Got Fucked Over
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I had refrained from posting after seeing tboy's last post just to see if JFK would take the bait and it took a couple days..lol..
Tboy I am gathering thinks that ''just to see''' is equivalent to ''a test''. Am I right Tboy? That's what I gathered.. which is why he found it ''priceless''..
again...to reiterate a point.. everything is a test... or isn't depending on how you view it. Getting up in the morning is a 'test' of your body.. ''to see if''' you are still breathing but we don't think of it as a 'test'.. it just is..
What I got from this thread is that both Tboy and DrLove (amoung others) were quick to think the worst of this woman. A tester, A gameplayer, And a ''fuckeroverer''... hmm new word..
Many were quick to join in and bump the OP up. Several felt obliged to point out the other possibilites. ie... innocent until proven guilty especially in the absence of the 'defendant's' right to 'represent' herself.
Having been one in the past to chime in to ''yeah.. what a bitch'' or ''what an asshole'' in the past.. I've learned there are always 2 sides to every story and in most cases several sides!
Tboy I am gathering thinks that ''just to see''' is equivalent to ''a test''. Am I right Tboy? That's what I gathered.. which is why he found it ''priceless''..
again...to reiterate a point.. everything is a test... or isn't depending on how you view it. Getting up in the morning is a 'test' of your body.. ''to see if''' you are still breathing but we don't think of it as a 'test'.. it just is..
What I got from this thread is that both Tboy and DrLove (amoung others) were quick to think the worst of this woman. A tester, A gameplayer, And a ''fuckeroverer''... hmm new word..
Many were quick to join in and bump the OP up. Several felt obliged to point out the other possibilites. ie... innocent until proven guilty especially in the absence of the 'defendant's' right to 'represent' herself.
Having been one in the past to chime in to ''yeah.. what a bitch'' or ''what an asshole'' in the past.. I've learned there are always 2 sides to every story and in most cases several sides!
No argument there that he shouldn't spend anymore time on her.. but there's nothing wrong with 'her type'.. just because she doesn't share the same level of interest in HIM!squash500 said:IMHO she's the type of woman you don't spend too much energy or money on. If she likes DL fine if not DL should move on and fast!
Flipping hell man, I'd be glad if the girl didnt take the relationship seriously.
The last thing you need is a "Stage 5 Clinger". Also referred to as Cling-ons
The last thing you need is a "Stage 5 Clinger". Also referred to as Cling-ons
Those are the worst, cant get rid of them after a 1-night standCarrie Moon said:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=stage five clinger
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y_Z4KrmZ1Oc
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uWq081etBi8&feature=related
Carrie Moon said:
I agree with you. This woman can play whatever games she wants. It's a free country
.I'm not sure how old DL is? I'm 46. Last week a friend of mine offered to fix me up with a woman in her mid 40's who was just average looking and about 20 lbs overweight. This was a problem right there as I love petite women.
I told my friend thanks but no thanks. I told him that I can have sex with a hot looking sp in her early to mid 20's for a couple of hundred bucks. I told him that this hobby has really jaded me in that way.
IMHO it's hard to take below average looking civilian women seriously after participating in this hobby for any length of time.
IMHO if this woman was really interested in DL she would be all over him by now. This school of thought has been repeated many times in this thread!
ah.. yes. I had seen the movie Wedding Crashers but forgotten that lovely term. Never heard it again!The LoLRus said:Those are the worst, cant get rid of them after a 1-night stand
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=stage five clinger
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y_Z4KrmZ1Oc
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uWq081etBi8&feature=related
Dr. Love:
I think you took the right approach. If I were in your shoes, I would not do anything different.
Yes, you could have joined her and her friends, but what it she dumped you after that? You would have felt even worse.
Unfortunately, if you really want a serious relationship with a women then you have to learn to put up with a lot of bullshit including joining her with her friends where she may even make you jealous and angry in public. Now, if you have a really low self esteem then you might put up with that crap for a long time till she gets old and ugly finally settles down.
My approach is to live free and hobby.
I think you took the right approach. If I were in your shoes, I would not do anything different.
Yes, you could have joined her and her friends, but what it she dumped you after that? You would have felt even worse.
Unfortunately, if you really want a serious relationship with a women then you have to learn to put up with a lot of bullshit including joining her with her friends where she may even make you jealous and angry in public. Now, if you have a really low self esteem then you might put up with that crap for a long time till she gets old and ugly finally settles down.
My approach is to live free and hobby.
So, since I've been having difficulty getting her to tell me exactly what it is that she wants, I sent her an e-mail outlining a few options - one of which was a FWB arrangement. She took offense to this, saying that she hoped that I would have known her better than this. WTF?? We've only been out on two dates... I don't know her from a hole in the ground!
No shit sherlock!drlove said:
And you don't see a contradiction between this and asking her to tell you what she wants with/from you? You acknowledge that you barely know her yet, but you propose her a FWB arrangement? Have you even fucked her yet? How do you decide to have a regular casual sex relationship with someone you've never been to third base with??? You may be a lousy lay for all she knows. Why would she want to commit to fucking you regularly if she hasn't fucked you once yet?
I will repeat what I've said before: she may be open to many types of relationships (friends, FWB, fuck buddy, commited long term relationship, etc.) in her life, but she CANNOT know whether she wants one with you until she knows you enough to make that call.
No no... you've got it wrong. I simply gave her a bunch of different options e.g. very casual dating, FWB etc. in a hypothetical sense to drive the point home that I have absolutely no clue what it is she wants, and it's up to her to spell it out for me. That way, we're both on the same page.
drlove said:
Nope.. everyone read your post as you meant it and now reiterated it.. but then again many of us thought your post inane from the beginning but it's like a bad car wreck.. can't stop rubber necking. You're obviously having control issues.. You can't force someone to be on the same page as you.. but you did.. the end page.
Geez.drlove said:
How can I put it in a way you'll understand? Do you read french?
She may be open to the IDEA of all of the options you presented to her. But until she knows you enough, she CANNOT know whether she is interested in any of those options WITH YOU.
JFK you make an interesting pointJohnFK said:
. I would be curious as to how old DL's young lady is approximately? If she's a hottie in her 20's then of course she loves to be chased as she is in top demand.However if she is in her mid 40's then maybe she would in fact be tired of all the dating games.
Just to repeat. That's the one missing link to this never ending thread. How old is DL's mystery woman?
