Opinions required!

[Vanessa Valentine]

Among other things, this post is a formal request to the masses. Please refrain from reviewing my services that you receive during an intimate session with me. Feel free to write about my looks, energy level, punctuality, but leave the "menu" out of my review. This has caused me alot of grief lately. I've even read reviews about me, stating that I've offerred services when I KNOW for a fact, I've never done that- or at least not with this particular client.

In a session, I act in reaction to the way I'm treated. Important factors such a hygiene (would you believe that some people are still unclean AFTER they have a shower in my presence?), respect, chemistry, etc will affect the direction that my service level will take. This is commonly known as "YMMV" here on Terb. I'll be the first one to admit that Your Milege May very well Vary when you're with me. I cant offer a standard service/ session to everyone that I see. I'm not a robot, and I dont read from a script. Things progress naturally and will never be the exact same each time.

Occassionally, I've been known to be liberal with my services. This is my decision and it doenst happen for everyone. I don't want this very PRIVATE piece of information openly written on a public board such as Terb. I don't want everyone to expect ANYTHING from me, ever. That puts tremendous pressure on me as an escort, my reputation, and my relationship with my clients and possible future clients.

I can fully understand why many ladies ask not to be reviewed. Many of the reviews are too distasteful and blunt. I agree that reviews can be helpful to men who are looking for details about an escort, but to list every service you received is unfair to everyne involved.

I replied to a review I received in the Ottawa section about a certain service I provided. And I've gotten many pm's since, asking me if this is the norm- even expecting it!

I am so frustrated with the Canadian scene. Where has all the respect gone???

Vanessa (Hot blooded...)

 

[johnyboy]

You get what you deserve

 

[Smilty]

i can imagine this isnt the easiest business to be in but dont blame everyone for a bunch of numbskulls. You always deserve to be treated with respect no matter what, but ease up on the ranting and raving. Ultimately, you dont have to offer any service you dont want to, so just dont. As far as not listing your menu in detail, members should respect your wishes from here on out, but unfortunately you just lost a possible customer because you seem a little hot headed for me.

 

[pool]

You get what you deserve

I assume you mean that to go both ways and refer to both positive or negative responses between both parties

 

[Vanessa Valentine]

You get what you deserve

Very nice...

 

[Vanessa Valentine]

i can imagine this isnt the easiest business to be in but dont blame everyone for a bunch of numbskulls. You always deserve to be treated with respect no matter what, but ease up on the ranting and raving. Ultimately, you dont have to offer any service you dont want to, so just dont. As far as not listing your menu in detail, members should respect your wishes from here on out, but unfortunately you just lost a possible customer because you seem a little hot headed for me.

Ease up on the ranting and raving? Isn't that what the lounge is for? Free speech in all of it's glory? Like I mentioned in my initial post, I'm frustrated and I wanted to start a thread about listing menu services, etc. I'm looking for other escorts and clients perspectives on the thought. And I'm not blaming everyone for this...

I'm a Taurus, perhaps thats an slight indication as to why I can be hot headed at times? And keep in mind, that I don't act this way on a regular basis, only at times when I'm very frustrated and I feel disrespected.

Vanessa

 

[Smilty]

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[Vanessa Valentine]

Right back at ya.

 

[Smilty]

Now thats a little better, I accept your apology Vanessa and you actually seem quite sweet after all, in fact you look smoking on your web site so hopefully we can get in touch. Im a scorpion so I can be a little impulsive so dont take what I said the wrong way. I think a review should include a menu, unless the girl asks not to include. Anyway, I'm sure I could warm you up nice and rock your world

 

[homonger]

Vanessa,

At first blush, I thought most of your post made a lot of sense, so I fundamentally agree with you. As others have said, I think the best solution for you is to ask that there be no reviews or that you ask that certain details not be mentioned.

But here is the other side of the story... yes, it is understandable that you would behave a little bit differently depending on the gentleman. All of us should know that ymmv exists, and happens on a regular basis, but what you have to understand about hobbyists is that we are eternal optimists. If we read that so and so sp does x, y, and z, and then suddenly we read that she did a, b, and c, as well, then of course that will spark interest, and all of us will be convinced that we will get a, b, and c, also. And if we don't, then it is natural that we are disappointed. In addition to being optimistic, hobbyists tend to want the best "return" on their money they can get. I hope this gives you some insight on how dumb we can be... that doesn't mean we are bad guys or mean to be disrespectful.

