Would you reccomend marriage??

[bazokajoe]

Stay single,studies show it's cheaper to stay single.Fuck,the money you spend trying to win a women's heart is crazy.
The best situation would be find a FWB.You have your life and she has hers.When you 2 get horny then you can pretend to be BF & GF.

 

[rcw]

Forget the cost aspect and think of the fact that life is more than a romp in the sack. Find the right woman and you can have both. I have a Really Cool Wife, who over the many years we have been together has joined in with me so that we can have fun together. Admittedly she is a rare find. However I am willing to bet that more women want to dabble on the wild side than are willing to admit it.

 

[shakenbake]

Yes, absolutely.

The notion that you can replace a marriage with a lot of sex is wrong. The sex is replaceable but it's only a small part of what the marriage offers.

I should say I don't see that much difference between getting married and living with a girlfriend for years--I have some "unmarried" friends who in fact have lives identical to mine just without the piece of paper and that seems to work well too. Either way they've got that core relationship going which I think is pretty critical to a happy life.

This notion that the purpose of a marriage is to provide sex is just stupid, also stupid is the notion that if you have good sex in your marriage you wouldn't want it anywhere else. Both ideas are wrong, and basically miss the point.

Things that are irreplaceable:

-- Waking up in the middle of the night and having a conversation with someone who really understands what you're about

-- Coming home after a long day and sitting around relaxing with a person who knows you really well

-- All the family dramas that you think you hate but somehow wind up being such an interesting part of life

That just scratches the surface--you can't replace that stuff with SP's and you can't replace that stuff with random girlfriends unless they actually live with you and aren't much different than a wife.

Good Grief! For once, I agree with fuji!

 

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Good Grief! For once, I agree with fuji!

What happened to him, he sounds like a decent guy back then ...is this the same fuj!?

 

[Titalian]

Yes, absolutely.

The notion that you can replace a marriage with a lot of sex is wrong. The sex is replaceable but it's only a small part of what the marriage offers.

I should say I don't see that much difference between getting married and living with a girlfriend for years--I have some "unmarried" friends who in fact have lives identical to mine just without the piece of paper and that seems to work well too. Either way they've got that core relationship going which I think is pretty critical to a happy life.

This notion that the purpose of a marriage is to provide sex is just stupid, also stupid is the notion that if you have good sex in your marriage you wouldn't want it anywhere else. Both ideas are wrong, and basically miss the point.

Things that are irreplaceable:

-- Waking up in the middle of the night and having a conversation with someone who really understands what you're about

-- Coming home after a long day and sitting around relaxing with a person who knows you really well

-- All the family dramas that you think you hate but somehow wind up being such an interesting part of life

That just scratches the surface--you can't replace that stuff with SP's and you can't replace that stuff with random girlfriends unless they actually live with you and aren't much different than a wife.

I agree with everything you've said so ELINQUENTLY. My question is, why then being married. have you pursue'd providers ??

 

[Ridgeman08]

I agree with everything you've said so ELINQUENTLY. My question is, why then being married. have you pursue'd providers ??

Fuji is an enigma wrapped in a riddle... or is that a riddle, wrapped in an enigma?

Either way, he's our resident hypocrite...

 

[scdave2003]

I voted yes, but not to my wife. Our relationship has soured over 40 years, she became her mother and I became my father. Oil and water don't mix. But the grandchildren are a joy.

 

[celerystick]

I agree with everything you've said so ELINQUENTLY. My question is, why then being married. have you pursue'd providers ??

Simple .. variety is the spice of life !
Anyway, anthropologically many (most?) mammals aren't wired to be monogamous (Sex at Dawn, etc), just because you love / like one person doesn't mean you can't like others .. these rules were just invented by religions to control us ...

 

[Titalian]

Fuji is an enigma wrapped in a riddle... or is that a riddle, wrapped in an enigma?

Either way, he's our resident hypocrite...

Simple .. variety is the spice of life !
Anyway, anthropologically many (most?) mammals aren't wired to be monogamous (Sex at Dawn, etc), just because you love / like one person doesn't mean you can't like others .. these rules were just invented by religions to control us ...

I agree with you CS yours is a true answer and I also agree with RM. My question was directed at him, Mr. sacred know it all, which btw he has yet to answer.

 

[basketcase]

Celerystick, wow resurrecting a thread five years, a month and five days latter, that must be a TERB record!

I wonder of the OP can give us an update?

 

[Titalian]

Celerystick, wow resurrecting a thread five years, a month and five days latter, that must be a TERB record!

I wonder of the OP can give us an update?

No matter what you conceive of why CS resurrected this thread, I believe its an important !!! subject on a forum such as this.

 

[train]

I agree with everything you've said so ELINQUENTLY. My question is, why then being married. have you pursue'd providers ??

There can a variety of reasons. When late wife had her cancer operation it rendered some of her "plumbing" off limits. After 1 year I went to my first GTA MP. After 2 years I saw my first sp when I traveled on business.

I miss my wife and the years we were married. And , yes, I did feel guilty.

 

[basketcase]

No matter what you conceive of why CS resurrected this thread, I believe its an important !!! subject on a forum such as this.

