Why don't people return telephone calls or txts?

[petitelover]

The simple answer is they don't want to talk with you, right?

I find it rude and disrespectful for a friend or date or anyone (sales people excluded) not to return a telephone call or txt. The person reaches out and not even a response? RUDE. I can understand if the person does not want to see you and end it or not go out with you but why not a simple "thanks for the offer to go out but no thanks" or "I thought about it and think we should not be together anymore" or "It's best if we not talk anymore."

Are people too afraid to say that? Do people take the path of least resistance and avoid confrontation?

Personally, I'd take a "fuck you and leave me alone" versus a non-response.

Thoughts?

 

[stinkynuts]

I agree. Unreturned emails as well. What's worse is people who never thank you after you do something for them. It's better to cut these kind of people out of your life.

 

[petitelover]

I agree. Unreturned emails as well. What's worse is people who never thank you after you do something for them. It's better to cut these kind of people out of your life.

They say no good deed goes unpunished. A thank you costs nothing yet people think they have things coming to them and a thank you is not necessary. Stinky is right - get those people out of your lives. Yet, I wonder what is going on upstairs - why not say thank you or return a call or an email or txt? Are people that selfish? Does it empower them to know someone reached out and they don't respond?

 

[Lurch]

i agree

I've gotten a response a day or two later, but those 2 days waiting sucked and basically ruined my mood for the days. A simple no thanks or leave me alone I don't like you would have been a lot better on the mind.

 

[Keebler Elf]

Depends. If it's a chick, she's probably just not that into you.

 

[Lurch]

yea, that's the feeling I've always had -- but she has randomly invited me out, so I don't really get it -- it's confusing...

 

[Aardvark154]

I find it rude and disrespectful for a friend or date or anyone (sales people excluded) not to return a telephone call or txt. . . . . . .Thoughts?

You are right it is both rude and disrespectful.

 

[petitelover]

Depends. If it's a chick, she's probably just not that into you.

I agree but does that excuse her from not responding to a simple call or txt? I'm sure some guys are non-responsive also. I don't get it - why not say " thanks for the offer but I don't have an interest," Why be so rude when someone reaches out?

 

[buttman*]

i also agree petitelover

pisses the fuck out of me when i get no txt response

 

[Rockslinger]

-- but she has randomly invited me out, so I don't really get it -- it's confusing...

What? Are you seriously trying to understand women? Get real!

On a somewhat related matter, I see the occasional post from TERBIES about escorts who NEVER answer their phones, NEVER return calls and NEVER respond to emails.

 

[WhaWhaWha]

I agree. It's rude. But I learned that many people on this board do not agree.

I once complained in a review about bad customer service from one of my regular SPs because she was not responding to my emails and PMs starting just after she PMed me and ending 2-3 months later.

She immediately responded in the thread, without ever informing me in person, mind you, that she had cut me off 4-5 months ago (1-2 months before she PMed me ) and I should have just figured it out. Then she went on to accuse me of being some kind of relentless stalker. Then others joined in the thread and accused me of being hung up on her or something and I should just let go. I had no trouble letting go of her. There's better action on every corner. All of it way more considerate and twice as attractive. I had trouble with letting go of the fact that her bad manners and lack of customer relations skills had set me up for an uncomfortable scene.

So according to popular response the acceptable norm is if someone doesn't respond to you, you are supposed to take the hint. And if you complain about it you are the villain.

 

[Rockslinger]

So according to popular response the acceptable norm is if someone doesn't respond to you, you are supposed to take the hint.

Wait a second.

1) A dancer was supposed to call me on a certain day. Day came and went, nothing. The second day came and went, nothing. So, I called her and she said she punched my number incorrectly on her cellphone. All was good.

2) Another time, a dancer was suppose to call me back. The silly thing lost her cellphone and my phone number with it. Query: WHY ARE WOMEN ALWAYS LOSING THEIR CELLPHONES?

So, there could be a valid (albeit a stupid) reason why someone didn't call you back. Sometimes, that valid reason is they hate your guts and never want to see your face again, or not.

 

[WhaWhaWha]

Valid or invalid is not the issue. Do you agree that if you change your mind about talking to someone that its best to do so without notice? Whatever the reason. Just let them keep calling you and eventually figure it out? Or is it better to tell that person up front so they don't waste their time and effort on you? I agree with petitelover. People who do this are usually inconsiderate and small minded. It empowers them to know someone reached out and they didn't respond.