But here is what I totally agree with... no hobbyist should ever use a review as a foundation for making demands. Just because an sp does something with another hobbyist means she has to do it with you.

 

[Vanessa Valentine]

Scorpio? Ooh, you're pretty fiesty yourself.

Scorpio
October 23 - November 21
Scorpio is the eighth Sign of the Zodiac, and you shouldn't take that lightly. You shouldn't take Scorpios lightly, either. Those born under this Sign are dead serious in their mission to learn about others. There's no fluff or chatter for Scorpios, either: these folks will zero in on the essential questions, gleaning the secrets that lie within. Scorpios concern themselves with beginnings and endings, and are unafraid of either; they also travel in a world which is black and white and has little use for gray. The curiosity of Scorpios is immeasurable, which may be why they are such adept investigators. These folks love to probe and know how to get to the bottom of things. The fact that they have a keen sense of intuition certainly helps.

It's the Scorpion which symbolizes Scorpios, and it's no accident. Much like the Scorpion would rather kill itself than be killed, those born under this Sign are the ones who are in ultimate control of their destiny. It is life on the Scorpion's terms, too, since these folks promote their agenda (they are quite the executives) and see to it that things go forward. Others may find this overbearing (it can be) and even self-destructive, but that's the beauty of the Scorpion: these folks have tremendous regenerative powers, much like the literal Scorpion can lose its tail and promptly grow a new one. Fearless Scorpions rarely lose, per se, they just keep on going, since they are stubborn and determined to succeed (this Scorpio trait is in keeping with the Fixed Quality assigned to this Sign). Scorpios work as hard as they do so they can someday sit back and feel satisfied with themselves. These folks are intense, passionate and filled with desire. They're also complex and secretive, so don't expect to get much out of them, lest they become suspicious and exit stage left. It's best not to bet against Scorpios, either, since these folks are surprisingly resourceful.

 

[Smilty]

Vanessa u seem to have taken a liking doing all that research and all. Im a call ya dollface

 

[Vanessa Valentine]

[hobbyists tend to want the best "return" on their money they can get. I hope this gives you some insight on how dumb we can be... that doesn't mean we are bad guys or mean to be disrespectful.]

best "return" on there money...nice one. I can understand and appreciate that, but were not talking about investing in stocks and bonds. *lol*

To each there own, and yes Jazz- i'll have my site designer add that policy onto my website. Thanks for the suggestion Sara.

V.

 

[Vanessa Valentine]

Is it ok now if I call the Lord now Vanessa? OMG!

Sara

Lol, be my guest!

V.

 

[Smilty]

by the way vanessa i see it says you in toronto and nyc, i go to new york every month stay in brooklyn, i love the city but consider toronto a much better atmosphere and better place to live, any comments?

 

[[ALIMEISTER]]

I agree with what Vanessa is saying about the YMMV issue. She was great with me!

By the way, are you back in Toronto? I wanted to hook up again. I've sent you an email.

 

[Vanessa Valentine]

by the way vanessa i see it says you in toronto and nyc, i go to new york every month stay in brooklyn, i love the city but consider toronto a much better atmosphere and better place to live, any comments?

I'll be back in NYC for the month of March. I feel that Toronto is a baby New York. I feel safer in Toronto, but New York is the city of opportunity. May I ask why you stay in Brooklyn?

V.

Hi Ali, sorry- I'm taking another break from the Toronto scene...

 

[[ALIMEISTER]]

It's cool. Have fun on your break! And let me know as soon as you're back!

 

[homonger]

I agree with what Vanessa is saying about the YMMV issue. She was great with me!

Yeah, yeah, we've heard all about your studliness, pal. You might as well quit hobbying now, because sooner or later some sp will shut you down and you'll get your come uppance.

Vanessa, is it guys like this who are the source of your problems. You give the guy a little extra, and he goes off and brags about it for the next three months. Was it worth it? Especially when your extras could have gone to someone much more deserving (like me).

Anyway, this thread has become ridiculous. It started out with what I thought was a sincere concern on the part of an sp, but has now degnerated into horoscope readings, bragging, and mutual flirting.

 

[Smilty]

bitter much homogner?
jus kidding i know ur a legend and dont forget your mileage may vary is the golden rule