VIRGIN needs help!
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28 year old virgin?
First off, anyone who thinks that any 28 year old virgin must be gay doesn't know much about gays, they (at least the young/nice/reasonably attractive ones) get laid as often as they want, and for free.
Second, has any of you stopped to think that perhaps your pal is not motivated primarily by the constant poon-quest that takes up much of our time and energy, that maybe this dude wants real intimacy and a real relationship to be the scene of his first time? If he gets that and it works out, he's a lucky man, and his woman will be a lucky woman too.
(BTW, that ain't me. I had my first as a drunken 15 year old.)
Third, just send him to see Kristen at Roomates.
First off, anyone who thinks that any 28 year old virgin must be gay doesn't know much about gays, they (at least the young/nice/reasonably attractive ones) get laid as often as they want, and for free.
Second, has any of you stopped to think that perhaps your pal is not motivated primarily by the constant poon-quest that takes up much of our time and energy, that maybe this dude wants real intimacy and a real relationship to be the scene of his first time? If he gets that and it works out, he's a lucky man, and his woman will be a lucky woman too.
(BTW, that ain't me. I had my first as a drunken 15 year old.)
Third, just send him to see Kristen at Roomates.
Ass is the new pussy y'know.great bear said:Goober's ass has been tapped, bapped, flapped, rapped, and capped. The man is a walking add for Preparation H
More like a cheap bastard
I tried this before and believe me if he is not gay or virging it doesn't matter. He could be one cheap bastard. I met a few in my time.
Maybe he is trying to feel the force before he plunges in. Never try to push someone to do something in this field.
Trust me on this one.
baltimoron said:I have a friend who won't even get lapdances at SCs. He feels that it's wrong to do that with a woman (any woman) without first establishing a relationship through a series of traditional dates. When we were at the local SC for a birthday party, everyone was getting lapdances except him. We tried and tried, and we got the strippers to try as hard as us, but he would not budge. He kept saying that while the strippers were definitely attractive women, he just didn't feel right in getting a lapdance (or anything sexual) without a series of dates first. I still don't know if he's either a virgin, or gay.
I tried this before and believe me if he is not gay or virging it doesn't matter. He could be one cheap bastard. I met a few in my time.
Maybe he is trying to feel the force before he plunges in. Never try to push someone to do something in this field.
Trust me on this one.
great first timer
Alos he may be "MR PERFECT" these are the people that belive everything must be perfect down to teh weather detail. Maybe that is why he is a virgin at 28.
Actually I remember this guy that he belived that if he dated a woman, That woman had to be the one he married. He believe the date would be perfect, relationship and the marriage. "Nothing" would be wrong. I left him alone on this topic but one day he had a revelation that life and his belief don't go hand in hand. Now he is fackyng any woman that gets in his way.DATYdude said:First off, anyone who thinks that any 28 year old virgin must be gay doesn't know much about gays, they (at least the young/nice/reasonably attractive ones) get laid as often as they want, and for free.
Second, has any of you stopped to think that perhaps your pal is not motivated primarily by the constant poon-quest that takes up much of our time and energy, that maybe this dude wants real intimacy and a real relationship to be the scene of his first time? If he gets that and it works out, he's a lucky man, and his woman will be a lucky woman too.
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Alos he may be "MR PERFECT" these are the people that belive everything must be perfect down to teh weather detail. Maybe that is why he is a virgin at 28.
the best would be to let his sex life develop naturally, it WILL happen
but if he doesn't want to, I would advise an SP over trying to "pick up" at a bar, and here's why:
if he "completes" far too fast with an SP, it's ok, he can go for another SOG and the SP will understand since she's probably used to that kind of thing, and the whole affair is a business transaction so it's not like he's trying to impress her
it's much more relaxed
if he does the same thing with a woman he picked up at a bar, it would be embarassing as hell for him if he lets her down, and he might not be able to recover from the experience, and that will put him off sex for a long time
but if he doesn't want to, I would advise an SP over trying to "pick up" at a bar, and here's why:
if he "completes" far too fast with an SP, it's ok, he can go for another SOG and the SP will understand since she's probably used to that kind of thing, and the whole affair is a business transaction so it's not like he's trying to impress her
it's much more relaxed
if he does the same thing with a woman he picked up at a bar, it would be embarassing as hell for him if he lets her down, and he might not be able to recover from the experience, and that will put him off sex for a long time
By God! He's 28 years old and and you mean to say he's never kissed a squirrel?!tonnyandreti said:HE IS A VIRGIN is about 28 yrs old. I mean he has never even kissed a girl!
murmur....murmur ... !!!I mean a 'girl'! {see girl below}
I suppose one could do many other things besides kissing, if one had to.
