If she was a nice person she wouldn't text the man she dumped, asking for a handout. It's so disrespectful.
Maybe she texted the same message to multiple ex-boyfriends to save time LOL.
Ex girlfriend is hitting me up for money
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so you probably quit reading this thread before I did, but going back to the source. She broke up with you,but there is prospect of more pussy? If that be the case, and you think she is worth saving on that basis, for a length of time to the tune of $2000, but you suspect you are being used. Use back. If she can't pay you back financially, then take it out of her ass. Neither of you are kidding each other, so maybe it will help both of you to accept the reality of using and being used. with a clear conscience.So my girlfriend broke up with me right before Christmas (after we had gotten back together), saying I don’t treat her right, was abandoning her over Xmas, etc. I just stop talking to her and leave it be.
Then last night she sends me a text at 10pm saying she is in desperate need of financial assistance, and requires $2000 to pay for tuition at the end of the month, and I am the only person she can ask as she has no family here (she is on a temporary visa in Canada).
It should be obvious for me what to do, but the prospect of pussy seems to cause my brain to stop working. Help me out TERBites, how should I handle this situation?
Solomon has spoken.
WE haven't established anything. Isn't it obvious if the OP cannot afford to part with the money, this entire thread becomes moot? Might as well have a thread "Hey I'm going to win the lottery so give me advice on how to spend it". He can either afford to give it away or can afford to go without it for a while as it's loaned out. Now, I'm not sure where you are getting that the cost of suing costs more than the loan. Do you know what small claims court is? It's not very costly fee-wise. The only thing it costs is time so a day's wages. Plus I think there's the possibility that the loser covers the winner's costs. So now if the OP earned $2000/day, pretty sure again, this conversation is a waste of time since he can clearly afford to give away the $2k. I know a guy who sued his roommate for 1 month's rent, $1200, because he didn't give proper notice when vacating.We already established that if the OP cannot afford to part with the money then it should not be given. We also established that if he chooses to proceed he should not expect anything back (sex, friendship, relationship, etc.) and it would be a gift at that point. You've just repeated what other people have said. He could treat it as a loan and write up a promissory note. On the other hand, he's already said that repayment is unlikely. So his only options at that point would be to do nothing or sue the ex. We agree that suing would likely cost more in terms of time and money than the initial loan.
So you admit to sending threads off-topic now? Interesting, because there are many examples of you criticizing others that do it. It's also interesting that some of those threads including one started by you have been deleted.
If you don't like my garbage or BS, etc. maybe you should hit ignore so you don't have to see them. Until then: :bounce:
At any rate, this is getting very cut and paste. So see you!
Where have I ever denied hijacking threads? I do it whenever - it's not deliberate but I see no point in creating thousands of threads when a point in one thread can lead to a different discussion. So if someone makes a point in one thread that is off-topic, I'm more than happy to jump into a discussion about it.
As far as deletion, that's on the Mods and others. Granted I may be part ofthe problem, whether it be hijacking a thread or engaging in a heated discussion. But I'm never the one who starts any argument with rude remarks, sarcasm, jabs, etc. Pretty much every thread that goes into the toilet is due to people such as yourself that pass judgement and make negative comments but try and pass it off as "polite disagreement". So I suggest looking in the mirror and realizing you are part of the problem. You are the one who decided to get argumentative in this thread, not me. You could easily have said "I don't think this is relevant" or "How is this relevant". By adding the "As usual line" you basically took it into a different direction.
Now, to get back to the thread, given that the ex in this case clearly doesn't understand how a simple relationship works (don't as exes where you had a bad breakup for money) isn't a wise approach, it's a combo of ballsy, gall, and a bit pathetic. I don't know what the answer would be if she was still in a supposedly healthy relationship with the OP and asked for the money but now that they are broken up, it's foolish.
Because White Canadian women don't look at White men as ATMs...I think she’s expecting it as a gift... She says she is “In urgent need of financial assistance” and requires $2000. Even if it is a loan, I have a hard time picturing her being able to ever pay it back (this is a woman who sends money back home to support her parents and son). I get the feeling that I am being looked at as an ATM (she’s a black carribean woman, I’m as white as the driven snow).
Thanks for the replies, I just need to hear some common sense.
