It's almost like attributing every stereotype, or statistical factoid, about an identifiable group to every member of the group is both unfair and wrong. Who'd a thunk?
Is it possible for a provider to develop feelings for a client?
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Some people need to get out of the basement more.
I suspect there are very few guys who can handle the thought of their girl making a living having sex with other dudes. (Not saying it’s justified, but it’s the way we’ve been socialized by society).Of course it is , likely probably not… - I remember commenting on a previous thread about dating SPs and how a friend of mine who is in the business fell in love with her client and they shortly started dating afterwards.
Unfortunately it didn’t end well as the boyfriend wanted her to quit escorting and work a normal job. In short she left him because she didn’t want to leave her job
Moral of the story if a SP falls for you don’t expect her to change her whole life around for you and certainly don’t expect her to quit her job lol
I find the thought of the escort "having sex with other dudes" damn sexy and would be great to be with an escort...lol. life is crazy. I'll leave it up to her if she wants to retire. Independence is important
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You’re researching a paper correct?
Think about it. They've seen hundreds of guys, many likely better looking, better personality and more money than you. I mean, what do you have to offer then that many, many haven't already?
Like I said, you are possibly one of the very few. Most guys could not handle the jealousy, especially when sex at home becomes less frequent.
And I agree
that independence is important.
It’s one thing to hobby and end up developing feelings for an SP or have an SP develop feelings for a client.
It’s a whole other thing to get into the hobby in order to find a partner.
OP, while your initial line of questioning might have some merit, some of your follow-on inquiries cast doubt on your emotional aptitude, if I can be blunt. I would recommend you live a bit more in the real world and not pursue this “fantasy”.
It’s a whole other thing to get into the hobby in order to find a partner.
OP, while your initial line of questioning might have some merit, some of your follow-on inquiries cast doubt on your emotional aptitude, if I can be blunt. I would recommend you live a bit more in the real world and not pursue this “fantasy”.
This is what I thought as well, even more so after some of the follow up questions.
This.
Could probably close the thread after this post as it’s the most sensible and logical.
Sure. If you're a stud like Harvey Specter from Suites. But the Harvey's of the world don't chase girls and wonder if love is possible under these circumstances.
Times are changing and so are peoples needs. Love isn't enough anymore. Peoples priorities always shift.
This subject comes up so often on social media, I find it kinda fascinating that there is always somebody asking this question. I've heard of colleagues dating clients before, it does happen. I do know a few people who have had positive, long term relationships with former clients, but generally I've mostly heard of people having bad experiences dating their clients.. Honestly, I don't recommend going into this with the idea in mind that you will find a girlfriend because an escort ''has less chances of having partners because most men will not want to date an escort or former escort''. A lot of my colleagues have partners, who are not clients, sometimes they are other SP..
I have dated a client I had after we met only once when I entered the industry in 2022, we are still close friends and this never turned into a serious relationship.. But I don't want to repeat this experience, for other reasons. There is an uneven and pretty complex power dynamic between a SP and her client.. I develop connections with my clients, but I make sure they understand it will never cross a certain line. I've heard too many stories that went really wrong.. I think in some client's mind, if you spend a lot of time with a provider, book her often, etc, she will end up saying yes to a relationship with you. Of course the connection deepens and it is a ''relationship'' that becomes special in a way, but in my case it will never turn into a romantic relationship...
I think sometimes clients think they are in love with you, but it's not actually you they're in love with.. it's who you're presenting to them when you are spending time with them. I try to stay true to myself, but I will never reveal certain aspects of my personality to clients, there are many things I can't talk about, many things I can't be open about.. The connection is real, but let's just put it that way. If I'm in having a bad time, I can't cry in my client's arms. If he pays me, I will still have to service him and act happy and bubbly even if something really bad happened. I think it's the same thing on the client's side.. I think paying to spend time with someone makes you look at them differently and behave differently around them.
I have made the mistake of accepting to become friends ''outside of this'' with 2 or 3 former clients as well.. I say outside of this because I do consider that I have a type of friendship with many of my clients, but they are not part of my life outside of the industry. This is also something I don't want to repeat, particularly if they are still active as clients, because even if they have good intentions they could still spread information about me that I don't want them to disclose..
