Please do not take offense at this comment, I do not know you but you seem to be a nice person. What you posted above, as complete and accurate as it might be, is only half the information necessary for anyone to respond.
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How do you get a man to not cheat on you ?
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Madonna that is a good question. Now I have been on the other side of that equation. I was cheated on and I have also been a good husband but never got what i wanted. I left and don't bother being in a relationship now. Now I just want to enjoy the company of a lady. I am in Barrie on occasion and I think we could have some fun. Chat me up some time.
Ah when I stumbled on some pics of us at a restaurant, this gal truly shined - I reminisce *sigh*. But no worries, I have another wonderful 'camarella'.
Not to cheat takes conviction, conviction takes experience usually very negative life experiences. Once you been through the shitter and rung out like a rag a few time, it either makes you bitter or instills conviction that you to never want do the same to another person.
omg I simply cannot stop staring this video you have ... wow!!! one of the sexiest women ever lolMost guys I talk to have noticed a huge difference in attitude between pre and post marriage. Basically I got the prize - now I can stop caring & trying.
Threads like this get the old hamster wheel turning.
I have great relationship with my SO. Happy in all things. But every once in awhile the bastard in me wants to take a pretty young thing and fuck like like a pornstar. And do things that quite frankly I can't picture wanting to do with the SO because I love and respect her so much.
Don't get me wrong. I'm incredibly appreciative of the ladies who who are willing to be treated like a dirty little slut. I just prefer that side of me to be anonymous.
Weird that I would make use of SP's because I respect my SO so much. Buts that's the way I feel.
I have great relationship with my SO. Happy in all things. But every once in awhile the bastard in me wants to take a pretty young thing and fuck like like a pornstar. And do things that quite frankly I can't picture wanting to do with the SO because I love and respect her so much.
Don't get me wrong. I'm incredibly appreciative of the ladies who who are willing to be treated like a dirty little slut. I just prefer that side of me to be anonymous.
Weird that I would make use of SP's because I respect my SO so much. Buts that's the way I feel.
How do you know that your SO doesn't want to be treated like a dirty little slut sometimes? Have you asked her?
Sorry, but I like my sex dirty sometimes and I'm certain that my exes both loved and respected me knowing this and maybe even more so for it. I just don't see how loving and respecting someone equates into not exploring ones desires in the bedroom. Are you ashamed of this very normal want or do you fear rejection? If you have a great relationship with her you should be able to introduce this idea without it negatively impacting your relationship. If it's not for her then it's not for her and so be it. I just wonder how many couples could be having an even better sex life if they didn't feel like they have to hide certain things about themselves. I get it though as civies can be more inhibited. It's just a shame that you feel you have to go outside the relationship for this when it appears that you haven't even attempted exploring this with her. Who knows, you could vamp up your sex life and relationship even more and save money as well
Dr. Sophia out. lol
I see your point Sophia but here is the counter to that. My ex wife told me to tell her my fantasies. I did and I got laughed at. It lead to feelings of guilt for having that. You see I had what another poster put up earlier in this thread, once I got married the woman that was my wife was not the girl I fell in love with. Sex was when she wanted and there was no imagination in it at all. Like I said earlier in this post, I was asked what I wanted then laughed at. Add that to a list of growing concerns I finally cut the cord.
I do agree that women cheat too and it is just for sex. I believe that sex is quite the addictive hobby. It can consume many a man and woman. However, I know Madonna was asking this and the man cheated because you made it easy for him. I like sex but not every day. I know for a guy I like to be seduced and once I get what I want I tend to give the lady what she wants. However sometimes I just like foreplay for both so it adds to the fun for later.
Right now, I am happy with where I am. I'll be honest when I say I would love to find that kinky girl to join me in many an adventure but if it happens it happens, if not, meh.
I do agree that women cheat too and it is just for sex. I believe that sex is quite the addictive hobby. It can consume many a man and woman. However, I know Madonna was asking this and the man cheated because you made it easy for him. I like sex but not every day. I know for a guy I like to be seduced and once I get what I want I tend to give the lady what she wants. However sometimes I just like foreplay for both so it adds to the fun for later.
Right now, I am happy with where I am. I'll be honest when I say I would love to find that kinky girl to join me in many an adventure but if it happens it happens, if not, meh.
I didn't mean that you cheated. I just asked if you know why women cheat too. I think women cheat almost as much as men do.
For me, its the need for variety.
Adding...
Variety, Variety, Variety
That's why and always will be why.
For me, it wouldn't matter that you gave me great sex every day
and that your BJ's were the best I had ever had. Eventually
they become the "Same" great sex and "Same" best BJ every day.
For me, having sex often enough was great, for about the first 3 years
of my marriage, then it got boring, even though it was "FANTASTIC SEX!"
So I got a GF and we had great, and different sex everytime I went over, but
it was the same, different sex and then that got boring so we broke up. I
found someone else for more great and different sex for a while then that
got boring and we broke up. Then I got back with GF#1 for a while and
the sex was great again because it was relatively new again. Then we broke
up again because, yeah, it got boring again. We did this about 6 times
over 18 years. Me and GF#1 are presently apart, she says for good, because
he can't handle the break-ups.
I now have GF #5 (GF's #2 - #4, went the same way as #1 but much faster) and
it hasn't been long but I see the "BORING" signs already.
In between all of the above I filled the gaps with first, Dancers, then MP's,
then SP's. It was all exhilarating at first until event that got old and
I moved on.
I love my wife and there are things she does to this day, after more than 20
years of marriage, that melt my heart, but sex isn't one of them. She has
even told me she is not interested in sex anymore. That would/will be
my defense if I ever need it.
