No black gentlemen adds

[CuddleBuddy2]

You should really read the few posts above yours because I'm using this exact example as to why it's not racism.

Escorts will do this to any demographic they feel has caused them a problem. Age, race, size - whatever.

Stop dismissing other providers life experience in exchange for your blanket conclusions that temporarily let you sleep better at night. It's pathetic.

Keep conflating the issue bro. Your prejudice is showing

I can't think of any logical reason for a SW to not see a client of a particular race other than the exception mentioned by Amber.

However I have a theory that it's probably the insecure "boyfriend" who doesn't want her to see Black Men cause he heard that " Once you go black, you can't go back"

 

[ArgoHater]

However I have a theory that it's probably the insecure "boyfriend" who doesn't want her to see Black Men cause he heard that " Once you go black, you can't go back"

On a more serious note, it could also be their "manager", "booker", "protector", etc.
I'm saying without saying...

 

[MaverickPunter]

If SWs really want to be taken seriously by society and they really believe that sex work is real work then maybe they should treat it like one

What? That's incredibly dismissive & demeaning towards the women who put everything on the line to host us or visit us & treat us so nicely. Sex work is real work

So for all of my rambling, and to answer your question, it really depends on the provider.

Agree with Nesbot on this one. Let the providers decide boundaries & parameters

 

[owlcornbreadryebread]

Perhaps you missed the part where I said there was exceptions to this rule.

Outside of that exception, it is racism.
Not an extreme take at all, reality can be blunt and harsh and isn't sugar-coated at times. Every reason provided will come down to that. You can say it's reductive all you'd like, it's not. This is fact, this is clearly discussed amongst providers many, many times as well.

I welcome you to provide an example of a reason that doesn’t come down to perpetuating stereotypes if you disagree(outside of the exception).

Again, everyone is welcome to their preferences, that doesn't mean their preferences can't be called out.

Existence of exceptions only proves the rule

 

[charbed]

So what do you all think of providers who refuse to see men under the age of 35 (regardless of race)? You think they don't like men under 35 or more likely that they've had too many young guys be a problem?

To me, this is the exact same thing - It doesn't represent an actual hatred for black men but rather a statistical precaution. I think this is an important distinction because at the end of the day I don't believe these women inherently hate black men.

I'm actually going to concede on one thing - stereotypes. I don't think this is racism or descrimination, but I do think I should have mentioned in my earlier replies that ya, it's a level of stereotyping. But stereotypes exist for a reason.

At this point, I would think the mods should lock this thread. We've discussed what needs to be discussed and I believe the conversation will just keep going in circles from here on out. Whatever the hell you want to label it, it's not going to magically go away. We're just disagreeing on semantics now.

I agree to a point. It's the same in all business, they too can choose which customers to serve. There is no law that states you just serve everyone that pays. If I pay a SW does that give me the right to be abusive in any way? No.


That being said, this line of work is the only time it seems to be acceptable to deny service based on race. And that's not OK.

 

[MaverickPunter]

... this line of work is the only time it seems to be acceptable to deny service based on race. And that's not OK.

Seems to be ok in the civil service

Former public servant asked human rights commission to probe 'reverse discrimination'

A man who lost nine job competitions launched a human rights complaint, but the Canadian Human Rights Commission declined to pursue it.

ottawacitizen.com

 

[SIRLOKI]

I agree to a point. It's the same in all business, they too can choose which customers to serve. There is no law that states you just serve everyone that pays. If I pay a SW does that give me the right to be abusive in any way? No.


That being said, this line of work is the only time it seems to be acceptable to deny service based on race. And that's not OK.

It's not like they're selling you an ice cream cone they are providing a very intimate service and who they choose to share their body with is up to them

 

[CuddleBuddy2]

What? That's incredibly dismissive & demeaning towards the women who put everything on the line to host us or visit us & treat us so nicely. Sex work is real work.

Oh brother . My comment was directed towards SWs who have a race restriction NOT towards the vast majority of professional ladies who don't.
I'm pretty sure that the vast majority of reputable SWs who treat us nicely, don't have this silly race restriction. Neither do any of the reputable Spas.

 

[sx4play]

Does knowing the reason “Why?” really matter? Whether it be outright racism, discrimination or personal preference, what’s the point of calling them out for it? Simply put, if you’re offended by it, don’t go see them nor waste your time and effort worrying about something beyond your control. Plenty of other providers out there to choose from.
It’s actually preferable to know of these filters that providers have in advance rather than show up, hand over a few bills and then be met with no service and/or an awkward situation and having one’s time wasted.

 

[MaverickPunter]

My comment was directed towards SWs who have a race restriction NOT towards the vast majority of professional ladies who don't.

You made a dismissive remark about SPs in your earlier post. You made a sweeping generalization.

https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/no-black-gentlemen-adds.740833/post-8534688

If SWs really want to be taken seriously by society and they really believe that sex work is real work then maybe they should treat it like one.

 

[CuddleBuddy2]

You made a dismissive remark about SPs in your earlier post. You made a sweeping generalization.