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I know this sounds ignorrant, but I'm guessing he's gay or at least asexual. He might be one of those people who can't even come Out to himself, let alone to others. I've found that people who do this are either covering up for a lack of opportunity, or a lack motivation.baltimoron said:I have a friend who won't even get lapdances at SCs. He feels that it's wrong to do that with a woman (any woman) without first establishing a relationship through a series of traditional dates. ... I still don't know if he's either a virgin, or gay.
A tough confession to help your friend
Tonyandretti, you can't try to arrange this behind your friends back. Assuming he actually wishes to lose his virginity - with a woman - I presume you are sure of this - he's probably so psyched out and intimidated by his own inexperience that he will sabotage and back out of something that appears spontaneous.
You must be frank and tell him that he needs to get this done. Remember learning to drive, or learning to use a computer? It was nothing "special" , but a matter of learning a life skill. Just as he had a driving instructor, a copmuter teacher or a math tutor, he should also have a sex facilitator / deflowerer.
I am speaking from personal experience. I was in such a situation - and if it was tough for me at 23, it'l be tougher for your friend at 28. I waited for the "right time / right girl" instead of being practical. Big mistake. She was hot, and experienced. I beat out guys who were better looking and more successful. First couple of times I scored big with the oral - intuition & natural talent I suppose - but after that, when I couldn't keep up, it was a major letdown for her, and a crushing humiliation for me. She had shown her slutty, needy side to a guy who didn't know what to do with it and left her frustrated - she felt foolish and grew to resent me for it.
These days, a woman in demand of his own age will be experienced, and not shy about insisting on her own needs being met. I know many such women couldn't fathom the thought of their bodies being used as a "practice dummy" for a novice. Your frind risks getting a bloody nose from which he won't easily recover - and he's running out of time.
Get a pro who's done this a few times and tell him to approach it like a doctors appointment or a personal training session. Let him get acustomed to it without a relationship on the line, without the preassure to please or to keep face. No, it wont get him caught up overnight or teach him to handle the excitement level of being with someone he cares about - but it's better than nothing, believe me.
Sweet thought, but not practical. In real life, few women want to date a sexual Forrest Gump, much less mary one.Pretty-Kelly said:maybe your friend is just saving his self for marriage. I think that it is nice to see a male a virgin at this age.
Tonyandretti, you can't try to arrange this behind your friends back. Assuming he actually wishes to lose his virginity - with a woman - I presume you are sure of this - he's probably so psyched out and intimidated by his own inexperience that he will sabotage and back out of something that appears spontaneous.
You must be frank and tell him that he needs to get this done. Remember learning to drive, or learning to use a computer? It was nothing "special" , but a matter of learning a life skill. Just as he had a driving instructor, a copmuter teacher or a math tutor, he should also have a sex facilitator / deflowerer.
I am speaking from personal experience. I was in such a situation - and if it was tough for me at 23, it'l be tougher for your friend at 28. I waited for the "right time / right girl" instead of being practical. Big mistake. She was hot, and experienced. I beat out guys who were better looking and more successful. First couple of times I scored big with the oral - intuition & natural talent I suppose - but after that, when I couldn't keep up, it was a major letdown for her, and a crushing humiliation for me. She had shown her slutty, needy side to a guy who didn't know what to do with it and left her frustrated - she felt foolish and grew to resent me for it.
These days, a woman in demand of his own age will be experienced, and not shy about insisting on her own needs being met. I know many such women couldn't fathom the thought of their bodies being used as a "practice dummy" for a novice. Your frind risks getting a bloody nose from which he won't easily recover - and he's running out of time.