Didn't Solomon say to cut a kid in half? So what would his advice be here? $1000 for half an ass?so you probably quit reading this thread before I did, but going back to the source. She broke up with you,but there is prospect of more pussy? If that be the case, and you think she is worth saving on that basis, for a length of time to the tune of $2000, but you suspect you are being used. Use back. If she can't pay you back financially, then take it out of her ass. Neither of you are kidding each other, so maybe it will help both of you to accept the reality of using and being used. with a clear conscience.
Solomon has spoken.
I think the prospect of pussy seems to be either giving her the money in exchange for sex or using the money as an in to get on her good side and woe her into more sex.
I'm sure there's a segment of women from every race that thinks of men as ATM's. There is no exclusivity in that club. That said, there's also a segment from every race that would never ask.Because White Canadian women don't look at White men as ATMs...
O.P. mentioned that she is not. See # 14assuming she is here from china? Her family back home must be loaded
White Canadian women are just as likely to use you for your money. Her being a Black Caribbean (two b's, not two r's) woman, and you being White, have nothing to with her possible motive or character.I'm sure there's a segment of women from every race that thinks of men as ATM's. There is no exclusivity in that club. That said, there's also a segment from every race that would never ask.
I think your original statement was sarcastic, right? Sorry - hard to capture sarcasm in written form without a clear indicator.White Canadian women are just as likely to use you for your money. Her being a Black Caribbean (two b's, not two r's) and you being White have nothing to with her possible motive or character.
That's what I said. It's common sense. But I guess because I said it and not someone else, it must be a stupid idea...lolJust lend her the money and write a contract with interest if the money isn't paid back after a certain time.
You can download templates online.
If she doesn't pay then take her to small claims court.
I didn't say that you denied hijacking threads. You do it often yet criticize others for doing the same. Guess that means it's ok for Sempel to add irrelevant information and hijack, but not ok when others do it. What is wrong with being argumentative, making rude or sarcastic remarks, jabs, or judgmental or negative comments? Everything is fare game until the mods choose to take action. If don't like seeing such comments then put me on ignore. That's your standard line.WE haven't established anything. Isn't it obvious if the OP cannot afford to part with the money, this entire thread becomes moot? Might as well have a thread "Hey I'm going to win the lottery so give me advice on how to spend it". He can either afford to give it away or can afford to go without it for a while as it's loaned out. Now, I'm not sure where you are getting that the cost of suing costs more than the loan. Do you know what small claims court is? It's not very costly fee-wise. The only thing it costs is time so a day's wages. Plus I think there's the possibility that the loser covers the winner's costs. So now if the OP earned $2000/day, pretty sure again, this conversation is a waste of time since he can clearly afford to give away the $2k. I know a guy who sued his roommate for 1 month's rent, $1200, because he didn't give proper notice when vacating.
Where have I ever denied hijacking threads? I do it whenever - it's not deliberate but I see no point in creating thousands of threads when a point in one thread can lead to a different discussion. So if someone makes a point in one thread that is off-topic, I'm more than happy to jump into a discussion about it.
As far as deletion, that's on the Mods and others. Granted I may be part ofthe problem, whether it be hijacking a thread or engaging in a heated discussion. But I'm never the one who starts any argument with rude remarks, sarcasm, jabs, etc. Pretty much every thread that goes into the toilet is due to people such as yourself that pass judgement and make negative comments but try and pass it off as "polite disagreement". So I suggest looking in the mirror and realizing you are part of the problem. You are the one who decided to get argumentative in this thread, not me. You could easily have said "I don't think this is relevant" or "How is this relevant". By adding the "As usual line" you basically took it into a different direction.
Now, to get back to the thread, given that the ex in this case clearly doesn't understand how a simple relationship works (don't as exes where you had a bad breakup for money) isn't a wise approach, it's a combo of ballsy, gall, and a bit pathetic. I don't know what the answer would be if she was still
in a supposedly healthy relationship with the OP and asked for the money but now that they are broken up, it's foolish.
I guess the troll doesn't like getting trolled. Apparently, the ignore feature is not working for you. :bounce:
I agree with your last point even though many people here already made it. Thanks for coming out.
