Would an SP continue seeing a client if...

[hyperdog]

Would an SP continue seeing a client if she thinks that he's romantically interested in her because he sees her frequently, but she does not have any feelings for him? Would she block him, or continue seeing him for the money? What do the SPs say here?

 

[JessiMae]

Get rid of him fast. In the long run it ain't worth the money.

 

[therealpipe]

I'll second that!

 

[hyperdog]

Get rid of him fast. In the long run it ain't worth the money.

What if if you are not 100% sure that he's interested in you romantically (he never actually told you, but he sees you a lot). Say, 50% sure? After how many visits per week from him would you start seeing red flags? I changed my opening post to "thinks that he's romantically interested in her"

 

[Questor]

Would an SP continue seeing a client if she thinks that he`s romantically interested in her, but she does not have any feelings for him? Would she block him, or continue seeing him for the money? What do the SPs say here?

It depends on the SP. I like to think most would break it off with the client. To see what happens when an unscrupulous SP is in this kind of situation, see the following thread: https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=191553
and later, this happens: https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=195793

 

[eldoguy]

Guys always asks sp's to go out!

I have seen a sp about a dozen times over a year. Always say I love to take you out sometime a few months ago, last time I see her she says lets go to dinner.
Off the clock? Latter she starts to know me personely and a little about her, have no problem I am a single guy with no ties! Nor does she !

Because she has explained she wants and needs to make money, married guys want her to leave the business for there own girl on the side. On days- off she sees them.

I can only see it as it is, good customer relations, after all it makes the sex so very hot !

 

[canada-man]

a SP i regularly see told me she loves me and even gives me stuff

 

[shack]

If she is professional she would drop him as a cleint.

If she were indeed professional, she would not drop him right away.

She should try and soak the vulnerable sucker for every dime she can first. Then dump him. That's what a true professional would do.

 

[Mia.Colpa]

If she were indeed professional, she would not drop him right away.

She should try and soak the vulnerable sucker for every dime she can first. Then dump him. That's what a true professional would do.

You're kiddin' right??

 

[therealpipe]

I think in this businesss it is understood as "no stings attached". My clients' expect it from me, and i certainly expect it from my clients'. I think of it more as a friends with benefits, between us. Once it feels someone is trying to cross that line I will cut it off. Mind you - I am not a GFE, might have something to do with it.

 

[loco2.0]

That is what an unprofessional SP would do. Sorry to burst your bubble. This is a business of fantasy and a professional would not take advantage of another's emotional vulnerability like that.

Yeah and I bet your shit doesn't stink either.

This industry is deviant one, and to think that there are professional or unprofessional contributors is subjective. There are bad apples in both camps, and for the most part, Shack is right, there are more women doing this then not doing this. Don't make me go looking for stats. LOL

KWI, don't be naive, don't be defending. You sound like Philip Morris against lung cancer.

 

[Francesca22]

I'm sure this has been covered once or many times; But what about dating a client?

Do you think he's just smarter than most, getting it for free...?

Or is it actually possible to meet someone who's genuine.

Just as in anything, it's situational and circumstance plays a role. At the end of the day we are all people.

Intent is key. It goes both ways from a fundamental standpoint.

However, for the original poster- if the money wasn't there and she still is, that should tell you something. I can't say I like every person I meet and I would imagine the same for the flip of that. If a client chooses to see me, the money is a boundary and a creates a professional line. If he makes a choice knowing that, thats his decision, and up to me if I engage.

If someone pours their heart out and I'm upfront (yes I like you/ or NO I don't like you; like that) then he's making a calculated, informative decision with everything on the table if he attempts to book again. That doesn't make me an awful person if he calls to book, or if accept the appointment. The difference is, he KNOWS based on our conversation where he stands. Good or bad, along with limits.

If he's emotionally unstable, I wouldn't see him regardless if he liked me or not...

He's getting what he wants and the reverse is, I am too.

If both parties know where they stand; I don't see an issue.

Just because you are NOT "romantically" interested outside that parameter (client/SP) doesn't mean you can't enjoy each other, or fuck each others brains out.... during your time together and have fun. Money usually sets that boundary.

I will say though, most men wont "express" their feelings in terms of this in fear of the SP cutting them off (rejection) and it goes without being said, which creates unneccessary drama and confusion. If he isn't upfront, the premise of your post is we are suppose to assume they are in love with us or romantically interested without prior indication? I assume most engage with someone like me for the no-strings...

I have clients/ regulars who love their wives. They also love fucking me. Should I assume because they see me regularly that they are interested outside of our "arrangement"???? Or just assume he's there for the same reasons I am.

Don't fix what isn't broken.

 

[hinz]

If she were indeed professional, she would not drop him right away.

She should try and soak the vulnerable sucker for every dime she can first. Then dump him. That's what a true professional would do.

I'll second that and it happens to the Ladies outside of the business/civilian counterparts who try to do the same to the guys considered as "loaded jerks".