I have dated a client I had after we met only once when I entered the industry in 2022, we are still close friends and this never turned into a serious relationship.. But I don't want to repeat this experience, for other reasons. There is an uneven and pretty complex power dynamic between a SP and her client.. I develop connections with my clients, but I make sure they understand it will never cross a certain line. I've heard too many stories that went really wrong.. I think in some client's mind, if you spend a lot of time with a provider, book her often, etc, she will end up saying yes to a relationship with you. Of course the connection deepens and it is a ''relationship'' that becomes special in a way, but in my case it will never turn into a romantic relationship...
I think sometimes clients think they are in love with you, but it's not actually you they're in love with.. it's who you're presenting to them when you are spending time with them. I try to stay true to myself, but I will never reveal certain aspects of my personality to clients, there are many things I can't talk about, many things I can't be open about.. The connection is real, but let's just put it that way. If I'm in having a bad time, I can't cry in my client's arms. If he pays me, I will still have to service him and act happy and bubbly even if something really bad happened. I think it's the same thing on the client's side.. I think paying to spend time with someone makes you look at them differently and behave differently around them.
I have made the mistake of accepting to become friends ''outside of this'' with 2 or 3 former clients as well.. I say outside of this because I do consider that I have a type of friendship with many of my clients, but they are not part of my life outside of the industry. This is also something I don't want to repeat, particularly if they are still active as clients, because even if they have good intentions they could still spread information about me that I don't want them to disclose..
This happened to me back in the old country - down in Melbourne on bizniss from Sydney and got an urge...rang up a cupids-like agency (outcall only) sent along the 23 yr old ebony lovely (I was a spry 54 at the time) I selected...and although not the lady in the pics she was lovely. We hit if off well, ended up knocking down the half size bottle of red, lots of laughs, and I mentioned how much I fully enjoyed her company and that if I were to date again I'd date someone like her. She then said "I'd date you for real." I laughed said something like "are you serious?" and she said yes. Thus I asked if she was up for catching another drink in the pub across the street and she said yes let's go. She rang her agency saying she wasn't feeling well and would get home from the hotel.Of course it is , likely probably not… - I remember commenting on a previous thread about dating SPs and how a friend of mine who is in the business fell in love with her client and they shortly started dating afterwards.
Unfortunately it didn’t end well as the boyfriend wanted her to quit escorting and work a normal job. In short she left him because she didn’t want to leave her job
Moral of the story if a SP falls for you don’t expect her to change her whole life around for you and certainly don’t expect her to quit her job lol
I joked to her once we got across the road "we'll, we're off to a ripper start here as I reckon we already know each other's deepest darkest secret" lol. She worked a few nights a week at this agency, had a medical supply company by day. Turns out she was 38, not 23 lol. We dated a few months, but she down in Melbourne and me in Sydney then heading back to NYC...so the distance did us in.
On our next night/date she popped into my hotel room, had a shower, plopped onto the bed spread her legs and said "I need you to eat my pussy and arse just like you did yesterday." Lol
OK enough humble brag (she said it was the best dato of her life lol). To bring it back around - during our dating it never occurred to me to ask her to stop escorting. I reckon to date her meant I either accept her as she is, or move on. If she wants to quit fine. If she doesn't, fine. But its her business. She had financial and other security issues as she (and her sister) were an orphans (half sudanese/half egyptian) who was adopted at age 6 and 7 and raised by white Aussie parents. Escorting was her way of being in control and not relying on others.
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That’s a great story - it really does happen
Maybe it was the DATO that kept her back
A big issue escorts run into when dating their clients is they ask them to quit, and that isn't always possible.. Or they end up completely financially dependent on one man, which is a really bad idea IMO. This is a good story!
I got very close with a provider. It went beyond client/provider relationship. We talked every day about "life". At some point, I realized this is messing with her head more than it does with mine. She even said that it's ruining her, so I pulled the plug. I really like her, but went cold turkey because it felt right.
To make a long story short, find your love elsewhere.
To make a long story short, find your love elsewhere.
I understand that. Women can get hundreds of better looking and richer guys than me anytime from any dating app. However they may not be receiving connection and cuddles from most clients. If I connect with them through getting to know them and cuddle with them, wouldn't they feel at least a bit attached?