No it's not stupid, but there are some things to consider:That's what I said. It's common sense. But I guess because I said it and not someone else, it must be a stupid idea...lolJust lend her the money and write a contract with interest if the money isn't paid back after a certain time.
You can download templates online.
If she doesn't pay then take her to small claims court.
Get it witnessed (at least two witnesses). Unfortunately in Canada Notarization is an expensive process otherwise I'd recommend that.
Even if you go to small claims court the process may drag on for years and you may never see the money.
She may flee Canada
Bottom line as I've already posted if you can't afford to loose the money, don't loan or give her the money.
Okay, technically if I wanted to I could afford to give her $2000 in the sense that I have that in savings, but I am just a slightly above average wage-cuck who toils with his hands by the hour to make $.
UPDATE: I talked to her, and She wants to get back together, claims that she didn’t actually “break up” with me, and that I was just using that as an excuse to get out of the relationship. She is now throwing the pussy at me again, trying to get back togethet for a 3rd or 4th time. Is this typical behaviour for toxic women? I’m sure the answer is yes.
UPDATE: I talked to her, and She wants to get back together, claims that she didn’t actually “break up” with me, and that I was just using that as an excuse to get out of the relationship. She is now throwing the pussy at me again, trying to get back togethet for a 3rd or 4th time. Is this typical behaviour for toxic women? I’m sure the answer is yes.
you know the action. She is using you. MOVE ON!
Okay, technically if I wanted to I could afford to give her $2000 in the sense that I have that in savings, but I am just a slightly above average wage-cuck who toils with his hands by the hour to make $.
UPDATE: I talked to her, and She wants to get back together, claims that she didn’t actually “break up” with me, and that I was just using that as an excuse to get out of the relationship. She is now throwing the pussy at me again, trying to get back togethet for a 3rd or 4th time. Is this typical behaviour for toxic women? I’m sure the answer is yes.
The real question is, is she missing you or your pocketbook?Okay, technically if I wanted to I could afford to give her $2000 in the sense that I have that in savings, but I am just a slightly above average wage-cuck who toils with his hands by the hour to make $.
UPDATE: I talked to her, and She wants to get back together, claims that she didn’t actually “break up” with me, and that I was just using that as an excuse to get out of the relationship. She is now throwing the pussy at me again, trying to get back togethet for a 3rd or 4th time. Is this typical behaviour for toxic women? I’m sure the answer is yes.
You best brace yourself because she spoke to some lady friends and came up with a plan that will not make it so easy next time for you to be rid of her.
She could get pregnant to try to trap you, panty water in your food to make you madly in love with her that you simply cannot fathom leaving her etc.
Your decision really.Nooneelse can say for sure.
BTW the panty water, pussy juice etc in your food is something real in spiritual affairs like voodoo that women actually do.
nope. more like tampons, or asswipesBecause White Canadian women don't look at White men as ATMs...
the answer is yes. any more questions? give her your savings. then when she has spent that, see what other plan she has for you.Okay, technically if I wanted to I could afford to give her $2000 in the sense that I have that in savings, but I am just a slightly above average wage-cuck who toils with his hands by the hour to make $.
UPDATE: I talked to her, and She wants to get back together, claims that she didn’t actually “break up” with me, and that I was just using that as an excuse to get out of the relationship. She is now throwing the pussy at me again, trying to get back togethet for a 3rd or 4th time. Is this typical behaviour for toxic women? I’m sure the answer is yes.
No you can't afford to give it to her. Not for your sanity anyway.Okay, technically if I wanted to I could afford to give her $2000 in the sense that I have that in savings, but I am just a slightly above average wage-cuck who toils with his hands by the hour to make $.
UPDATE: I talked to her, and She wants to get back together, claims that she didn’t actually “break up” with me, and that I was just using that as an excuse to get out of the relationship. She is now throwing the pussy at me again, trying to get back togethet for a 3rd or 4th time. Is this typical behaviour for toxic women? I’m sure the answer is yes.
Remember the word vampire in this. She keeps rising from the dead to suck more out of you.
This will be my final say. If you do This, then quite simply you are acting stupidly. Allowing your feelings and hormones to get in the way of logic and common sense.
In other words like a child or a teenager. That's what they do. Not adults.
Good luck.