Make sure though he's not a loco/psycho though cause this is a risk to consider before walking to this path

 

[genintoronto]

Assuming said client is not being pushy or making me feel uncomfortable and that I enjoy his company, I'd take the same approach I would in my 'civilian' life:

I would make sure that he understands where I stand and where my boundaries are. But I would leave it up to him to make the decision whether to continue seeing me or not. I generally think that it's best to let people make their own decisions about their own life. I don't like other people assuming they know better than I do what is good or not for me and making choices on my behalf 'for my own good' -- the corollary is that I don't assume that it is my place to make decision for someone else.

 

[shack]

If she were indeed professional, she would not drop him right away.

She should try and soak the vulnerable sucker for every dime she can first. Then dump him. That's what a true professional would do.

Seeing as I've been quoted a few times, I'll just say the key to interpreting my post turns on what definition of "professional" one wishes to use.

 

[shack]

I see you are using the definition of "professional" as most people do for Used Car and Insurance Salesman.

bbk

Some SP's (and many civvy women) would definitely qualify as that type of pro.

 

[drlove]

typo

I think in this businesss it is understood as "no stings attached".

One can only hope! Sure you're not LE?? Kidding...

 

[babyfinsta]

of course the majority of SP's would keep seeing him. Its a business. Its no different than dancers at SCs that keep bringing the guys back for more. Especially the ones that will pay just to talk.

 

[RTRD]

Damn....

I'm sure this has been covered once or many times; But what about dating a client?

Do you think he's just smarter than most, getting it for free...?

Or is it actually possible to meet someone who's genuine.

Just as in anything, it's situational and circumstance plays a role. At the end of the day we are all people.

Intent is key. It goes both ways from a fundamental standpoint.

However, for the original poster- if the money wasn't there and she still is, that should tell you something. I can't say I like every person I meet and I would imagine the same for the flip of that. If a client chooses to see me, the money is a boundary and a creates a professional line. If he makes a choice knowing that, thats his decision, and up to me if I engage.

If someone pours their heart out and I'm upfront (yes I like you/ or NO I don't like you; like that) then he's making a calculated, informative decision with everything on the table if he attempts to book again. That doesn't make me an awful person if he calls to book, or if accept the appointment. The difference is, he KNOWS based on our conversation where he stands. Good or bad, along with limits.

If he's emotionally unstable, I wouldn't see him regardless if he liked me or not...

He's getting what he wants and the reverse is, I am too.

If both parties know where they stand; I don't see an issue.

Just because you are NOT "romantically" interested outside that parameter (client/SP) doesn't mean you can't enjoy each other, or fuck each others brains out.... during your time together and have fun. Money usually sets that boundary.

I will say though, most men wont "express" their feelings in terms of this in fear of the SP cutting them off (rejection) and it goes without being said, which creates unneccessary drama and confusion. If he isn't upfront, the premise of your post is we are suppose to assume they are in love with us or romantically interested without prior indication? I assume most engage with someone like me for the no-strings...

I have clients/ regulars who love their wives. They also love fucking me. Should I assume because they see me regularly that they are interested outside of our "arrangement"???? Or just assume he's there for the same reasons I am.

Don't fix what isn't broken.

...that was some insightful, intelligent shit.

Fuck, I love intelligent women....especially ones that look like you...LOL


Seriously...how is it that some 160IQ hottie isn't ruling the world? Because smart sexy women just fucking rock....

 

[alexmst]

I'm sure this has been covered once or many times; But what about dating a client?

Do you think he's just smarter than most, getting it for free...?

Or is it actually possible to meet someone who's genuine.

Just as in anything, it's situational and circumstance plays a role. At the end of the day we are all people.

Intent is key. It goes both ways from a fundamental standpoint.

However, for the original poster- if the money wasn't there and she still is, that should tell you something. I can't say I like every person I meet and I would imagine the same for the flip of that. If a client chooses to see me, the money is a boundary and a creates a professional line. If he makes a choice knowing that, thats his decision, and up to me if I engage.

If someone pours their heart out and I'm upfront (yes I like you/ or NO I don't like you; like that) then he's making a calculated, informative decision with everything on the table if he attempts to book again. That doesn't make me an awful person if he calls to book, or if accept the appointment. The difference is, he KNOWS based on our conversation where he stands. Good or bad, along with limits.

If he's emotionally unstable, I wouldn't see him regardless if he liked me or not...

He's getting what he wants and the reverse is, I am too.

If both parties know where they stand; I don't see an issue.

Just because you are NOT "romantically" interested outside that parameter (client/SP) doesn't mean you can't enjoy each other, or fuck each others brains out.... during your time together and have fun. Money usually sets that boundary.

I will say though, most men wont "express" their feelings in terms of this in fear of the SP cutting them off (rejection) and it goes without being said, which creates unneccessary drama and confusion. If he isn't upfront, the premise of your post is we are suppose to assume they are in love with us or romantically interested without prior indication? I assume most engage with someone like me for the no-strings...

I have clients/ regulars who love their wives. They also love fucking me. Should I assume because they see me regularly that they are interested outside of our "arrangement"???? Or just assume he's there for the same reasons I am.

Don't fix what isn't broken.

Well said! An excellent reply.