I am writing this as a cautionary tale to others. I don't want people to over react, but I'm sure some will and others will call me a liar and tell me this is a useless thread unless I name names. I will ignore those individuals because I think it is worthwhile to remind each other of the risks from time to time. I was aware of those risks, but (like most of us I assume) had convinced myself it would not happen to me.
I have visited MP's and escort agencies over the years and tried to limit my risks to some extent. I rarely engaged in DATY, never received PS's and certainly never even considered engaging in BBFS or anything that would be considered "risky" by most hobbiests. However, I certainly received countless BBBJ's over the years and often enjoyed BBBJ only sessions.
I have been a long time hobbiest and have contributed many reviews to the board over the years under a different handle. I created a new handle for this post to avoid the inevitable speculation this type of post would generate if I posted under my regular handle. The reality is that I had been pretty active in the hobby lately and don't know exactly where I got genital herpes from, but I have only hobbied at well-known "high end" spas in Toronto and used a handful of equally well-known and reputable agencies at in-call locations in downtown Toronto, Markham and by the airport. I have only received BBBJ's within the last month or so (no CFS) and could probably narrow down the lady who gave it to me to 2 or 3 guesses, but I don't think it's fair to guess. There's no point in others trying to figure out my regular handle and looking at recent reviews, because I did not even get around to posting reviews about 2 of the ladies who I think are the most likely candidates to have given this to me.
I have done a fair bit of research and reading about Herpes the last couple of weeks and, while educating myself has helped me start to deal with this, the reality is that it is still pretty devastating emotionally and will likely ruin my marriage and perhaps my entire life (at least it feels that way now). While the stigma is probably worse than the virus itself, the reality is that I will likely never again experience the pleasure of condom free sex (or maybe any sex at all) in my personal life and I would definitely trade all the BBBJ's I received over the years for that if I could do it over again. We all make choices and I will have to learn to live with the consequences of mine, but I urge you guys to at least consider whether BBBJ's are worthwhile for you.
If you can accept the risk (which I believe is still somewhat small) then go out there and enjoy yourselves. I assure you that I am now fully retired and won't risk spreading this any further, but I have to imagine that there are both sex workers and customers who continue to participate in this hobby and provide or receive some uncovered services despite knowing that they are infected. Even if they only engage in "safe" services, the risk of transmission is still there, both during outbreaks and during periods of latency. I feel pretty alone at the moment, but I know this has happened to others and will continue to happen in the future, including to some who will get infected and never even know it, but may still pass it on to others in their personal lives. I suppose there are worse things that could happen in life, but at this point this feels like the worst given that it is permanent and incurable.
I certainly can't slam a hobby that I enjoyed so much over the years, but be safe guys, make sure you understand the risks and think about whether those are risks you are willing to take given your situation.
I have visited MP's and escort agencies over the years and tried to limit my risks to some extent. I rarely engaged in DATY, never received PS's and certainly never even considered engaging in BBFS or anything that would be considered "risky" by most hobbiests. However, I certainly received countless BBBJ's over the years and often enjoyed BBBJ only sessions.
I have been a long time hobbiest and have contributed many reviews to the board over the years under a different handle. I created a new handle for this post to avoid the inevitable speculation this type of post would generate if I posted under my regular handle. The reality is that I had been pretty active in the hobby lately and don't know exactly where I got genital herpes from, but I have only hobbied at well-known "high end" spas in Toronto and used a handful of equally well-known and reputable agencies at in-call locations in downtown Toronto, Markham and by the airport. I have only received BBBJ's within the last month or so (no CFS) and could probably narrow down the lady who gave it to me to 2 or 3 guesses, but I don't think it's fair to guess. There's no point in others trying to figure out my regular handle and looking at recent reviews, because I did not even get around to posting reviews about 2 of the ladies who I think are the most likely candidates to have given this to me.
I have done a fair bit of research and reading about Herpes the last couple of weeks and, while educating myself has helped me start to deal with this, the reality is that it is still pretty devastating emotionally and will likely ruin my marriage and perhaps my entire life (at least it feels that way now). While the stigma is probably worse than the virus itself, the reality is that I will likely never again experience the pleasure of condom free sex (or maybe any sex at all) in my personal life and I would definitely trade all the BBBJ's I received over the years for that if I could do it over again. We all make choices and I will have to learn to live with the consequences of mine, but I urge you guys to at least consider whether BBBJ's are worthwhile for you.
If you can accept the risk (which I believe is still somewhat small) then go out there and enjoy yourselves. I assure you that I am now fully retired and won't risk spreading this any further, but I have to imagine that there are both sex workers and customers who continue to participate in this hobby and provide or receive some uncovered services despite knowing that they are infected. Even if they only engage in "safe" services, the risk of transmission is still there, both during outbreaks and during periods of latency. I feel pretty alone at the moment, but I know this has happened to others and will continue to happen in the future, including to some who will get infected and never even know it, but may still pass it on to others in their personal lives. I suppose there are worse things that could happen in life, but at this point this feels like the worst given that it is permanent and incurable.
I certainly can't slam a hobby that I enjoyed so much over the years, but be safe guys, make sure you understand the risks and think about whether those are risks you are willing to take given your situation.
