Is it possible for a provider to develop feelings for a client?

[Jackson_junior]

In theory, it may sound pretty good, but I don’t think it is. Years ago I dated a woman from. AFF who was out there looking for clients. I didn’t realize until after we started dating that that’s what she did and in the second month she said I needed to give her $1200 because that’s the money she would have made if she hadn’t been with me.
It was very transactional and also she was not a very nice person in real life. As a. SP she was charming and appeared to be much happier, but behind the façade she was a miserable bitch.

I would keep these things separate as much as it’s a boost to your ego. It’s unlikely it will end well.

Damn, it’s like customer service. Putting on that mask during work and taking it off once you clock out. I wonder how many SPs are great actors and how many genuinely love being social . Maybe the talkative ones are least fake ?

 

[killing.them.softly]

If you can get access to the article that would be great since my source / reference is there.

The tease is over: Hamilton’s last strip club shuts down on Barton Street

The demise of the Hamilton Strip effectively bans peeler joints from the lower city. It also signals the end of a history-laden building that started life as Hotel Hanrahan.

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In conclusion, the waiter was a guy / and partner up with one of the strippers.
If you are aware I am sure you can conclude why she partner up with him. It wasn't his looks or money - he didn't have much - so it could have been companionship.

So 1 / 1000 strippers may end up hooking / marriage.

Amen to that.

 

[killing.them.softly]

There are no absolutes in life other than death and taxes which I’m sure you have heard before. Yes, it can happen and I carry the fond memories and baggage of such relationships. The key is communication in a respectful and open manner such that you both can manage your expectations.

My question for you is, how do you know this? How do you know that escorts are exploiting a vulnerability using deceit, and that this isn't the narrative you've been told by certain guys you talk to online? I'm not saying that everyone in the sex industry is the same person and I know some don't have the best intentions. I think ultimately, many girls also get exploited by clients and it's unfair to just say we're the villains in these situations. I know a few escorts who were seduced by clients and ended up dating them, only to be in an abusive dynamic and no longer having a source of income.

Also, sometimes clients are just plain delusional. I've often met clients who called their sugar babies, escorts they were seeing and strippers they paid to hang out with ''their girlfriends''. A common thread between a few of these stories is that these women wanted out of the industry, and were offered a very minimal income to hang out with these men on a regular basis. I've also heard a lot of men say that ''there was ambiguity'' and they were taken advantage of and heart broken by a sex worker who ''blurred lines'', but often in my experience clients are the ones who start pushing for these blurred lines.. Someone told me they love me they other day. What am I supposed to say to that? Did I lead him to believe it was reciprocal? Absolutely not. I am just good at what I do, and it's not my fault if someone is confused by that.

There is someone above who say we ''get addicted to princess treatment'' meanwhile ''men in our personal lives treat us like shit''. That is BECAUSE what he views as princess treatment is a fantasy that guys are willing to pay for and indulge in, even if some clients don't get this. ''Treating a hot girl like a princess'' is actually a kink that some guys have, they are doing it for themselves. The dinner dates, gifts, champagne and all of that only are there because it's a fantasy and they are perks of a job that ultimately take a lot more energy and skills to do than most clients will ever understand. We know very well that the vast majority of people won't treat somebody they are dating like this. That's also why the client-provider relationship becoming romantic may not work..

If while escorting I met a really wealthy guy who can afford taking me on dates and helping me make my life a bit easier, and started dating him outside of it and not being paid officially.. I would be really weirded out if suddenly as a power move he decided to just be cheap with me. This is also something that has happened when I tried to date a client before. When I told him he didn't have to pay me anymore and he wasn't my client, at first he was super sweet, took me on car rides, took me out to eat, asked me how I was doing.. I'm not saying he was spending thousands of dollars on me, but he was acting in a way that you'd want someone you are starting to date, to act. Yet he stopped acting that way very fast. Eventually I was the one paying his meals when I saw him, and he just started taking everything out on me.. his frustration with work, with his social life etc. I was barely considered anymore and he expressed resentment for having done all of this for me in the first place, which is really unfair.

I think a lot of men don't realize that while it's easy for women to find sex and short term relationships, it's actually really hard to meet somebody who will treat you well and want to stick around. As a woman I'm not asking for all kinds of superficial criteria like the person being rich and looking like a 6' tall super model with a giant dick, a huge house and a luxury car. Most of us want someone who we have things in common with, someone we're attracted to, who we will connect with emotionally and who will actually be kind to us and try to understand. On dating apps, sure I can find guys who want hook ups.. They may or may not be honest about it, many of them are not. But the vast majority of the time these guys want to go to the park with a cheap beer, they don't want a relationship and they don't want anything other than sex. So it's understandable that some escorts find comfort in being well treated and even spoiled by their clients.. Just remember that there is a lot of work behind it. A teacher who gets Christmas presents from her student worked very hard. Even if she got expensive perfume and makeup and candy from her students, she isn't working for the gifts, these are perks.

