better at my job.
If I’m being honest, you’re gaslighting above and pretending you’re not shaming things you clearly dislike & disagree with. I know it feels temporarily empowering to bandwagon a small gang of compatriots to agree. Ultimately, what I see is the thing that really concerns me, your feelings of being potentially demoralized & played, your growing alienation towards a community of women who you share intense intimacy with. I believe you are sincere in your approach but just have not done the work to walk a mile in a lady’s stilettos. You mention not understanding what entitlement is above. Well, entitlement comes from having led a life where others don’t challenge you. And you balking at feedback is the greatest sign of it.
One more thought. Maybe you have another incredible chapter in life you don’t know about? An alternate reality where you are more open-hearted to new ideas? One where you’re really able to move on from loss and embrace life right here, right now and with the cards on the table. SWs have quite a lot to offer in this dimension. Many don’t ask a whole lot when you think about it. Maybe consider we actually care about you and want you to live an amazing life. And consider how great it feels to help give an amazing life back.
I wish you all the best on your journey and thank you for sharing what you did which truly touched me.
Xx Ruby
Ruby,
I know I said I would move on and I was intending to I will not respond to Jessica, because I am not into “battles” but to you I feel I need to as you took the time to answer in a thoughtful way.
First let me say that I adore women, I have received nothing but love and kindness from them throughout my life and I was lucky enough to spend a lifetime with one who was the love of my life.
I have also been lucky to find a young lady who is totally gorgeous and one of the kindest people I have ever met, we are close friends as well as me being her client, and yes you can be both. There is no feeling of guilt nor feelings of being used on either side.
Yes I see others escorts as well and I have never had a bad experience with any, if my body could manage and my finances also I would love to see all of them regularly.
You are wrong I have no intention of shaming anyone I was merely trying to point out how the addition of money changes perception and makes things all of a sudden perfectly acceptable.
Having people share my views or jump on my bandwagon, please I am someone in my 60’s I don’t have ego issues and don’t need anonymous people on an escort board to agree with me.
You want to know the real reason I write on this board.
I am bored out of my mind, I take care of my 95 year old mother in law, an absolute sweetheart, but there is only just so much judge Judy I can watch without crawling out of my skin and I miss not being able to see my children grandchildren ( they are trying to protect us and won’t see us except daily on FaceTime). and yes I miss not being able to see my ATF but we talk all the time and try to keep each other’s spirits up.
I know I said I would move on and I was intending to I will not respond to Jessica, because I am not into “battles” but to you I feel I need to as you took the time to answer in a thoughtful way.
First let me say that I adore women, I have received nothing but love and kindness from them throughout my life and I was lucky enough to spend a lifetime with one who was the love of my life.
I have also been lucky to find a young lady who is totally gorgeous and one of the kindest people I have ever met, we are close friends as well as me being her client, and yes you can be both. There is no feeling of guilt nor feelings of being used on either side.
Yes I see others escorts as well and I have never had a bad experience with any, if my body could manage and my finances also I would love to see all of them regularly.
You are wrong I have no intention of shaming anyone I was merely trying to point out how the addition of money changes perception and makes things all of a sudden perfectly acceptable.
Having people share my views or jump on my bandwagon, please I am someone in my 60’s I don’t have ego issues and don’t need anonymous people on an escort board to agree with me.
You want to know the real reason I write on this board.
I am bored out of my mind, I take care of my 95 year old mother in law, an absolute sweetheart, but there is only just so much judge Judy I can watch without crawling out of my skin and I miss not being able to see my children grandchildren ( they are trying to protect us and won’t see us except daily on FaceTime). and yes I miss not being able to see my ATF but we talk all the time and try to keep each other’s spirits up.