Ok ok I should have been more clear. My bad. Sue me

 

[CuddleBuddy2]

It’s actually preferable to know of these filters that providers have in advance rather than show up, hand over a few bills and then be met with no service and/or an awkward situation and having one’s time wasted.

Although I don't condone the discrimination, I do appreciate their honesty.
Helps me narrow down my options. A lot of them are not good providers anyways, so that red flag helps me decide.

 

[MaverickPunter]

Although I don't condone the discrimination, I do appreciate their honesty.
Helps me narrow down my options. A lot of them are not good providers anyways, so that red flag helps me decide.

Please continue. Your fans want more reasoning & reflections ...

 

[TigerFlex5]

There's a lot that can be said on this topic, who always comeback from time to time...
Always a new guy who goes : " Hey, what's up with that "No Black" rule?"

One thing I always find funny is when I see "No Black Gent" and the provider adds a lame "Sorry"...
WTF are you sorry for?


Now:

Although I don't condone the discrimination, I do appreciate their honesty.

I agree that honesty is a very good thing, and when I see "No Black", I passed and I don't waste my time. And the story ends there.
Where there is a problem, it's when the provider says "Specify your ethnicity". If you have a problem with some, just say it and stop wasting everybody's time.

Also:

Helps me narrow down my options. A lot of them are not good providers anyways, so that red flag helps me decide.

Well, a lot of you guys believe that a "No Black" ads is automatically a scam. That is not always true. It does happen, but not always. There are some very reputable providers that have this "rule", some of them are very praised here on Terb, some work in our best spas. Of course, I don't go see them, but they are here. Some have some very lame excuses, but it is what it is.

 

[ArgoHater]

I have been seeing ads excluding other ethnicities too.
They are simply SPs that I will never contact. To me, that's as bright a red flag as BBFS.
Many moons ago, I picked up a gil at a bar, and on the way home, she said "Thank you for getting me away from that <redacted>". Even though she had her hand on my dick, I pulled over and kicked her out of my car.

 

[benover]

I have been seeing ads excluding other ethnicities too.
They are simply SPs that I will never contact. To me, that's as bright a red flag as BBFS.
Many moons ago, I picked up a gil at a bar, and on the way home, she said "Thank you for getting me away from that <redacted>". Even though she had her hand on my dick, I pulled over and kicked her out of my car.

You are a better man than me Argo Any lady holding my dick can say whatever she wants until my dick gets limp Then my big head gets to be the boss and then I would of kicked out

 

[Greybeard33]

I find it such a turn off when a ad says no black gents. I’m not black or anything or have anything against black people as my own daughter is mixed. But I just find it’s such a turn off when I see no black gents and I just skip over that person and don’t consider seeing them at all. Most of my bad experiences have been with woman whose ad says no black gents, any problem or scam that’s been pulled on me has been from those ads. Is anyone else like this as well?

 

[Jon Sith]

I find it such a turn off when a ad says no black gents. I’m not black or anything or have anything against black people as my own daughter is mixed. But I just find it’s such a turn off when I see no black gents and I just skip over that person and don’t consider seeing them at all. Most of my bad experiences have been with woman whose ad says no black gents, any problem or scam that’s been pulled on me has been from those ads. Is anyone else like this as well?

Nope because I actively avoid ads written like back in Jim Crow days lol

but to your point on scams, I think it goes either way because while I can’t speak on the “no Black” types, there’s some who are more open-minded in their ad, but the service wasn’t so great

 

[Cromwell69427]

Unless you’re in a service providers shoes you have no idea what it can be like for them. They have their reasons, many have told me what they are and I understand completely. Each person has the right to choose who they sleep with. I am not radish at all, and I’m not attracted to black chicks, so? It’s my choice. I don’t go see BBW as I am not attracted, again, my choice. Just because they provide this service doesn’t mean they owe any given race anything. Don’t quite understand how someone else’s personal preference would turn you off, it’s really none of your business. 90% of the women I see have “no black gents” I’ve never been ripped off by any of them. Your statement is nonsense. No different than saying “all black people steal” not all women who don’t want to have sex with a black dude are scammers. Give it a rest.

 

[Jon Sith]

Unless you’re in a service providers shoes you have no idea what it can be like for them. They have their reasons, many have told me what they are and I understand completely. Each person has the right to choose who they sleep with. I am not radish at all, and I’m not attracted to black chicks, so? It’s my choice. I don’t go see BBW as I am not attracted, again, my choice. Just because they provide this service doesn’t mean they owe any given race anything. Don’t quite understand how someone else’s personal preference would turn you off, it’s really none of your business. 90% of the women I see have “no black gents” I’ve never been ripped off by any of them. Your statement is nonsense. No different than saying “all black people steal” not all women who don’t want to have sex with a black dude are scammers. Give it a rest.

Yeah, I know we like to go down the dramatic route in the face of criticism, but let’s be honest here … if a SP has a bad experience with me, I’ll be blocked. Maybe doxed at worst. But I think we can all agree that there’s a 100% chance that we won’t see that same SP post an ad that says “no white, sorry”