Well said

 

[killing.them.softly]

Not

That happened to me and many providers I know. I have been pressured to offer a service before and it was written in a review, that person was maybe my first client as an Indy, he low balled me and manipulated me. I've had clients try many many times to manipulate me into giving services I don't offer. Sometimes clients don't respect consent and boundaries and then they go talk about it on a board. Others don't understand it wasn't consensual.



Eh no it's not your money your rules. If you're not happy with someone's service you should go see somebody else.

And reviews are often used against providers or for bragging in a lot of ways. They're used to hurt us or boost the clients ego sometimes.

I'm lucky to have positive reviews mostly, but even in my reviews compromising info is revealed and it's dangerous. I understand how reviews help clients make a better choice but you have to understand that they are not fully objective and that sometimes people are lying or stretching the truth.

I think it's important to take reviews with a grain of salt. I've also seen ppl gang up on providers with reviews just for the hell of it.
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Wait! Without your consent? Wtf kind of customers would do that?! There is a special farm where those types need to go.

 

[Muchadoaboutnothing]

In my opinion, number 3 won't cut it. A lot of the SP's clients are like number 3.

lol no they’re not

 

[killing.them.softly]

lol no they’re not

Not

Fair enough. I have strong feelings about that sort of thing and tend to over react .... any who....

i may as well give my opinion on the OP. I know a provider and a client can develop a intimate relationship that dosent involve a financial transaction. I know because im living it. It wasnt planned it just kind of happened. We met up twice. We really liked eachother and the atttaction was intense. So desided to try dating....I understand this is rare and many may criticize me for this decision or hell maybe you think im full of it.. im fine with that.

This relationship has its challenges.. ohhh lord knows it dose. With time and patience we seem to be able to over come these challeges. ... Probably dosent need to be stated but i am not a jealous person. I dont ask she dosent tell. We give eachother lots of space through out the week and it works for both of us. I will admit there have been some honesty issues but nothing serious... (FORM BOTH OF US) I dont know if it will last but i am certainly glad it happened and will continue to enjoy it. I have learned a lot about life and love..... All right ill STFU now.

 

[Elv]

Fair enough. I have strong feelings about that sort of thing and tend to over react .... any who....

i may as well give my opinion on the OP. I know a provider and a client can develop a intimate relationship that dosent involve a financial transaction. I know because im living it. It wasnt planned it just kind of happened. We met up twice. We really liked eachother and the atttaction was intense. So desided to try dating....I understand this is rare and many may criticize me for this decision or hell maybe you think im full of it.. im fine with that.

This relationship has its challenges.. ohhh lord knows it dose. With time and patience we seem to be able to over come these challeges. ... Probably dosent need to be stated but i am not a jealous person. I dont ask she dosent tell. We give eachother lots of space through out the week and it works for both of us. I will admit there have been some honesty issues but nothing serious... (FORM BOTH OF US) I dont know if it will last but i am certainly glad it happened and will continue to enjoy it. I have learned a lot about life and love..... All right ill STFU now.

Wish I’ve known some of this earlier. Live and learn.

 

[southpaw]

Fair enough. I have strong feelings about that sort of thing and tend to over react .... any who....

i may as well give my opinion on the OP. I know a provider and a client can develop a intimate relationship that dosent involve a financial transaction. I know because im living it. It wasnt planned it just kind of happened. We met up twice. We really liked eachother and the atttaction was intense. So desided to try dating....I understand this is rare and many may criticize me for this decision or hell maybe you think im full of it.. im fine with that.

This relationship has its challenges.. ohhh lord knows it dose. With time and patience we seem to be able to over come these challeges. ... Probably dosent need to be stated but i am not a jealous person. I dont ask she dosent tell. We give eachother lots of space through out the week and it works for both of us. I will admit there have been some honesty issues but nothing serious... (FORM BOTH OF US) I dont know if it will last but i am certainly glad it happened and will continue to enjoy it. I have learned a lot about life and love..... All right ill STFU now.

Rates? Is CIM included or extra? The provider, not you.

 

[killing.them.softly]

Rates? Is CIM included or extra? The provider, not you.

I was going to say you couldn't afford me LOL. I figured some jokes would be made. All good