Weight issue

[LadyTY2Uall]

Before I fell, hurt my back and gained a shitload of weight I was a smoking hot, 5'5 115lb worked out daily and had a body to die for......problem was that's all I had, spent all my time and effort trying to look good so that men would want me and I never felt good enough. The problem is that when a man wants you because of how you look they are gonna leave when someone prettier or thinner or has a better ass comes along...and they will come along.
Now that I am old and fat I don't give a rats ass cause I like me just the way I am....and funnily enough there are just as many men who seem to like me this way too Of course I don't take it for granted though cause there are always older and fatter broads out there sigh
This of course goes both ways,,,,,how come it's o.k. for guys to get fat and sloppy as soon as they snag a woman?
Dunno if that's relevant but I just felt I had to share

 

[GOLEAFSGO67]

Lady TY 2UAll ???

Are you a SP ??

And it aint right for guys to get fat and dumpy!..You right it goes both ways.. Guys fat and dumpy also are probably somewhat insecure and feeling a little unsure of themselves!!

 

[Helena Handbasket]

Sounds like JW doesn't have the patience to put in 100% of support.
The fact that you're saying this is getting to be over played and retarded shows you've wasted your energy on this.

She cannot change what she doesn't know. Sure you may say things here and there to her, she hears you no doubt... but she is not understanding and listening to you.

I fully believe no one should change anything for anyone. When she is good and ready she'll make that change, then you'll be sorry.

Like another poster said, let her go and let her find someone who is more sympathetic to a very sensitive issue for a woman.

Also, you may not like the outcome after she looses the weight. She may resent you and then leave you for the way she was treated.

If you can't be fully supportive, then don't be there at all.

 

[tboy]

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Like another poster said, let her go and let her find someone who is more sympathetic to a very sensitive issue for a woman.

Also, you may not like the outcome after she looses the weight. She may resent you and then leave you for the way she was treated.

If you can't be fully supportive, then don't be there at all.

Now I get what you're saying, but there comes a time when what I think you mean by being "fully supportive" is just enabling. Like I mentioned before: what if she went punk and dyed her hair purple and got a celtic cross tattoo on her forehead? Should he be fully supportive of that too? Say she became an alcoholic? Drug User? Sorry, weight gain IMO is no better or worse than any of the above and I find it unreasonable to expect anyone to be fully supportive of anyone who decides to (what could be construed as) ruining their life.....(and a 30% weight gain IS ruining their life IMO)

 

[tboy]

Seems like every time I get dumped I lose about 135 lbs. Unfortunately I gain it back the next time I go on a date.

LOL yeah, that was a good one!