 

[ROGER O. THORNHILL]

Bad Communication Form

So according to popular response the acceptable norm is if someone doesn't respond to you, you are supposed to take the hint. And if you complain about it you are the villain.

I agree about the weakness of mind involved in this (non)action.

That's just spin that small minded people put on in order to avoid responsibility for their petty and irresponsible behavior.

They figure if they do this, then NOTHING is their fault.

It is completely untrue.

An adult is an adult, wether they like it or not. An non-returned message, wether it be voice, text, e-mail-whatever-is an open hole waiting to be filled by the receiver of the message.

A YES is as good as a NO. It is an answer that is needed, that is all. One cannot say: "Oh, you have to figure it out". Bullshit!

Be an adult, finish your tasks. Communicate properly. Otherwise it shows a lack of respect, maturity an education on the other person's behalf.

Only children behave this way. Not adults.

 

[SamSmith]

The thread starter is fucking right. Girls don't text or call back when they say they do it.

 

[jwmorrice]

The simple answer is they don't want to talk with you, right?

I find it rude and disrespectful for a friend or date or anyone (sales people excluded) not to return a telephone call or txt. The person reaches out and not even a response? RUDE. I can understand if the person does not want to see you and end it or not go out with you but why not a simple "thanks for the offer to go out but no thanks" or "I thought about it and think we should not be together anymore" or "It's best if we not talk anymore."

Are people too afraid to say that? Do people take the path of least resistance and avoid confrontation?

Personally, I'd take a "fuck you and leave me alone" versus a non-response.

Thoughts?

I'm a person who oft takes his time in returning phone calls or emails. It depends on how frivolous or tiresome the original communication was and it also depends on my mood. I treasure my solitude, am not very social, and most calls I experience as simple intrusions. So no instant response. Even at my most social, I hate using the phone so you're not going to get a 'fuck you and leave me alone' either. Take a hint folks!

jwm

 

[tboy]

I'm not as bad as Morrice up there but did I ask you to text me? Did I ask you to call me? Did you ever stop and think that maybe your "first contact" wasn't appreciated?

So, you ask a chick for her number, you call her, she screens, and doesn't return your call. BFD get over it. Why did she give you her number to begin with? Probably because if she didn't, you'd call her a bitch, and if she gave you a wrong number, she's a *unt.

It's not the best way to handle things but of all the trials and tribulations we face in today's society, a non-returned phone call, email or text shouldn't be giving you that much grief.

I for one am guilty of not returning calls not because I'm rude, but because being self employed I'm pretty much freaking busy all the time and when I DO get some free time, I just like to veg. I also realize that others are quite busy and if they don't respond right away? I'll try again in a few days. I go by the 3 strikes rule: if I iniate contact 3 times and you don't respond, you're not interested and I delete your name/email/number from my files.

 

[lawyerman]

Sometimes a phone call cannot be made for certain reasons but sending a text does not take long and you don't even have to speak with the person if you don't want to. One text will do this. The world is getting quite impersonal and I find that not even sending a text is rude.

Some people make me laugh though. Are you that damn busy not to text or call? That is such BS. Get over yourselves and make time for yourself and others.

 

[slowandeasy]

Sometimes a phone call cannot be made for certain reasons but sending a text does not take long and you don't even have to speak with the person if you don't want to. One text will do this. The world is getting quite impersonal and I find that not even sending a text is rude.

Some people make me laugh though. Are you that damn busy not to text or call? That is such BS. Get over yourselves and make time for yourself and others.

I agree that it is rude not to even acknowledge your call or text if it is an invitation. I have some industry girls who I made the mistake of giving my number. Some are pretty good. Some are real pests who call me regularly to try to get me to see them. At first, I fell for it thinking they enjoyed my company. I should have known better, even I find myself boring.

 

[Rockslinger]

Here is something that really pisses me off. In this day and age there are still human beings who DO NOT HAVE VOICE MAIL ! They call me, leave a message on my voice mail. I call them back multiple times and their phone just rings and rings, NO BLOODY VOICE MAIL so I can leave a message. Then they call me back and accuse me of being inconsiderate for not returning their call. Also, these people never say on my voice mail why they called. All they say is: "Call me."