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I am a nice guy. I am still young. I am fit, very well-educated and reasonably well off. Yet on beautiful days like today, all I could do is fapping at home until I pass out. Hearing about old friends marrying their dream girls or Mr Rights every once in a while doesn't really help either.

What can I do PERB? Any advice? Should I throw more money on SP's this week? Or should I go buy expensive clothes and dress up like a snob?
 

jcpro

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I am a nice guy. I am still young. I am fit, very well-educated and reasonably well off. Yet on beautiful days like today, all I could do is fapping at home until I pass out. Hearing about old friends marrying their dream girls or Mr Rights every once in a while doesn't really help either.

What can I do PERB? Any advice? Should I throw more money on SP's this week? Or should I go buy expensive clothes and dress up like a snob?
Go to the Ripley's Aquarium. All those pretty fish...
 

peter4025

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Stop feeling so sorry for yourself and go out. Lots of bars to go. Start a hobby other than this. Join a group activity. The best way to meet somebody is to start geting involved in different activities
 

Chantelle@TP

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It will happen when the time is right. This world is filled with beautiful, amazing people. Be open and authentic....the right woman will come!
 
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I probably should have mentioned that I am quite shy and not very outgoing. I guess it has more to do with my personality.

Edging my good sir, SP's also often ask me why I go see them at all. It all started while I was in college. It's kind of funny come to think of it. I visited my very first SP when a girl that I really liked back in college rejected me. What was even worse was that she told me that she thought I was gay. She was (and still is) a fabulous girl, and I still fap over her from time to time. Then some years later, the same thing happened again with another girl I liked. Ever since then, I sort of gave up and only saw SP's for sex.

Being Asian I really don't have to groom much, and I have excellent personal hygiene (ie showering twice every day, washing my hands whenever I should etc). Not sure what else I could do.
 

asuran

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You need confidence my friend.
As Peter mentioned, join a group hobby or something. Play some sports, there is at least one for everyone.

Get to know people, get yourself invited to events and from there get to know more people.
Have a friend, have a wingman.

Don't force yourself too much to the point it becomes awkward, just be natural and things will fall into place.
 

whitewaterguy

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You need confidence my friend.
As Peter mentioned, join a group hobby or something. Play some sports, there is at least one for everyone.

Get to know people, get yourself invited to events and from there get to know more people.
Have a friend, have a wingman.

Don't force yourself too much to the point it becomes awkward, just be natural and things will fall into place.
Date my daughter. She's 30, owns her own house, smart, great job.. And has had to toss three men children in their thirties who hadn't the wherewithal to grow up!!!!!
 

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I am a nice guy. I am still young. I am fit, very well-educated and reasonably well off. Yet on beautiful days like today, all I could do is fapping at home until I pass out. Hearing about old friends marrying their dream girls or Mr Rights every once in a while doesn't really help either.

What can I do PERB? Any advice? Should I throw more money on SP's this week? Or should I go buy expensive clothes and dress up like a snob?
Tinder
 

Polaris

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Go watch some John Wayne movies and suck it up pilgrim.

The ideal for masculinity and being a man, used to be so different back in the day.

Nowadays, being a metrosexual is the highest form of masculinity.

What gives?!

:Eek:
 

explorerzip

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First of all, never, ever blame yourself for whatever "shortcomings" you may or may not have since it's counterproductive. My guess is that you're not as shy as you think you are. I'm sure you're fine around good friends and family. You can always improve your fashion sense and personality. There is tons of content out there on YouTube on these subjects, but I particularly like this guy: https://www.youtube.com/user/AlphaMconsulting

Develop some more hobbies than involve real people not computers, video games, comic books, etc. Nothing wrong with these activities at all, but do something outside of your comfort zone and cultural group (if you only hang around other Asians) once in a while. I'd also highly suggest some public speaking training like Toastmasters so that you can get used to being and speaking in front of a crowd. It's good for your career and builds your confidence.
 

Gentlescorp

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Very well said explorerzip..
 

SkyRider

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Here's a tip on how to attract women.

Wear a beret and tell them you are a communist. You will be a babe magnet. Guarantee.

 

mynameisearl11

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Stop asking what's wrong with you. Instead, go out and HELP others with more urgent needs than yours. Be a big brother,for example,will be a good start. Do lots of volunteer works so that you can have a chance of meeting people of all races. Give your blood and your money to good causes. You need to do things to make you feel like you make a meaningful contributions to society. Once you feel good about yourself your confidence grows naturally. Practice empathy while you're still young. Get rid of self-centered way of thinking.
 
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