Your GF's initial reaction to your anal advance.
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Has it ever ocured to you that all you need do is go for it.........You either get in or told no.
While grabbing a long english cucumber in one hand... she would have yelled "How would you like it if I shoved this thing up your ass?" 
You say that like it is bad thingcalloway said:While grabbing a long english cucumber in one hand... she would have yelled "How would you like it if I shoved this thing up your ass?"
No Homo
To be blunt about it (no pun intended...well, ok, yeah, a pun was intended lol) she brought it up to me and said she'd like to try it......
Who was I to say no?
Who was I to say no?
How did your GF first react to your anal advance...
"Quit trying to stick your finger up my ass, you obsessed retard."
Seriously. Obsession and desperation are incredible turn-offs. The guys who get anal sex don't come off as guys who will creep off into a closet somewhere and, sniveling softly, jerk off into their treasured Star Wars flannel sheets if they don't get it.
Do you get it, finally? It's not the anal sex that's creepy and gross, it's you.
I know I'm being really blunt here, but if you truly want to get where you want to go, you have to understand what the problem is. Otherwise, the only thing going up anybody's ass is the smoke getting blown up yours. Four out of six of your poll options have the word "persisted" in them...and persist in this context comes off as 'obsession and 'desperation'. Yuck.
"Quit trying to stick your finger up my ass, you obsessed retard."
Seriously. Obsession and desperation are incredible turn-offs. The guys who get anal sex don't come off as guys who will creep off into a closet somewhere and, sniveling softly, jerk off into their treasured Star Wars flannel sheets if they don't get it.
Do you get it, finally? It's not the anal sex that's creepy and gross, it's you.
I know I'm being really blunt here, but if you truly want to get where you want to go, you have to understand what the problem is. Otherwise, the only thing going up anybody's ass is the smoke getting blown up yours. Four out of six of your poll options have the word "persisted" in them...and persist in this context comes off as 'obsession and 'desperation'. Yuck.
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Well VFF, that WAS pretty blunt but I don't know if you realize this: But 99.9% of civilian women, when asked just about any question not involving diamonds, first answer out of their mouth is NO. So, if we guys took that as a positively No way no HOW, not on your life, about ANY question, hell, there'd only be about 6 ppl on earth, 5 of which would be female, and the only male would be off by himself whacking off because they all say no, whenever he tries to mate.
Sorry, read any dating or relationship book and if is written in STONE that women "should play hard to get".....and that doesn't stop after you're involved with them.
Here's some typical questions:
Hi, my name's Tboy, wanna dance? NO
Ok, a dance is out of the question, so how about a blow job? NO
Can I buy you a drink? NO.
In a marriage:
Honey, Homo Depot has a DeWalt 36 volt 5 pack on sale, can I buy it?
How much does it cost?
$700.00...
NO
Honey, can we fool around tonight? No, I'm going to the gyno tomorrow....
Honey, about anal? No, I'm going to the proctologist tomorrow.
Are you seeing the dentist tomorrow too? No,
Great, get to work !!!!
Honey, We need a new Plasma TV for the den, NO
Honey, I was thinking of buying a new corvette, NO
Honey, I'm going out to shoot some pool with the guys friday, NO
Honey, have you seen the remote, NO
Honey, did you wash my favourite Leaf jersey, NO
Honey, want to watch some porno while we have sex, NO
Honey, let's do it with the lights on, NO
In my experience anyways the immediate answer to any question that doesn't involve buying them something or involve shopping is NO.
Just so you kNOw (lol) I haven't bothered to ask any woman out in over, hmm 5 yrs? because I got tired of hearing NO everytime. So, some would call that quitting, but according to you, I'm not desparate or creepy....
ANother example: Every long term relationship I ever had (other than the very first when I was 18) began with 6 months of her saying no, no, non, jes nes se pas, but after they finally relented and said yes, they all lasted 5 yrs or more....So, from my perspective anyways, NOne of these relationships ever would have happened if I had listened to her "no's"....
Sorry, read any dating or relationship book and if is written in STONE that women "should play hard to get".....and that doesn't stop after you're involved with them.
Here's some typical questions:
Hi, my name's Tboy, wanna dance? NO
Ok, a dance is out of the question, so how about a blow job? NO
Can I buy you a drink? NO.
In a marriage:
Honey, Homo Depot has a DeWalt 36 volt 5 pack on sale, can I buy it?
How much does it cost?
$700.00...
NO
Honey, can we fool around tonight? No, I'm going to the gyno tomorrow....
Honey, about anal? No, I'm going to the proctologist tomorrow.
Are you seeing the dentist tomorrow too? No,
Great, get to work !!!!
Honey, We need a new Plasma TV for the den, NO
Honey, I was thinking of buying a new corvette, NO
Honey, I'm going out to shoot some pool with the guys friday, NO
Honey, have you seen the remote, NO
Honey, did you wash my favourite Leaf jersey, NO
Honey, want to watch some porno while we have sex, NO
Honey, let's do it with the lights on, NO
In my experience anyways the immediate answer to any question that doesn't involve buying them something or involve shopping is NO.