The moral of this story is that most men have a short attention span while
women are quite possibly the opposite, what a revelation, men and women
are different!
I would say that if women (you can tell your friends this too) want to
attempt to stop their men from cheating (or whatever you want to call it)
then change it up between the sheets a bit and do that often enough
that he doesn't know what he's gonna get when he gets between the
sheets with you.
Adding...
Variety, Variety, Variety
That's why and always will be why.
For me, it wouldn't matter that you gave me great sex every day
and that your BJ's were the best I had ever had. Eventually
they become the "Same" great sex and "Same" best BJ every day.
For me, having sex often enough was great, for about the first 3 years
of my marriage, then it got boring, even though it was "FANTASTIC SEX!"
So I got a GF and we had great, and different sex everytime I went over, but
it was the same, different sex and then that got boring so we broke up. I
found someone else for more great and different sex for a while then that
got boring and we broke up. Then I got back with GF#1 for a while and
the sex was great again because it was relatively new again. Then we broke
up again because, yeah, it got boring again. We did this about 6 times
over 18 years. Me and GF#1 are presently apart, she says for good, because
he can't handle the break-ups.
I now have GF #5 (GF's #2 - #4, went the same way as #1 but much faster) and
it hasn't been long but I see the "BORING" signs already.
In between all of the above I filled the gaps with first, Dancers, then MP's,
then SP's. It was all exhilarating at first until event that got old and
I moved on.
I love my wife and there are things she does to this day, after more than 20
years of marriage, that melt my heart, but sex isn't one of them. She has
even told me she is not interested in sex anymore. That would/will be
my defense if I ever need it.
The moral of this story is that most men have a short attention span while
women are quite possibly the opposite, what a revelation, men and women
are different!
I would say that if women (you can tell your friends this too) want to
attempt to stop their men from cheating (or whatever you want to call it)
then change it up between the sheets a bit and do that often enough
that he doesn't know what he's gonna get when he gets between the
sheets with you.
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Butler, have you not said "I love you" to an SP when she's done a slutty thing for you?
I can understand how you're feeling, but like Sinful Sophia said, if your wife could be naughty the odd time, it might change the way you look at her and perhaps re-spark the romance.
On the other hand, I've seen husbands return from business trips with lingerie gifts for their wives, and had them thrown back at them (their wives weren't interested).
Nope. NEVER said I love you to an SP. EVER. That's a special phrase reserved for the person in my life I mean it.
Believe it or not the romance is there with us. We laugh all the time. Do things for eachother just cause. We both take care of our shit at home. And still have a good sex life. It's more of a love making thing and mutually satisfying.
Sofia she isn't really into the old ass smacking,hair pulling, dirty talking thing. It's not that we don't get heated up in the bedroom it's just in a way we both know each others triggers very well and mixing it up has in the passed sometimes created awkwardness (and giggling).
And like I said I'm a bastard and freely admit it. I'm not even going to attempt to justify the extracurricular fucks. Once in a while I get a craving and fulfill it. And remain in a happy relationship.
In a way I don't want to treat her like a dirty little slut. I like everything about her the way she is. We do have really good communication overall so I don't think if she wanted something she would hesitate. And really I don't want that kind of sex from her.
Maybe it's the anonymity. Maybe it's the taboo of the whole thing that is a part of it. Maybe it's because it's just something for me. But it works so I suppose That's all that counts right?
Believe it or not the romance is there with us. We laugh all the time. Do things for eachother just cause. We both take care of our shit at home. And still have a good sex life. It's more of a love making thing and mutually satisfying.
Sofia she isn't really into the old ass smacking,hair pulling, dirty talking thing. It's not that we don't get heated up in the bedroom it's just in a way we both know each others triggers very well and mixing it up has in the passed sometimes created awkwardness (and giggling).
And like I said I'm a bastard and freely admit it. I'm not even going to attempt to justify the extracurricular fucks. Once in a while I get a craving and fulfill it. And remain in a happy relationship.
In a way I don't want to treat her like a dirty little slut. I like everything about her the way she is. We do have really good communication overall so I don't think if she wanted something she would hesitate. And really I don't want that kind of sex from her.
Maybe it's the anonymity. Maybe it's the taboo of the whole thing that is a part of it. Maybe it's because it's just something for me. But it works so I suppose That's all that counts right?
Oh Jesus, it's not that kind of "I love you" (heck, I'v heard the odd SP say that to me or wanting to say that to me but held back, when I hit that spot with them).
It's the same kind of "I love you" that I've heard porn stars say to the gal they're pounding "Baby, I'm gonna marry your ass".
+ to add to this haven't you guys said "love you or love you too" to a friend you see in high regard or have a special connection with. It's something we say to people that we like more then your average....geeze why are guys so afraid of the love you word...I have said it to other guys plus a couple on terb too like love you too or something similar. You need have good socially awareness to understand how it is used.
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Social awareness or casual use? I don't say it casually. When I do, those people know I mean it.
Men can compartmentalize more easily. One activity is not related at all to another, or doesn't have to be. A night out with the boys has zero to do with one's wife. Hunting has zero to do with one's wife. Work has zero to do with one's wife. Strip clubs have zero to do with one's wife. A girlfriend has zero to do with one's wife. Yes, a horrific wife may drive a guy into the arms of another woman, but a fantastic wife can still be cheated on even though one loves her and is happy with her. A man's world (can be) a collection of islands, and we can hop from island to island without worrying about the other islands.
In fact, I dropped off an SP, and before she exited my car, she said ILU. Then she said, oh, you know what I mean, thinking I might take it the wrong way. (We hadn't seen each other in a bit, and it was good getting together again)
