What do women really care about?
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You need to define "when choosing a mate". As you wrote it I would take it to mean "when choosing a man to have children with" which is very different than choosing a boyfriend, dating, or getting picked up.
For literally choosing a man to have kids with its money, but not just cash: stable long term job that pays enough to raise a family. Once that is ticked then it's height, status, stability, and a general "has his shit together"assessment.
HOWEVER, and this is a big however: women hardly ever make a decision like that. In most cases they end up falling into a situation with a guy they got together with for some other reason. A one night thing turns into a relationship, or whatever. This is likely hour 80% of relationships get going.
That said, I have met women online dating who WERE actively evaluating for "suitable father". Years ago I dated one girl, only maybe went out three times. After she ticked off the box that I had a good enough job and presumably that my height/status were good, her next biggest concern was whether I could cook--she was literally evaluating whether I could make meals for the kids on days she wasn't able to. She suggested we take a cooking class together.
This was in the third date. There was no fourth date... But that idea was definitely in her head.
For literally choosing a man to have kids with its money, but not just cash: stable long term job that pays enough to raise a family. Once that is ticked then it's height, status, stability, and a general "has his shit together"assessment.
HOWEVER, and this is a big however: women hardly ever make a decision like that. In most cases they end up falling into a situation with a guy they got together with for some other reason. A one night thing turns into a relationship, or whatever. This is likely hour 80% of relationships get going.
That said, I have met women online dating who WERE actively evaluating for "suitable father". Years ago I dated one girl, only maybe went out three times. After she ticked off the box that I had a good enough job and presumably that my height/status were good, her next biggest concern was whether I could cook--she was literally evaluating whether I could make meals for the kids on days she wasn't able to. She suggested we take a cooking class together.
This was in the third date. There was no fourth date... But that idea was definitely in her head.
A 6'4" guy can be the biggest loser on the planet but he will always get women.
Middle aged women are a pain in the ass. I thought that as I got older women would be less complicated. The opposite is true. Younger women are less complicated. I'll stick to <40 for as long as I can.
Before money even becomes a serious issue, girls go after boys who will improve their social status. That doesn't go away with age, it just becomes more complicated. So I'd say status is #1.
After that it's a mixed bag. Money is definitely a big one. So is character and looks. But all of those tend to feed back to social status anyway.
After that it's a mixed bag. Money is definitely a big one. So is character and looks. But all of those tend to feed back to social status anyway.
In evolutionary terms, money is a recent invention. The desire for social status and good looks (the sign of healthy desirable genes) are much more primordial desires. I've known many men who were not rich or particularly attractive, but who had a high degree of visibility or demanded a great deal of respect in their chosen fields. They attracted the best-looking women and kept them, almost as a rule.
Guys who are confident and passionate about something seem to do really well with ladies. I don't think it really matters what a guy is into as long as he has something else going on. Women really seem to eat that up.
Id say that a woman is looking for that guy that lights up her darkest days
makes her body tingle at the touch of his hand...
someone who can make her smile just seeing him across a crowded room...
when he knows what she is thinking before she does....
THATS the mate she wants.....
the rest is window dressing.....
But thats just my opinion
makes her body tingle at the touch of his hand...
someone who can make her smile just seeing him across a crowded room...
when he knows what she is thinking before she does....
THATS the mate she wants.....
the rest is window dressing.....
But thats just my opinion
