Is it so wrong to fall in love with a stripper?

[WinterHawk]

Stop supporting her now and see how long your "relationship" lasts. Having a relationship with a Stripper is akin to doing oxy's, and is just as hard to kick. Stop it now, lick your wounds and move on in life, the money's better in your pocket than her's.

She'll only change once she's all worn out from partying and she realizes that her time is up. How many years do you want to waste spending thousands in a lost cause, when you could settle down with a girl who loves you? Spend you time and money finding her instead.

 

[Iconic One]

Dude - to answer your question, it's not wrong to fall in love with anyone. But, make sure you fall in love with who they are, not who you want them to be. It's selfish to expect someone to change for you. They may chose to change, but that's their personal decision. You may change too.

Like with everything, you have to continually assess the relationship realistically. To see where it is and where it's going. Sounds like your friend is not on the same page with you. If that's not something you can live with, then move on.

Meet with her, explain your feelings, listen to her's, assess, then end it if that's what you need to do, or continue. If you do end it, then end it completely. Don't be in the middle.

The same goes for all relationships of this nature (boyfriend/girlfriend, buddies, spouses). People have a right to live their own lives. You have a right to live your's.

 

[Keebler Elf]

If you're giving a girl $4-6K a month to be your girlfriend... she isn't.

C'mon, give yer frikken head a shake!

 

[shack]

4 to 6K a month! no wonder the poor girl is hooking on the side. A girl has got to eat. Don't be so cheap, your in your 20's you should be able to fork over 10k plus. Maybe then she'll treat you right.

Made me laugh. Beautiful.

 

[C Dick]

It is fine to fall in love with a stripper. Many such relationships are good, most strippers I know have most of their real relationships with guys they met as customers. But if is bothers you that she is in the sex business, and you are giving her lots of money, and trying to change her, it may not be for you.

 

[lurkerjoe]

It's ok to fall for a stripper or a sp for that matter. They're people, too. BUT you have to think and be realistic. Don't expect her like or want change. Pretty Woman is a movie not reality.

Anytime huge amounts of cash are involved, alarms should be screaming in your head. What kind of woman needs $4K a month plus cash from stripping and escorting? She either has a pimp, drug habit or expensive taste that will make you miserable and broke for the rest of your life. No one short of a frickin' millionaire needs that amount of money to finance a debt.

 

[Brandon123]

Dude, are you serious? snap out of it. You odds are better of winning the lottery then turning this girl around. If she was really into you then she would had done it from the beginning. She is only using you. Never date a stripper unless you know its only for fun.

 

[Cobster]

I met a stripper and we had seen each other so often for almost half year. At first I was just kinda looking for a fun time after I broke up with my ex-gf. To be honest, this is my first time seeing a stripper. She told me that she didn't do this often and most of time she is dancing in the club. I believe her and start treating her like my GF with respect and care. I take care of her financially and send her 4k-6k a month. I really want her to settle down and focus on her study.

But later I find out that she is also an escort and doing it quite often. It makes me really sad. I must admit I've fallen for her. How I know I've fallen for her. I cry for her. I stay home a lot, I keep thinking about her and I'm always making plans for her and I - blowing heaps of cash for overnights. Sex is no more important to me when I see her. But I don't want this kind of relationship because I am still young( 20-something), not bad looking and don't want to be anybody's sugardaddy.

Is it possible to change her? is there a happy ending for us if we keep seeing each other? Why is it so hard for her to get out and to get a real job? I never believe in fairy tales but now I am begging to be in one.

I'm confused, first you say...
"I take care of her financially and send her 4k-6k a month."

then you say...
"don't want to be anybody's sugardaddy."


Too late?




The 2 replies above me are dead on, it's okay to fall in love with her, she's human and has feelings...
But your chances of winning the lottery are better, snap out of it.

 

[nolabel]

Is there a happy ending for us if we keep seeing each other? Why is it so hard for her to get out and to get a real job? I never believe in fairy tales but now I am begging to be in one.

Nothing wrong with fairy tales. This website will tell you precisely what to think about the situation
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nnRxDXHBcaE&feature=related

 

[marikiss]

listen, this is what you NEED to do. block her number from all your phones, email and another other way to contact her. be a prick and don't even tell her what's up or she might get all sweet and suck you in again. then call one of the fine upscale agencies in town, tell them you're trying your damnedest to forget about a gold digging pealer/escort that you're hooked on and tell them you need two ladies asap to help you forget all about her. whenever you get the urge to contact her, call an escort. do this for a couple weeks and she'll have no more power over you.