Get a pro who's done this a few times and tell him to approach it like a doctors appointment or a personal training session. Let him get acustomed to it without a relationship on the line, without the preassure to please or to keep face. No, it wont get him caught up overnight or teach him to handle the excitement level of being with someone he cares about - but it's better than nothing, believe me.
I would say that your friend is asexual -"Lacking interest in or desire for sex".
The cure IMHO would be to take him to a high end Spa. Hell, take him to HFH. Let him experience the walk down that Hall of Fame and the pleasure of spending time with one of Kayla's beauties. The "lacking interest in" will be restored with the need to be in the presence of a girlfriend/SO.
The cure IMHO would be to take him to a high end Spa. Hell, take him to HFH. Let him experience the walk down that Hall of Fame and the pleasure of spending time with one of Kayla's beauties. The "lacking interest in" will be restored with the need to be in the presence of a girlfriend/SO.
Cancerous Conditions
There are certain kinds of cancer which can cause men to be asexual. For example, a benign brain tumor may be pressing against the pituitary gland which secretes hormones to the testes. If you or a friend has had lack of libido for such a long time, it wouldn't hurt to see the doctor for a check-up. They may do a MRI to see if there's anything there.
There are certain kinds of cancer which can cause men to be asexual. For example, a benign brain tumor may be pressing against the pituitary gland which secretes hormones to the testes. If you or a friend has had lack of libido for such a long time, it wouldn't hurt to see the doctor for a check-up. They may do a MRI to see if there's anything there.
The guy never came out of the car!
decided to take this guy to SC just to test the waters. well guess what guys, this guy never came ou of my car. he says he doesnt like women to be degraded etc.
I have no idea what to tell him...
Dude, u need to get laid!
Get with the program!
Are you gay? (not that there is something wrong with it!)
Does it work?
Lets go to a MP!
I pay you for it! (lol, wish i had a friend like me)
This dude is really pissing me off. He explains to me how this girl or woman or milf was dressed etc. This dude is horny and needs to get laid!
I think the problem is that his mother has mothered him too much!
decided to take this guy to SC just to test the waters. well guess what guys, this guy never came ou of my car. he says he doesnt like women to be degraded etc.
I have no idea what to tell him...
Dude, u need to get laid!
Get with the program!
Are you gay? (not that there is something wrong with it!)
Does it work?
Lets go to a MP!
I pay you for it! (lol, wish i had a friend like me)
This dude is really pissing me off. He explains to me how this girl or woman or milf was dressed etc. This dude is horny and needs to get laid!
I think the problem is that his mother has mothered him too much!
Hello again everyone,
Thank you all for giving me ideas on this issue. My friend has agreed to go to a sc. Now the question is which sc should I take him to? Which dancers should I look out for? I want him to have a really good time. I was thing to go before hand and setup the environment...u know talk to the dancer etc..i dont want him running away when he hears...vana dance? etc? Looking for good contact lap dances and good mileage.
Thank you all for giving me ideas on this issue. My friend has agreed to go to a sc. Now the question is which sc should I take him to? Which dancers should I look out for? I want him to have a really good time. I was thing to go before hand and setup the environment...u know talk to the dancer etc..i dont want him running away when he hears...vana dance? etc? Looking for good contact lap dances and good mileage.
Christ! After all that he's just going to a strip club?tonnyandreti said:My friend has agreed to go to a sc. Now the question is which sc should I take him to?
SC's are lame and seedy. I doubt he is going to have a positive experience in a bar. I would take him once, and then insist he move up to a good MP. The best ones, such as HFH and Allure, are very professional and will be sensitive to his needs. An SP would likely scare the crap out of him. I would suggest he get comfortable with MPA's first, and then he should probably think about seeing an SP.
lol, a mp is out of the question...it took me soo many months to get him agree to go to a SC. Now going to a a mp is going to be crazy!
Back to the old question...where should i take him (sc) and who should i hook him up with...(hooking up meaning get lap dances from...etc)
Back to the old question...where should i take him (sc) and who should i hook him up with...(hooking up meaning get lap dances from...etc)