Just so you kNOw (lol) I haven't bothered to ask any woman out in over, hmm 5 yrs? because I got tired of hearing NO everytime. So, some would call that quitting, but according to you, I'm not desparate or creepy....
ANother example: Every long term relationship I ever had (other than the very first when I was 18) began with 6 months of her saying no, no, non, jes nes se pas, but after they finally relented and said yes, they all lasted 5 yrs or more....So, from my perspective anyways, NOne of these relationships ever would have happened if I had listened to her "no's"....
Huh. I'm sorry there seem to be so many women out there sticking to some arbitrary "Just Say No" playbook. That's equally creepy and desperate in my book...way to go, ladies. Why can't people just be upfront right away? State what turns you on, and the other person is either on the bus or off. That's exactly how I met my last partner in kink...first conversation we had, they did exactly that, and I got on the bus.
All I know is that pushy skeezes me out unless it's done so artfully and upfront it's charming. Unfortunately Greekster's got zero game in that department at this point, so until he does, any kind of pushy is out.
All I know is that pushy skeezes me out unless it's done so artfully and upfront it's charming. Unfortunately Greekster's got zero game in that department at this point, so until he does, any kind of pushy is out.
You should add a category
"She said no and when you eventually break up, she says that your desire to penetrate her anally made you a sexual deviant in her eyes"
When I first met my last ex, one of the first times we were in the sack, I was toying with the backdoor (not inside, just around the door) with my finger resulting in her writhing around the bed in pleasure and SHE brought up anal basically saying that it was on the menu for the future.
Fantastic I thought. I let it go at that.
A little while later while suggesting we par-take in her previous suggestion (that I had not forgot) that time, she put it off saying "another time." I let it go.
Then it was (and I will never forget this), "I will need to be drunk." Clearly, she wasn't drunk at the time she said that and, therefore, it was off the menu for that evening. (Actually, I never saw her even close to drunk.)
Then it was - "I told you that I did it before and I really didn't like it." I said, "Huh?, a few months ago you were all for it." "I never said that", she replied. I let it go with a frown.
After we broke up, it was, "You wanted anal and I told you I didn't want to do it and you kept pressuring me. You have no consideration for me."
I got an email where she said something to the effect of, "Your sexual repetoir is far greater than mine - anal, BDSM, and I am afraid that if I didn't give into your demands that it would escalate and you would look elsewhere."
Sure fire sign that you are dealing with a woman who has issues when her recollection of the events that transpired in your relationship slowly change over time and eventually differ completely from what she originally did or said.
"She said no and when you eventually break up, she says that your desire to penetrate her anally made you a sexual deviant in her eyes"
When I first met my last ex, one of the first times we were in the sack, I was toying with the backdoor (not inside, just around the door) with my finger resulting in her writhing around the bed in pleasure and SHE brought up anal basically saying that it was on the menu for the future.
Fantastic I thought. I let it go at that.
A little while later while suggesting we par-take in her previous suggestion (that I had not forgot) that time, she put it off saying "another time." I let it go.
Then it was (and I will never forget this), "I will need to be drunk." Clearly, she wasn't drunk at the time she said that and, therefore, it was off the menu for that evening. (Actually, I never saw her even close to drunk.)
Then it was - "I told you that I did it before and I really didn't like it." I said, "Huh?, a few months ago you were all for it." "I never said that", she replied. I let it go with a frown.
After we broke up, it was, "You wanted anal and I told you I didn't want to do it and you kept pressuring me. You have no consideration for me."
I got an email where she said something to the effect of, "Your sexual repetoir is far greater than mine - anal, BDSM, and I am afraid that if I didn't give into your demands that it would escalate and you would look elsewhere."
Sure fire sign that you are dealing with a woman who has issues when her recollection of the events that transpired in your relationship slowly change over time and eventually differ completely from what she originally did or said.
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LOL James, your last paragraph is a hoot, seriously lol. Didn't you know? EVERY woman's recollection of any conversation or event will be different than what actually was said or transpired. See, women count on us not remembering so that way, whatever they "remember" will be what actually transpired and because we weren't paying so much attention, we can't argue her point.
See, in one of my past relationships I used to keep notes. Then whenever we argued again, I would refer back to the notes. I caught her in a "fib" on many occasions. That's probably one of the reasons she dumped me because she couldn't manipulate me.....
See, in one of my past relationships I used to keep notes. Then whenever we argued again, I would refer back to the notes. I caught her in a "fib" on many occasions. That's probably one of the reasons she dumped me because she couldn't manipulate me.....
Or maybe because, as she probably tells the story now, "I couldn't believe the guy! He was so *anal he actually took notes during our arguments!"tboy said:
Not saying she was any prize, but still, any guy relating a similar story here about an ex-girlfriend keeping a written dossier on their arguments would be told he should have dumped her the moment the notebook came out
It seems to me you either have the worst luck ever with women or are subconsciously picking the same kind of woman over and over. Either way, I hope you have better times with the ladies in the future.
Maybe it's generational or locality thing...maybe we're just more relaxed about sex and relationship stuff on the West Coast?
*sorry...couldn't resist.
Hey Greekster, my GF's reaction when I first asked about anal was "no way!". But dude, YOUR gf's reaction when I first asked her about anal was "okay!" She was great; go buy her something frilly.