Or, you can realize you're hopelessly addicted and give in and sign over everything you have to her, add her to your bank accounts and order her a credit card that's billed to you.

shit or get off the pot!

 

[funtimeca]

I'm confused, first you say...
"I take care of her financially and send her 4k-6k a month."

then you say...
"don't want to be anybody's sugardaddy."


Too late?




The 2 replies above me are dead on, it's okay to fall in love with her, she's human and has feelings...
But your chances of winning the lottery are better, snap out of it.

THank you so much for your kind reply!....I first thought she really needs money to pay for the bills. She is not doing drug or has no any addicts which I really like about her. I always think she is doing this for a reason to save money. She is from a single family. She is even a suicidal...I really feel sympathy for her..Although I sometimes will doubt if she is telling me the truth...I support her because I don't want her to work too hard and worry about her safety...I don't want her to treat me like any of her clients because that is not what I want...

 

[Rail Thin]

THank you so much for your kind reply!....I first thought she really needs money to pay for the bills. She is not doing drug or has no any addicts which I really like about her. I always think she is doing this for a reason to save money. She is from a single family. She is even a suicidal...I really feel sympathy for her..Although I sometimes will doubt if she is telling me the truth...I support her because I don't want her to work too hard and worry about her safety...I don't want her to treat me like any of her clients because that is not what I want...

I dont know many people who need 4 -6 k just to survive...

BTW, how much do u make to afford giving her this much of your after-tax dollars, that is, if any of this has any truth to it...

 

[rafterman]

Yeh 60K per year is 90K pre tax just to feed this parasite for a guy in his 20's. Plus his own living costs. Numbers just don't add up to me. Guy must be making well into the six figures?

 

[Captain Fantastic]

Don't try to be Capt Save-a-Ho.

That's it, I'm suing you and ms4m for copyright infringement! There's only one Captain in these waters! (Putting foot up on inanimate object.)

 

[robc2343]

After reading all this, I still don't think that this guy is really serious. Only thing I know is that I was was told to never date a stripper becaue it won't end well. As the saying goes " You can't turn a ho into a housewife fool", lol.

 

[funtimeca]

I dont know many people who need 4 -6 k just to survive...

BTW, how much do u make to afford giving her this much of your after-tax dollars, that is, if any of this has any truth to it...

Hi.thanks for your reply!..Running my own business after graduated from university...My family has a factory overseas and I am helping my parents in Canadian market...all hard-earn money...that is why I say I don't want to be a suggardaddy. It is not right but at this point I am lost..Because I didn't grow up here and often hear that strip club are highly regulated. Some strippers are educated and have a day job..etc..Not to offend some people, I think escort is different. That is why I am so sad after found out this girl is doing escort as well...anyway, thank you so much for all your reply! I really appreciate it!..

 

[Bobzilla]

It's not wrong to love a stripper IF she's the right kind of person: has a good head on her shoulders, makes you feel like you can trust her, etc. AND if you're emotionally prepared to have other guys' hands on her while she works & can deal with it maturely.

These two conditions are rarely met.

NB: the above scenario does not involve paying her 4-6k per month.

 

[HOF]

Probably not the smartest decision that you could make. There will be trust issues and wow, if there's an argument, it usually gets thrown in someone's face.

Good luck with that.

 

[Hiding]

Hi.thanks for your reply!..Running my own business after graduated from university...My family has a factory overseas and I am helping my parents in Canadian market...all hard-earn money...that is why I say I don't want to be a suggardaddy. It is not right but at this point I am lost..Because I didn't grow up here and often hear that strip club are highly regulated. Some strippers are educated and have a day job..etc..Not to offend some people, I think escort is different. That is why I am so sad after found out this girl is doing escort as well...anyway, thank you so much for all your reply! I really appreciate it!..

Highly regulated? All that you need to get a dancing license is cash and to show up for the picture.

Strippers/escorts have a LOT of crossover and regardless of what aspect in the industry if a girl is going to persue her education she's going to do it. I know more escorts that are in school than strippers but that could easily be the sample size I know.

Bottom line, you're being used and stop. Dating someone doesn't cost money, hiring her on a regular basis does. There are girls like this in every aspect of the industry.

 

[badboy1]

So, becky, if I send you 4-6k per month will you date me???

In fact, I might give him a lapdance for that amount of money too. Just kidding, wake up and smell the .....