Of course it is. That's why I commented on it years ago. I was just hoping the OP would update us on how his choices have done.

 

[Titalian]

I've been wanting to pursue a relationship for about a year and went on a rampage to find someone.ive been in one for 14 months, and discovered she was a controlling bitch. Got into another one for 3 months and discovered she was a gold digger. Got into another one for 1 month and she was an emotional psycho. After a few more months of fucking around I thought I wanted to overcome the loneliness with companionship but realized I was feeding the hole. I came upon this thread and read every post and realized how lucky I am to be free. To not have to report to anyone. To be free to do whatever I wanted. The only times I go see a sp or mp is when I'm horny. And it is fucking amazing to be able to see whoever I want. It's fast food at its best. This thread convinced me being single is an advantage for me. So fuck looking for a relationship. I love myself enough that I can keep myself happy pretty darn well enough.

You have to be able to detect what's real or not, do I have the answer, no I don't. But I do base my beliefs with my parents who stayed true to themselves, till the very end.
To tell you the truth I still don't understand. If I were to blame anything, it would be mass communication, ie cell phones and internet which did not exist in their time.

 

[chongqing]

It's so true. Technology, particularly social media has fucked relationships and dating up. People have no attention span, patience or perseverance anymore. People want instant gratification and are not willing to invest the time it takes to build a great relationship
Better to go to a country (if it even exists anymore) where there is no internet or smartphones to meet a country girl that hasn't been corrupted yet - North Korea? Lol
Too much attention whoring now thanks social media and smartphones
Peace out

 

[thirdcup]

I've been wanting to pursue a relationship for about a year and went on a rampage to find someone.ive been in one for 14 months, and discovered she was a controlling bitch. Got into another one for 3 months and discovered she was a gold digger. Got into another one for 1 month and she was an emotional psycho.

When I was 14, all I wanted was a girl with large breasts.
When I was 16, I dated a girl with large breasts, but there was no passion, so I decided I needed a passionate girl with a zest for life. In college, I dated a passionate girl, but she was too emotional. Everything was an emergency. She was a drama queen, cried all the time and threatened suicide, so I decided I needed a girl with some stability. When I was 25, I found a very stable girl, but she was boring. She was totally predictable and never got excited about anything. Life became so dull that I decided I needed a girl with some excitement. At 28, I found an exciting girl, but I couldn't keep up with her. She rushed from one thing to another, never settling on anything. She did mad, impetuous things and flirted with everyone she met. She made me miserable as often as happy. She was great fun initially and very energetic, but directionless, so I decided to find a girl with some ambition. When I turned 31, I found a smart, ambitious girl with her feet planted firmly on the ground and married her. She was so ambitious that she divorced me and took everything I owned. Now I am 40, and all I want is a girl with big tits.

 

[Titalian]

When I was 14, all I wanted was a girl with large breasts.

You kill me, I luv your posts !!

 

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When I was 14, all I wanted was a girl with large breasts.
When I was 16, I dated a girl with large breasts, but there was no passion, so I decided I needed a passionate girl with a zest for life. In college, I dated a passionate girl, but she was too emotional. Everything was an emergency. She was a drama queen, cried all the time and threatened suicide, so I decided I needed a girl with some stability. When I was 25, I found a very stable girl, but she was boring. She was totally predictable and never got excited about anything. Life became so dull that I decided I needed a girl with some excitement. At 28, I found an exciting girl, but I couldn't keep up with her. She rushed from one thing to another, never settling on anything. She did mad, impetuous things and flirted with everyone she met. She made me miserable as often as happy. She was great fun initially and very energetic, but directionless, so I decided to find a girl with some ambition. When I turned 31, I found a smart, ambitious girl with her feet planted firmly on the ground and married her. She was so ambitious that she divorced me and took everything I owned. Now I am 40, and all I want is a girl with big tits.

There is depth and substance here :thumb:

 

[thirdcup]

When I was 14, all I wanted was a girl with large breasts.

You kill me, I luv your posts !!

There is depth and substance here :thumb:

Thank you for the compliment. I try to put some thought into what I submit, whether serious or light. I want my posts to add value, not waste people's time, and mostly not make myself look like a goof. Even though we all hide behind screen names, I still want to keep my self respect.

 

[wilbur]

Wanting to find lifetime love, bliss and romance is a great ideal. But with divorce rates in Ontario of 50%, resulting in the guy typically getting wiped out financially, often for good, and otherwise getting vilified by Ontario courts, is this now a wise choice?

People's personalities often to change with time. The nice and innocent person you marry now may turn out to be a dragon a decade or two later.

The ultimate relationship is where all of the attributes of the ultimate spouse come together: your best friend, lover, confidante, companion, sexual partner, mother of your kids.

But if committing to the one you think you want to marry places you in a 50% chance of permanent financial enslavement sometime in the future, is it worth taking the risk? Maybe it's the risk you have to take for wanting kids?

Otherwise, can you get fulfillment by having different individuals playing out the separate parts: a confidante with no sex, a regular SP and a person you hang around with? Is any companion going to take you seriously if you don't make a pass at her?